DD slept in the RnP on my side of the bed so I could look over and see her chest rising and falling. Because of it's angle I didn't have to pop up to look at her, she was at eye level.
His bassinet is in our room, but even though he would sleep in the hospital cart bassinet, he was in that one for no more than 5 minutes before he was freaking out crying. He can't be in bed with us because of H's Cpap.
Do be aware though that it's so much more safe to sleep in your bed with the baby than in a chair/couch/recliner. Move the pillows and blankets away from the baby and keep the baby breast-level next to you, on the outside.
@astrid, you are absolutely more than capable of being a mother!
In this day & age of owner's manuals and directions for EVERY.SINGLE.THING we touch, it's a real shock when the most important thing we have comes with NOTHING. You've been given maternal instincts...trust them. And when you're still unsure, you've got a 24/7 mom hotline on MM Moms. @hannymaren is right, people have been doing this mom gig throughout our entire history, you can do it, too! A mom who immediately feels like she's got the mom thing under control is either 1) EXTREMELY rare, 2) lying to herself, or 3) only temporarily confident, and will panic at some point in the future.
"This, too, shall pass" got me through the first few months of parenthood with both boys. It gave me hope for brighter & easier days ahead. Already at 4 yrs and 16 mo, the phrase has taken on a completely different meaning, reminding me that before I know it, they'll be grown, and I need to cherish every moment.
You'll be fine, but I'd try to think up something better than a chair or couch before tonight. I had a twin in the baby's room and slept there (with a bedrail) and the baby a lot. It's totally normal to not want to be apart at night, but sleeping in a chair is really not safe.
You're doing great. Take it one day at a time, and if you're not feeling better by next week... talk to you doctor. Being a little anxious is normal. Being crushed by anxiety much of the time is not.
Right. I am aware of safe co sleeping. I am working on it. We are trying to have him nap in the bassinet right now so he gets a little used to not being in someone's arms.
My girls wouldn't let us put them down in the hospital bassinets for more than ten seconds without crying. They only slept in our arms in the almost four days we spent in hospital. At home in rock and play sleeper they'd tolerate putting down and sleep for two hour stretches. It like hammocky (?) so they sort of feel like they're being held maybe, idk. But they are amazing those RNP. Not to sound like a broken record, but they're amazing.
And a handful of times one of us fell asleep in the middle if the night with a baby on our chest.
Post by everafter07 on Dec 20, 2014 15:42:56 GMT -5
The first night was so rough. My milk hadn't come in fully yet (took 5 days), plus my hormones were outrageous. I was crying while holding her, slobbering how much I loved her and omg I'm so scared for ANYTHING to EVER happen to her. It gets better, dude.