Would you think this is weird?

[rugbywife]

I think they are douchecanoes for knowingly getting food you can't eat ( I presume they know).

When I was being strict about wheat /dairy/sugar I used to just bring my own food and didn't really worry about others.

[Mrs.Rad888]

To me, the only thing that weird is that your health concerns aren't being taken into account when deciding what to have for dinner. Is everyone set on Chinese? Is there something else you'd like to have that the rest of the group can enjoy? 

[panicked]

You eat whatever you want to eat. They suck.

[lilac05]

If YOU don't mind serving something you cannot eat, then no one else should, either.

Knowing your health issues, I vote not weird.

[pinkpepper08]

I would just eat what you might normally have for dinner. They already know about your health, so I wouldn't think they would make a big deal about it.

[Deleted]

That sucks. But can you get just plain rice and ask for grilled chicken or something?

I think it's pretty shitty of them to do that, btw

[caramia]

WTF? For the record I have Crohn's too, and this has never been a problem because my family & ILs have been understanding. Honestly, I'd be pissed my H didn't convince his family to order something else.
If you don't want to make waves, just eat whatever you can. If they say anything about it, explain (calmly) why you can't eat what they're eating. Maybe they don't understand how serious Crohn's is?

[RoxMonster]

I do not think it's weird at all for you to eat something else that you can eat. But it is a little weird if they insist on eating something they know you cannot.

So my first choice would be to serve pizza or another meal to everyone that you can also eat. But if not that, then yes, by all means, make something for yourself separate from the Chinese.

[Deleted]

You should not be concerned about eating something else when you have legitimate health concerns. At. All.

[cleo29]

Why the fuck are you all eating something (while hosted at YOUR house) when it is the ONE type of food you cannot eat. I would scrap it and do something else.

[irishbride2]

We do that with DS. He has a dairy allergy and most of my extended family meals are made up of lasagna and such. We just bring other food. So not weird Bring something you like and can eat.

[Deleted]

Eat whatever you want while they eat Chinese food.

I don't see what the problem is.

[cheeseandcrackers]

How about some soup? Can you have wonton soup or egg drop?

[cville]

It's by choice, but as a vegetarian I frequently am eating different stuff than the rest of whatever group I'm in. I don't care and if other people do, they can kiss my grits. I usually make/ bring enough that another person could partake.

[shostakovich]

I'm confused. Did the ILs demand Chinese food? If you are hosting, why not have a dinner that everyone can eat, including you?

Can you do other type of take-out, like pizza or something? To make it easier for you and your H?

[polarbearfans]

I am gluten free because when I eat it I feel terrible (headaches, exhausted, itchy skin, etc) and it causes my UC to flare. At family gatherings I'm usually eating food I brought or the few items served I can eat.

This sounds like a nice treat for your husband since he doesn't normally get Chinese food. Can he also pick up food from a restaurant you can eat? Several of the takeout areas where we live have no gluten free options, but my husband will also get something special from a place I can eat when he is getting something from his fav takeout.

We have one Asian food place across town that I love. The owner is very health conscious. She's adapted my fav meals to be gluten free. She makes her own broth for the soups and keeps sodium low. She's made some tasty meals for me after all my colonoscopies. All gentle on the stomach but delicious. I really want to go get food now!

Hopefully you have a great time with the family, and get something great to eat that won't make you sick.

[zoidberg]

I have celiac and frequently have to eat a different thing than everyone else. Make or order whatever you want, no reason to feel awkward.

Are you worried that they'll comment on it or be weird because they think you should just suck it up and eat what they're eating?

[isabel]

Can you make a quick stir fry with veggies, rice, and coconut aminos at home? You could pull that together pretty quickly the night before and reheat when it's dinner time. You would have similar food without the risk of getting from an unfamiliar source.

[snickers]

Eat whatever you want!

[shostakovich]

Dec 20, 2014 19:20:45 GMT -5 tillie said:

No, ILs didn't demand it. I know they all usually eat Chinese food on Christmas Eve though. It has only started to be and issue for me a couple of years ago.

I'll probably just make something I can eat and have enough for others. I know DH WILL get pissy if I have him go somewhere else for just me. That's a whole other post, lol.

Thanks again everyone.

Well that's lame.

I didn't realize it was a tradition of theirs to have Chinese, so I see why you're feeling like that's the way to go.  Your plan above sounds good, though.

And maybe get your H coal for Christmas?

[isabel]

Dec 20, 2014 19:22:07 GMT -5 tillie said:

Dec 20, 2014 19:18:52 GMT -5 isabel said:

Can you make a quick stir fry with veggies, rice, and coconut aminos at home? You could pull that together pretty quickly the night before and reheat when it's dinner time. You would have similar food without the risk of getting from an unfamiliar source.

This is a great idea!

Plus, that way, you don't have to worry about sharing. Not that you should worry about it. I just know if I ordered a pizza, I would be concerned about getting enough for others to have some. If you eat a similar kind of food, you don't have to think about it.

[dexteroni]

Uncomfortable for whom - you or them? The worst part of this for me would be that I love Chinese food and would be bummed about not being able to have any. I like the idea of making your own stir fry, so you aren't fully missing out.

As for your DH getting pissy about getting you food that won't make you sick, fuck that. Is he always like this about your food issues?

[readyin07]

Dec 20, 2014 19:27:23 GMT -5 shostakovich said:

Dec 20, 2014 19:20:45 GMT -5 tillie said:

No, ILs didn't demand it. I know they all usually eat Chinese food on Christmas Eve though. It has only started to be and issue for me a couple of years ago.

I'll probably just make something I can eat and have enough for others. I know DH WILL get pissy if I have him go somewhere else for just me. That's a whole other post, lol.

Thanks again everyone.

Well that's lame.

I didn't realize it was a tradition of theirs to have Chinese, so I see why you're feeling like that's the way to go.  Your plan above sounds good, though.

And maybe get your H coal for Christmas?

Totally not at all weird for them to uphold their tradition and you to get something you can eat that you enjoy (unless Chinese food was like your favorite ever and you die that you can't have it in which case they suck) Totally weird for your DH to get pissy about going somewhere else just for you if this is what he is insisting on. He should get nothing for Christmas!

I personally do not like Chinese food, but DH and his family do. We rarely/never eat out, but when my ILs are in town (and paying!) they will sometimes order Chinese in and I don't care at all. I will either eat something else or Dh will figure out what's nearby that I like. But I am pretty easy.

[ralphlauren]

Eat what you can eat. Order pizza

[Deleted]

I need to know why your husband will get pissy before we string him up.

[jena]

nm

[sonrisa]

Dec 20, 2014 17:29:07 GMT -5 tillie said:

I really can eat anything except Chinese food.  

This is very odd to me. Do you mean Chinese food from that specific restaurant? Because otherwise this doesn't really make sense as a health concern. As a preference, okay, but I can't understand how a medical condition would be triggered by every food of a specific ethnicity but nothing else. Chinese food encompasses a pretty broad spectrum of things.

Go ahead and eat what you want. And by all means, don't eat food that will make you sick. Your post just sounds like a blatant lie (either to protect yourself from your husband's temper or because blaming the disease is easier than saying "hey, that restaurant makes me ill" Or "I hate chinese food.")

[Deleted]

I really wouldn't worry about this.

My husband is just weird about food (99% just pickiness) and he will often eat before, get his own stuff, whatever and everyone's used to it. As long as he's not inconveniencing others, no one cares. It's not even an actual medical concern.

I say just get your own dinner or make something else and don't feel compelled to make enough for others since they are already getting a favorite meal (it would be different if you had something awesome while they didn't).

Personally, I would just make myself a sandwich or heat up leftovers when I was hungry and call it good.

[dexteroni]

Sorry you're having a rough time tillie. I just went back and read your post from September. Has anything changed for the better since then? If not, I say make a New Year's resolution to gtfo and enjoy life free of being blamed for your health problems. ((((hugs))))