Holiday disaster :(

[MrsAxilla]

This afternoon, DH wrecked his truck.    We have these stupid fucking brick posts at the end of our driveway (that I already wrecked my car on once).  He was taking Ben to the park and some asshole came around the corner too fast and DH had to stop backing up and pull back in.  He was at a weird angle and when he pulled out, he wrecked the front quarter panel, bumper and wheel well on the fucking post.  Of course, the truck was our ride to Vegas for xmas with my family.  He has an early appt tomorrow to check the damage, and there's an outside chance we can still drive it, but with the wheel well all fucked up I don't think it's safe for a 13 hour drive.  Last minute plane tickets are upwards of a grand, and renting a car isn't much cheaper, and we just don't have it.  (Well, technically we do, but it would really hurt). 

I called my parents and of course they offered to pay for a rental car.  They insisted immediately.  Xmas is my mom's FAVORITE holiday and we haven't been in two years.  Plus they haven't seen Stella in six months, and they have special surprises planned (like our overnight date in Vegas, they paid someone to decorate their house with lights for Ben, and we're going to Death Valley). 

DH feels terrible.  That's an understatement.  I haven't seen him this upset in a long time.  I made him take a Xanax.  He doesn't want to accept my parents' offer - grown ups don't need their mommies to pay for travel!  He was trying to do something special for Ben and feels like as a result, he ruined xmas for all of us.  He's also super bummed at not driving his awesome truck.  He's been looking forward to that for months.

anyway, just looking for hair pats.  

[erbear]

That sucks

I think I'd take my parents up on their offer. Sometimes grown-ups need a little help too.

[Deleted]

That definitely sucks.

But Christmas doesn't sound like it's ruined. I'd definitely take your parents offer and not have second thoughts or guilt about it. My parents offer to help me out when I'm in a jam and I can imagine I'll definitely want to do the same thing if/when I have kids.

I hope you still have a great trip.

[thejackpot]

Ugh, def stinks. Hopefully he will reconsider taking your parents up on their offer. Christmas is so special for you all.

[blink]

Ah man, that really sucks.

[origami]

Oh no! That's terrible. I'm so sorry.

I'm not one to ask my parents for anything but if they offered to pay for a rental I would totally take them up on that. I feel shame asking but not taking. Never taking. Lol.

[NewOrleans]

Awww, MrsA.

I am so sorry. Give your husband a hug and take your parents up on their offer.

[krystee]

Have you tried rentalcars.com? We usually get great prices through that site or Hotwire.

[sparkythelawyer]

Tell your DH to let your mom buy herself a Christmas gift and take the damn rental car.

[josieposy]

That really sucks. I'm sorry.

With that said, shit happens. It's Christmas. Mom insists. Take her up on it and enjoy your holidays.

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 21, 2014 22:45:23 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Tell your DH to let your mom buy herself a Christmas gift and take the damn rental car.

Lol. A thousand dollars to have her daughter and grandchildren home for Xmas is nothing to my mom.  We will take them up on their offer, even though DH feels like a "charity case".  Who knows?  Maybe we'll win enough in Vegas to pay them back!  We are REALLY good at blackjack!

the funny thing is, I spilled coffee in his truck yesterday and felt SOOOOO BAD!  My first thought today was "at least *I* didn't wreck the truck!"  Shit happens, and it usually happens at THE WORST time.

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 21, 2014 22:35:51 GMT -5 krystee said:

Have you tried rentalcars.com? We usually get great prices through that site or Hotwire.

Nope.  I will definitely check them out.

[StrawberryBlondie]

Ugh. That sucks. I'd take your parents up on their offer, to.

[MrsAxilla]

And who the fuck puts brick posts at the end of the driveway?!?  Such a stupid idea!  (And not ours, I'll point out)

[compassrose]

Shit happens. Let your parents have their Christmas and help you out. Your poor DH.

[josieposy]

Dec 21, 2014 23:11:27 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

And who the fuck puts brick posts at the end of the driveway?!?  Such a stupid idea!  (And not ours, I'll point out)

Are they easily removed? Or even not so easily removed? Might be fun to take out some aggression on them.

[redheadbaker]

Ugh, that sucks! I'm so sorry. There is absolutely no shame in taking your parents up on their offer!

[redwino]

I'm sorry about your truck. I'm glad you'll take your parents up on the offer. Your DH shouldn't feel bad, your mom wants to do this. Think of it as another Christmas gift and enjoy spending time with family. Have a safe trip.

[mx27]

oh no!

I'm glad you are still going to visit your parents.

have a great time!

[gottadobe]

I'm glad you decided to take your mom up on her very generous offer!
Take the stupid columns down!

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 21, 2014 23:22:47 GMT -5 josieposy said:

Dec 21, 2014 23:11:27 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

And who the fuck puts brick posts at the end of the driveway?!?  Such a stupid idea!  (And not ours, I'll point out)

Are they easily removed? Or even not so easily removed? Might be fun to take out some aggression on them.

I finally got a begrudging smile out of DH when I suggested we take a sledgehammer to them.

[lilac05]

Dec 21, 2014 23:11:27 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

And who the fuck puts brick posts at the end of the driveway?!?  Such a stupid idea!  (And not ours, I'll point out)

My friend's house is on a hill with a very steep driveway and they have those brick pillars really close to the edge of their driveway...in the snowy Midwest!  The last time I went with a friend, she had another friend stand outside and help direct her down because it was icy and dark.  So, so stupid!

I'm glad you'll take your mom up on the offer.  It's not a charity case, she's doing what she needs to do to make HER Christmas wonderful.  Look at it as her being selfish & maybe he'll feel better.  I think it's easier to look at it as if it were your son in this situation.  If you had the money, would you do anything possible to make Christmas happen for him & your grandchildren?  I'd hesitate to take the money, but ultimately would because I know I'd actually be offended if my child didn't accept a similar offer from me.

[zoegirltx]

urgh...that sucks! I hope you still get to go!

[eddy]

I would absolutely take my parents up on the offer.

Parents like to help. There is no shame in that!

[aurora]

I'm sorry about your truck.

Sometimes parents like to spoil their grown kids. I know mine do.

[pitterwoo]

Sorry that happened. Definitely take them up on the offer. You can always pay them back later if you feel you need to. It sucks, but the situation can be salvaged.

I missed Christmas at home with family one year for similar responsible adult reasons and it turned out that one of my family members died unexpectedly shortly after so that was our last chance to have a holiday together and I still regret missing it now. Not worth it.

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 22, 2014 10:10:17 GMT -5 pitterwoo said:

Sorry that happened. Definitely take them up on the offer. You can always pay them back later if you feel you need to. It sucks, but the situation can be salvaged.

I missed Christmas at home with family one year for similar responsible adult reasons and it turned out that one of my family members died unexpectedly shortly after so that was our last chance to have a holiday together and I still regret missing it now. Not worth it.

Last night, DH was understandable very woe is me.  I reminded him of all the good things in our lives and that this is just a little problem.  He woke up in a better mood.  He's off having the damage assessed now.  

[jeaniebueller]

Oh, that sucks. I would take your parents up on it, considering they want you guys there so badly and it would upset their holiday as well if you can't make it.

[carowen]

That sucks, I'm sorry that happened, at the very least no one was hurt and hopefully the truck can get fixed. IMO there's nothing wrong with help from family. That's why we have friends/family - to help us when shitty shit happens. I hope you're able to enjoy your trip without H feeling a bunch of guilt over the rental, and ditto PP maybe you can't repay Mom now but in a few months.

[jln]

I'm sorry about your truck. Accidents really do happen at the worst of times.