Maiden name at kid's middle?

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What are your thoughts on using a maiden name as a kid's middle name? With my sister now married, there are no cousins left with my maiden name, so I was thinking it might be nice to use it as a middle. Name is Po.pe, I'm not sure if it'd work for a girl but would probably be okay for a boy?

Anybody else do this? Ada has a middle name from my family too, would if be insensitive to use middle names for both kids from my family? I mean they will both have DHs last name so they already have his part...

[TrudyCampbell]

I was going to do it for a boy. My maiden name is a noun and I didn't want to pair it with Violet or Ruby because they are also nouns. I like the sentiment though!

[shevacc]

DH's middle name is his mom's maiden name, as is his siblings'. If I didn't have such a mouthful of a maiden name we might've done the same. It's really common in Hispanic tradition, as well as Filipino culture to do it that way. As you say, the father's name is passed down as the last name so it seems reasonable for the middle name to connect to the mother's family.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Both my kids have middle names from my family. They get H's last name. I think that's a fair trade! Of course, the girl may change her last name, but that's down the road

I like your maiden name.
Definitely works for a boy. I could see it working for a girl with the right pairing.

[jg183]

Luke's middle name is h's moms maiden name. Actually Lucas is my grandmothers maiden name too

[honeybee503]

I think it's nice. I toyed with using mine for Nolan's middle name but decided against it because my H wasn't a fan.

[carawestt]

I wanted to do it with Calvin and may do it if we have a third boy. I'm thinking about dropping my MN and using my maiden. I wanted to do it after we got married but didn't.

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Dec 21, 2014 23:30:26 GMT -5 carawestt said:

I'm thinking about dropping my MN and using my maiden. I wanted to do it after we got married but didn't.

I was going to so that but in Kansas to change my middle name I would have had to go though the official name change process, which involved $ and state approval. With just the last name, I only had to send in a marriage certificate.

[carawestt]

Dec 21, 2014 23:33:01 GMT -5 @lindy said:

Dec 21, 2014 23:30:26 GMT -5 carawestt said:

I'm thinking about dropping my MN and using my maiden. I wanted to do it after we got married but didn't.

I was going to so that but in Kansas to change my middle name I would have had to go though the official name change process, which I involved $ and state approval. here with just the last name, I only had to send in a marriage certificate.

Hmm I should look into the process here. I didn't think of that.

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Dec 21, 2014 23:33:53 GMT -5 carawestt said:

Dec 21, 2014 23:33:01 GMT -5 @lindy said:

I was going to so that but in Kansas to change my middle name I would have had to go though the official name change process, which I involved $ and state approval. here with just the last name, I only had to send in a marriage certificate.

Hmm I should look into the process here. I didn't think of that.

Some states allow you to change middle name to maiden name with no extra work. Kansas wasn't with the times lol.

[Deleted]

I love the idea but my maiden name definitely wouldn't work as a middle name...

[Deleted]

I like the idea. Girls I nannied for had great grandmothers maiden name as middle names.

[Deleted]

My middle name is now my maiden name though

[thedahliharpa]

I like it.

[sunshineluv]

My maiden is my middle now, we considered using it for a kids middle name too. My sister used it for her daughters middle name.

So I like it

[jg183]

My maiden is my middle now but it doesn't flow well with my choice of kid names!

[imimahoney]

I think itsw a lovely way to honor tour family. I was going to do it but decided against it because my maiden name is very masculine and if I gave it to Ari I'd want any future baby girl to have it also... But it was sound terrible.

Dh and his sister both have their mother's maiden name as their middle name.

I do think its a bit odd if it's only 1 kid as opposed to both.

[tuck]

I like the idea. In Mississippi, it's very easy to drop your middle name and use your maiden in it's place. I chose not to, because I really don't feel a connection to that side of my family- my mom is the only person with that last name that I talk to, and she's considering marrying her boyfriend in a few years.

I briefly considered using the family middle name (R.owe) which was my grandfather's, my dads, and at least one of my cousins' middle name. But, since I'm not in contact with that side, it didn't feel right, even though I like the name.

[helicase]

My middle is my moms maiden. I've always loved having that connection with my moms side, so when we were naming T, it was a no brainer to give him my maiden for his middle.

[ktstorm]

I like it. Given that we've had such a hard time coming up with names, using a family name would have been much easier and meaningful. Oh well.

Another alternative: I have a high school friend whose parents gave the girls middle names that starts with the same letter as their maiden name - with the forethought that if they wanted to make their maiden name their middle name, they would still have the same first two initials.

[CrazyLucky]

I love this tradition. But both my DH and I have my maiden name for a middle name. I didn't want to give it to one kid and not the other, so neither has it.

[melmon0417]

I never even thought to do this. I love my maiden name!

[teamhayes]

I love his idea but my maiden name is a mouth full but I considered my moms maiden name 

[rainbowchip]

Both my kids MN's are from my side. I used the reasoning that they get DH'S last name. And the names on his side sort of suck.

[Deleted]

I loathe my maiden name so I wouldn't. It came from a deadbeat father with whom I don't wish to associate. But I would absolutely if I had a better memory of it.

[bebeetmoi]

If I ever have a boy, my maiden name will definitely be his middle name. It's actually a name, though rarely used outside of the UK, and used often on Bulldogs lol.

[lauranicole91]

Dec 21, 2014 23:39:20 GMT -5 ladybug said:

I love the idea but my maiden name definitely wouldn't work as a middle name...

Ugh this. I love the idea, but Hender.son just does not work as a middle name. I wanted to use it as my middle name but it's a mouth full and my married name also ends in -son so it'd sound ridiculous. If we have a third, and it's a boy, I will use my grandmother's maiden name as a first name. Mason.

@lindy I think your maiden name would work with either a boy or a girl!

[katie]

My cousin has my mom (and her moms) maiden name as her middle name and as an adult she loves it. There were no boys to carry on the name.

I love the idea but my MN is too hard to pronounce and long.

[playswithsquirrels]

I think it's a cute idea! I could never use my maiden name though since it's very much a last name.

[sunnysong]

W has my maiden name for his middle name, and I plan to give our upcoming daughter my maiden name for her middle name too. It does sound like a last name, but I liked the idea of passing the name from my part of the family too. Also, I have three sisters, we all changed our last name when we got married, so the last name wouldn't really get passed on otherwise. I didn't change my maiden name to my middle name when I got married because it required a lengthier process than just changing my last name, but I wish I would've changed it.