Does your H, like, never listen to you?

[Eagles]

Yup. Makes me crazy. Like, I want to throw things at him.

[escrow]

I could have written this post.

[Deleted]

Yes. Pisses me off to no end

[marriedin05]

This happens at least once a week. I swear they listen for the first few seconds then don't listen beyond that.

[agnes]

Just the opposite. I am a horrible listener.

[cville]

He did this once with a restaurant and I wanted to kill him. I'd been suggesting we try it for OVER A YEAR and then he comes home one weekend like "Hey, my coworker said this restaurant is good, we should try it."

Then I beat him to death with a rolled up menu from the place.


THEN HE DID IT AGAIN W/R/T ANOTHER RESTAURANT LIKE 2 MONTHS LATER.

[prettyinpink]

Yep. All the time. He actually admitted to it one night when I was talking about going out of town the next day to say good bye to my grandmother. When I gave him my time frame again I said ' Do I need to have you repeat it like I have my students do?' He listens now

[CurlyQ284]

Yes. yes.yes. "you know I can't remember things!"

Confession: A few times when i needed it, I maybe told him "I told you this weeks ago" when that didn't really happen. I figure it's only fair.

[aussiecrush]

This is my H. I've just started talking out loud to myself. I'm the only one listening anyway. So annoying.

[birdistheword]

Yes. He never remembers anything I tell him, then gets annoyed if I don't remember everything he has ever told me, ever. Lol.

[isabel]

No. We had an argument about this either while we were dating or very early on in our marriage (can't remember which), and he accused me of treating him like a child. He has actually always listened reasonably well, but is pretty great about it now. There are little things here and there, but he's a good communicator.

[shostakovich]

I have a theory that my H only hears every third word that I say.

[killercupcake]

YES.

I can't even remember what we were talking about, but I said something and H was like "Sorry. What did you say?"

So I repeated it.

AGAIN he says "I'm so sorry, I wasn't paying attention. What?"

I repeat what I said for the third time.

I swear to god, he said "I'm sorry. Don't kill me. I didn't hear you. I got distracted."

He's lucky he's alive.

[bornbaker]

All the time!

I've starting writing things down, it helps him remember! He's asked me to do this. Or I'll text him, then when he says I never told him I'm all CHECK YOUR TEXTS!!!!! And BAM! Proof.

[wowhead]

This is my life.

[Deleted]

Yep.  I try to communicate only the necessities.  

[EmilieMadison]

Dec 21, 2014 23:26:24 GMT -5 cville said:

He did this once with a restaurant and I wanted to kill him. I'd been suggesting we try it for OVER A YEAR and then he comes home one weekend like "Hey, my coworker said this restaurant is good, we should try it."

Then I beat him to death with a rolled up menu from the place.


THEN HE DID IT AGAIN W/R/T ANOTHER RESTAURANT LIKE 2 MONTHS LATER.

This is called the "Wedge Salad" and is an unforgivable offense. 
(google "wedge salad+Modern Family" if you're unfamiliar). 

[cville]

Dec 21, 2014 23:43:49 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Dec 21, 2014 23:26:24 GMT -5 cville said:

He did this once with a restaurant and I wanted to kill him. I'd been suggesting we try it for OVER A YEAR and then he comes home one weekend like "Hey, my coworker said this restaurant is good, we should try it."

Then I beat him to death with a rolled up menu from the place.


THEN HE DID IT AGAIN W/R/T ANOTHER RESTAURANT LIKE 2 MONTHS LATER.

This is called the "Wedge Salad" and is an unforgivable offense. 
(google "wedge salad+Modern Family" if you're unfamiliar). 

That episode aired just a few months after the second incident and we watched the whole thing like "THEY'RE SPYING ON US!!"  We were seriously creeped out.

And usually we say we're Mitchell and Cam.  Ha.

[G22]

Nice to know I'm not alone in this. H is worse now than he was a few years ago. Drives me up a wall somedays.

[runforrest]

Yesssss. Oh the rage.

[Norticprincess]

In one, out the other.
I've taken to adding Ecalendar appointments so he can't say I failed to tell him.

[spellingbea]

The following exchange takes place frequently:

DH: have you heard about this new restaurant/movie/TV show?

Me: uh, yeah. I told you about it last week.

DH: really?

Me: you never listen to me, do you?

DH: no.

Me: fucker.

X6 years.

[marylennox]

Lol. Yes.

We actually had a very similar conversation earlier today.

Except this time we were *both* insisting that we had had a conversation that the other person had no recollection of. OMG. Talk about frustrating.

[textbookcase]

Yes, so effing annoying.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Oh, yes. If I tell him something, and he forgets, it's because he's just so busy saving the world. If he tells me something and I forget, it's because I don't respect him.
Also, I'll suggest something, but it doesn't carry any weight unless/until one of the guys from work say the same thing. I don't even suggest things to him any more, I just tell him to ask the guys at work.

Can you tell he's on my shitlist right now? And we're supposed to leave tomorrow to drive to my parent's house for Christmas. 2 days in the car should be fun. 

[agnes]

I admit to even asking H a question and then not hearing the answer so I have to ask the question again.

Or maybe a few times.

[meganew]

Never, ever, ever. It makes me want to cut him.

It's so bad that "Ypu know I never listen!" is now frequently used as a defense!

[Deleted]

Ever since the ENT doctor confirmed I'm slightly hard-of-hearing, I've used that diagnosis to my advantage.

It's not that I don't listen. I simple can't hear well.

But not really.

I don't listen.

[mrsukyankee]

It's a running joke between the two of us that we both don't listen and we both either forget things or remember the wrong things. This is why we now have a mutual google calendar.

[kayakjenn]

Every fucking day but I cut him some slack because I use it to my advantage when I need to go somewhere/do something that I know will piss him off if he knows in advance. "But I told you I was going out with work friends instead of watching the Criminal Minds marathon with you "

In my defense it really is a terrible show.