Monday vents! (and flamefuls)

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Share yours!

Mine:
1. Its Monday and I am commuting in to work on a day I planned to take off. Grrrr.

2. Inspired by @songforyou...I am so over the idea of exchanging gifts when you have to give someone a list! How about....we don't exchange gifts OR we just swap $50 bills and call it a day???

3. Inspired by Dig Ophelia...love languages annoy me!!! Can we just cut the bullshit positioning and say: I like to get presents or I like to be told how appreciated I am!?

4. I told my H over the holidays I taking at least 1 day to do nothing buy cozy up with good books. His response: "That puts us a day behind on the basement!". You have to be kidding me. And you bet your ass I am taking my lazy day....maybe even 2! So there!!!

I am a grump today.

[liveintheville]

I didn't get up in time to get coffee before this school event we're going to. Now I won't have coffee for hours and I may die,

[sweetiesparkles]

You are never a grump so this is funny to see.

[Pom]

Dec 22, 2014 7:40:13 GMT -5 sweetiesparkles said:

You are never a grump so this is funny to see.

I was thinking that exact thing about shoe. @shoegal  You totally deserve a lazy day, or two or three.

Three of FIL's neighbors (one is a blood nephew of FIL) have called us to give us there "opinions" on 1. the company we hired to fix the furnace, hot water heater, clean-out of house before closing it up 2. Give us shit because we hadn't called to let them know what was happening 3. That we had a dumpster brought in so that the caregivers we'd had working for us and taking care of FIL could clean out the fridge, freezers--including the big one in the basement that has meat and vegetables from 2006-2008 and canned goods.  We hired then because he's been moved to a assisted living home and we are having the house winterized and there will be a possibility of this shit freezing and busting everywhere.  It's a mess.   

Apparently, they assume this is their business.  It's not.  We gave everyone a heartfelt thank you for watching out for him and nice gift cards for their time and trouble when FIL demanded they help him with something.  Suddenly, everyone acts like we are fucking supposed to check with them before we make any arrangements for the house.  WTF.

[hellonurse]

Dec 22, 2014 7:40:13 GMT -5 sweetiesparkles said:

You are never a grump so this is funny to see.

I was just about to say this. I don't know whats real anymore!

[Pom]

Dec 22, 2014 7:39:55 GMT -5 liveintheville said:

I didn't get up in time to get coffee before this school event we're going to. Now I won't have coffee for hours and I may die,

Oh that does not sound like a good start to a Monday morning.

[ssmjlm]

Hugs Pom.

Today my nana is getting packed up and moved to the place closer to my uncle. My dad has been down there since the Monday after Thanksgiving. My mom drove down here Friday, left yesterday for Florida, and today her and my dad are driving my grandparents car from florida to here (stopping overnight). I will say my 2 uncles have come and helped a lot the last week, so my dad hasn't been doing it all alone the whole time.

I told DH I have a hard time with the polar opposites of our families. Last year my dad had cataract surgery like 5 days before Christmas but assured me they would come to us for E's first Christmas. This year he's dealing with the death of his father, moving his mother w/alzheimer's and still says "I will be there for my granddaughter's Christmas." Then we haev the IL's who really could care less about E (she isn't the first like my parents, so I'm sure that's part of it) and say that we are the problem b/c we decided to not to go to Christmas Eve that starts at 7pm, which is when we usually start bedtime.*

*And if my kid had a flexible bedtime I would be more open to attending, but not when she'll be melting down by 7:45.

And finally work is pissing me off to no end. No one wants to do what they're supposed to do, but then we they finally get pushed to do it, they claim they'll have it to us on Christmas Eve. LOL most of the office will be gone b/c of the 26th holiday and day offs being shifted. So I have to turn something around in hours, but they can just lollygag on everything.

[shortstax]

Dec 22, 2014 7:28:46 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

2. Inspired by @songforyou...I am so over the idea of exchanging gifts when you have to give someone a list! How about....we don't exchange gifts OR we just swap $50 bills and call it a day???

I feel the same way!  Half the fun of Xmas for me is coming up with the perfect gift for loved ones.  DH is the opposite, and I've grown to accept it. This is the actual phone conversation he had with his dad last week:

DH:  Hey dad, we'll be there around 4pm on Xmas.  Do you and MIL want the usual giftcards this year?
FIL:  yep, Cabela's and Homegoods please
DH:  OK, sweet. I'll stop by Kroger on the way. See you next week.

NO JOKE. I ABOUT DIED.  But then I realize it works for both of them and they're not put off by it, so it's one less thing for me to buy, lol.

[shortstax]

Flameful: out of 16 people on our team, only 4 are in the office this week (including moi.) I just spent the 7-8am hour finishing up addressing my Xmas cards. Sorry, not sorry, lol.

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Dec 22, 2014 7:57:00 GMT -5 hellonurse said:

Dec 22, 2014 7:40:13 GMT -5 sweetiesparkles said:

You are never a grump so this is funny to see.

I was just about to say this. I don't know whats real anymore!

I decided a trip to Starbucks for a holiday coffee might set me right....I think I woke up with a storm cloud over my noggin!

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Pom....my mother in law developed a parented system to deal with crappy "well meaning" busybodies during her 3 year effort to get her mom to move into assisted living. (Grams is now in a community that provides excellent around the clock care and memory support....there is light at the end of the tunnel.)

Anyway, patented system involved engaging these busybodies to help. They would be assigned meaningless tasks and some would actually step up! Most others unfortunately did not, but got off MILs case.

Examples:
- Deadbeat brother scolded MIL for her choice of painters for the house being put up for sale. MIL: "Oh you have a better idea, super, could you have them submit a quote and work plan to me by Friday, I would love to use your buddy." (Shockingly to all of us, deadbeat bro's buddy came in 500 below the other guys and did an awesome job.)

- MILs basement was full to the rim. Aunt nosyface scolded MIL for her plans to rent a dumpster. MIL said Aunt was welcome to host a yardsale anytime before dumpster arrived. No yard sale.

[Pom]

Dec 22, 2014 8:28:01 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

Pom....my mother in law developed a parented system to deal with crappy "well meaning" busybodies during her 3 year effort to get her mom to move into assisted living. (Grams is now in a community that provides excellent around the clock care and memory support....there is light at the end of the tunnel.)

Anyway, patented system involved engaging these busybodies to help. They would be assigned meaningless tasks and some would actually step up! Most others unfortunately did not, but got off MILs case.

Examples:
- Deadbeat brother scolded MIL for her choice of painters for the house being put up for sale. MIL: "Oh you have a better idea, super, could you have them submit a quote and work plan to me by Friday, I would love to use your buddy." (Shockingly to all of us, deadbeat bro's buddy came in 500 below the other guys and did an awesome job.)

- MILs basement was full to the rim. Aunt nosyface scolded MIL for her plans to rent a dumpster. MIL said Aunt was welcome to host a yardsale anytime before dumpster arrived. No yard sale.

Perfect, LOL.  Thanks for sharing.  She is very wise.  In the spring, we can implement this plan!

[Deleted]

@shoegal I hope your day picks up! What books would you like to cuddle up with?

It's December 22, which means the day is a little bit longer than it was yesterday! Hurrah!

[konapoppy]

Dec 22, 2014 8:06:16 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Flameful: We had a Christmas party Saturday night and we were so hungover yesterday we still have barely cleaned up. There are beer bottles everywhere, food still sitting out, and my floors are a sticky mess. I put the dirty dishes in the oven so I wouldn't have to look at them. If you saw my house right now you'd think a bunch of 22 year old boys lived here.

Hope the party was fun!

I am impressed you lasted a day in a house smelling of stale beer. That is the part that always got to me when I was 22

[konapoppy]

I don't want to go in today. At least it is the only day I have client calls. Tuesday and Wednesday should be quieter.

[v]

A 20 year old tried to make out with me on Saturday night 

[heyrebekah]

I think I baked entirely too many cookies. No such thing, I know. But I made about 1000 cookies to be divided into 25 tins, and when I pulled out the tins (bought after last Xmas on sale of course) they were a lot smaller than I remembered...

I also gained about 2.5 pounds over the weekend. Coincidence? I think not.

I am staying home from work today to decorate my sugar cookies, though. Yay!

[shortstax]

Dec 22, 2014 9:01:02 GMT -5 v said:

A 20 year old tried to make out with me on Saturday night 

haha, something similar happened to me last year. He was denied, but clearly had good taste.

It was hilarious until my girlfriend pointed out that I was probably closer in age to his mother than I am to him.  

[mbcdefg]

I still have no idea where we're going for Christmas. The plan with my family is already set, but we have to figure out whether we're going to see MH's paternal or maternal extended family. He's coming up with all these different scenarios of whom to visit, driving around all day, making a solo two-hour round trip to drop off gifts because I have to work on Christmas Eve, etc. And wherever he finally decides to go, he's just going to spend the entire car ride complaining about it anyway. Ugh.

At this point I'd really like to start a family of our own JUST so we can say, "Sorry, we're staying home with Baby this year."

[rubytue]

We have a staff meeting today. Really?!

Like a few others, I really dislike the exchange of lists and especially gift cards. It was different in our 20s, but now the family is all 38+ and well employed. So it seems so pointless when we can all buy what we want. I prefer some nice food thing you like or something unique you thought I'd like. But H's family is not like that. So after several years of crap Christmas (including the one where everyone forgot me), I don't do gifts for them (except parents) anymore. Done and done.

On a vent: ILs left on their 4-month winter snowbird trip without telling us when they were leaving or where they were going. H was calling them for a week. Finally got a hold of a brother, who forwarded an email of their itinerary, which was sent to everyone except H. Meanwhile, their packages are who knows where bc, you know, we sent them to the house not knowing they were leaving 3 days after we last spoke with them.

I really hate this time of year living this far north and east. Thank god we passed the solstice and days start getting longer. Also, we are going back to Florida next year. Best holiday ever!

[shortstax]

Flameful - I'm craving pizza right now (shut up, I know it's only 9:38am.) Since the next few days will be filled with "traditional" xmas foods, I'm totally getting Little Caesars for lunch.   (devil)

(Because I don't want to be tempted to eat a whole pizza anywhere else, lol.)

[bostonmichelle]

Vent - I'm getting really annoyed with the post office. One friend sent me a card apx 2 and a half weeks ago from a few miles away and I haven't gotten it yet and she hasn't gotten it back. I also ordered something for a Christmas gift and still haven't received it yet either, I just called and thankfully they can mail a duplicate directly to the family but I'm still sad I can't wrap it and put it in the big box with the rest of the gifts.

[mrsfarmer]

I have overcommunicated with DH our timelines for the next few days and exactly what I am expecting from him. I'm so over having to take on everything and am pushing back.

Last week was hard on me as we approach the first Christmas without my dad. This last Friday we were celebrating DD1's adoptionversary with our moms and close friends. My mom twisted a story about candy into a story about the day my dad passed away. I really did not need that and I ignored her the rest of the weekend. It was not the time/place.

[v]

Dec 22, 2014 9:39:03 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Flameful - I'm craving pizza right now (shut up, I know it's only 9:38am.) Since the next few days will be filled with "traditional" xmas foods, I'm totally getting Little Caesars for lunch.   (devil)

(Because I don't want to be tempted to eat a whole pizza anywhere else, lol.)

HAVING PIZZA FOR LUNCH IS NOT FLAMEFUL!

[irene adler]

@shoegal, I think your mil and I would get along swimmingly. I have no patience for people who like to point problems out but don't offer a solution.

Here is someone who would like to cuddle up with you and a good book

[Deleted]

Dec 22, 2014 9:52:39 GMT -5 v said:

Dec 22, 2014 9:39:03 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Flameful - I'm craving pizza right now (shut up, I know it's only 9:38am.) Since the next few days will be filled with "traditional" xmas foods, I'm totally getting Little Caesars for lunch.   (devil)

(Because I don't want to be tempted to eat a whole pizza anywhere else, lol.)

HAVING PIZZA FOR LUNCH IS NOT FLAMEFUL!

shortstax Having pizza for BREAKFAST is not flameful.Cold pizza is my favorite breakfast food!    

[Deleted]

Hank is on my last good nerve.

[shortstax]

Dec 22, 2014 10:03:24 GMT -5 @idaholakelady said:

Dec 22, 2014 9:52:39 GMT -5 v said:

HAVING PIZZA FOR LUNCH IS NOT FLAMEFUL!

shortstax Having pizza for BREAKFAST is not flameful.Cold pizza is my favorite breakfast food!    

Ladies, it's not the pizza that's flameful. It's purchasing from a location that could be located within a K-Mart, lol.

(disclosure - this location isn't, but the chain typically is )

[v]

Dec 22, 2014 10:06:52 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Dec 22, 2014 10:03:24 GMT -5 @idaholakelady said:

shortstax Having pizza for BREAKFAST is not flameful.Cold pizza is my favorite breakfast food!    

Ladies, it's not the pizza that's flameful. It's purchasing from a location that could be located within a K-Mart, lol.

(disclosure - this location isn't, but the chain typically is )

Still not flameful!

[oreos]

Dec 22, 2014 10:06:15 GMT -5 @ruralrabbit1 said:

Hank is on my last good nerve.

I'm impressed that he jumped up there without tipping over the box tin.