babysitter vent

[madringal]

My sitter took my girls to see Santa today.  She didn't tell me this was going to happen and I am annoyed for the following reasons:

1 - We took them last night to the same Santa we have gone to every year for 6 years. We make it a big deal. They looked nice, they had fun, we made memories, blah blah blah. Today they went to some mall rando.
2 - They were not dressed for going out in public.  At all.  Had I know, they would have at least had on something nicer then sweat pants.  My sitter is my next door neighbor, and I figured it would be a lazy day at her house.
3 - This happens every year.  I buy them nice outfits, make it a special day, go see the SAME santa. And the someone just up and takes them somewhere random when they are not dressed.  Seeing Santa is a mom/dad outing.  My inlaws, my dad, my moms BFF, and now my babysitter have all taken them to see Santa over the years.  I would never just take someone elses kid without asking.

I realize this is probably petty.  But it bugs me.

[bex1973]

Ummm, well at least they didn't take them before you got a chance to take them?

[thebuddhagouda]

Meh. My kid has seen several Santas this year. I don't think it's damaged him. I would be annoyed at someone taking my kids out in a car without my knowledge, but I'm assuming she had carseats or regularly drives them.

[sarahbear]

We've seen the random mall santa about 5 times this season. My kids love just visiting with him and getting a candy cane I didn't realize he only likes well dressed kids.

[demelza]

Weird. You are being wierd, it is not weird that someone brought your kids to santa.

[underwaterrhymes]

You sound like a Santa snob.

[wambam]

Dec 22, 2014 13:06:17 GMT -5 freedom said:

I thought this said Satan not santa lol

[jellymankelly]

I hate when people do nice things for my kids, too.

[captainobvious]

I'm sorry your kids will now have multiple Santa memories in one year. It must be very hard to deal with.

[madringal]

I didn't say this was rational! Just let me vent people!

And so far, we have been lucky that Santa has been the same guy every year. He is some relative of the owner of the candy shop we go to.

[adhdfashion]

Kids had fun right? Relax.

[BaliHai]

Dec 22, 2014 13:08:34 GMT -5 ste said:

Well, she did say they go to the SAME Santa every year. So I assumed it wasn't random.

But this is kind of bazar to me. (I'm jewish though, so what do I know?)

*Clutches chest*

[lust2hart]

Dec 22, 2014 13:12:42 GMT -5 ste said:

Dec 22, 2014 13:11:37 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

I thought the place had 2 zs, anyway. It does in my head. Bazzar? lol no def not.

bazaar

[Eagles]

It seems like it's a special tradition that you have as a family, so yeah, I'd be annoyed.

[madringal]

Dec 22, 2014 13:14:10 GMT -5 Que? said:

This would bug me if I was you, because you placed so much importance on the Santa visit. Lots of people are going to say you shouldn't care, because the Santa visit isn't a big deal to them, but it is to you.
You seem to care a lot about the fact that they weren't dressed. That sticks out to me, because you already have the Santa pic you wanted, so it's not like you need to use the sweatpants one. Are you worried that people saw them like that? It doesn't matter, I'm just perplexed.

Yes, they are not dressed to be out in public! I wish I could PIP from my phone guys.  They look crazy today!

[tictac]

I'd get the outrage if you hadn't already done your special Santa visit/photos this year.

But you did, so ... why does it matter?

[BaliHai]

Dec 22, 2014 13:17:46 GMT -5 ste said:

Dec 22, 2014 13:16:58 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

*Clutches chest*

BALI. I liked your posts in the other thread!

People. People!

I KNOW! lol. I had to!

[Eagles]

Dec 22, 2014 13:17:46 GMT -5 ste said:

Dec 22, 2014 13:16:58 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

*Clutches chest*

BALI. I liked your posts in the other thread!

People. People!

STOP GIVING BALI SOUL CRAMPS. 

[1confused1]

Wow. First world problem right here.

[shell24]

My kids have seen Santa 4 times this year and only once were dressed nice (at a party). The other times they just want to talk to him!

If this is important to you, you apparently have to be proactive and tell people not to take your kids to see Santa!

[demelza]

So the kids went out and about with dust radiating around them like Linus from Peanuts along with large kool-aid stained smiles?

[Eagles]

Dec 22, 2014 13:25:42 GMT -5 @iteach said:

So, I'm terrible for letting my niece go see Santa for the 12th time this year when I took her shopping last week? We didn't do pictures, she just wanted to go say hi and remind him of what she wanted. I've never been able to go with her to see Santa, so it was fun for me (especially since my sister told us she was only allowed to wave as she walked by), I couldn't resist taking her.

Wait, so you did something other than what your sister specifically instructed?  With her kid?

[captainobvious]

Dec 22, 2014 13:16:55 GMT -5 Que? said:

Dec 22, 2014 13:13:41 GMT -5 captainobvious said:

I'm sorry your kids will now have multiple Santa memories in one year. It must be very hard to deal with.

Oh come on she's just venting. G had a great experience with Santa this year, and I've avoided other ones because, questions. I don't expect the world to read my mind and accommodate me on that by keeping my kid from Santa, but I would have a right to be annoyed.

You are correct, but I think that if it was so very very important to only see the very one and only Santa and only with Mom and Dad, that would have been communicated to people like a sitter that may do activities with the kids. 

*I may also be projecting because I spent far too long as a nanny having to come up with activities that would be fun but also were not on the list of Mom/Dad only things. 

[dexteroni]

lol. Seriously, relax. There is zero in your post that warrants annoyance. So your kids see two Santas one year. Big deal. So they don't look their best. Are they going to be photographed by the paparazzi and posted on TMZ? Come on. Have a cookie and a drink and chill out.

[irishbride2]

Dec 22, 2014 13:25:42 GMT -5 @iteach said:

So, I'm terrible for letting my niece go see Santa for the 12th time this year when I took her shopping last week? We didn't do pictures, she just wanted to go say hi and remind him of what she wanted. I've never been able to go with her to see Santa, so it was fun for me (especially since my sister told us she was only allowed to wave as she walked by), I couldn't resist taking her.

If your sister specifically told you not to, then yes you are terrible. 


The OP is overreacting, though

[jinkies]

My kids regularly look homeless in public, so I can't relate on that one.

But I do get a little annoyed at other people taking my kids to see Santa without giving me a heads up, at least. Different people tell their kids different things about Santa, and why he is so available to the public during December, and why he may look different when you see him in different places. Especially if you have a kid that's leaning toward skeptical, I'd be annoyed that someone took the kid without running it past me.

[Eagles]

Hey @iteach.  Explain. 

[jinkies]

Dec 22, 2014 13:25:18 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

True story- My MIL did this to my SIL. She was babysitting nephew and took him for his first haircut without my SIL knowing or giving permission. SIL WAS PIIIIISSSSSSSED, it's still a touchy subject like 3 years later. 

I don't think MIL will ever take another kid for a haircut again LOL

Wait... are you my SIL?

My MIL did this 5 years ago, and I'm still a little salty about it.

[DotAndBuzz]

I get it.

I keep Santa visits under lock down because N is getting to the age where she may start putting the pieces together, and I want to keep the magic going for her for as long as possible. One visit, w/ parents. I would be annoyed about that part, not what they wore. I mean, unless she's blasting them all over the internet (which would earn multiple side-eyes for me for other reasons), who cares what they wore? It wasn't their visit with you, with the keepsake pictures, so eh. Outfit choice is not the issue here.

Oh, and our mall Santa is absolutely the same guy, every year. He's amazing, and wonderful w/ the kids, and I have a picture of him dancing with N 2 years ago. So that's another reason I only go to him.

[cinnamoncox]

I understand your frustrations. I would be bothered too. I'm sorry she didn't tell you what was going on for the day. I would expect my child care provider to let me know these things. Not a minute by minute schedule, just oh Monday I'm thinking of taking the kids to the mall/Santa/zoo/whatever. I like to know where my children are, at the very least.