My turn to play: Am I being a Scrooge? (2nd update in OP)

[zoomzoom]

I wouldn't expose an infant to that situation.

[Deleted]

No. Not without the flu vaccine (that didn't even work this year)

I have 2 coworkers in the hospital with pneumonia right now. I'm not fucking around with the flu.

[ohgillian]

Nope. Nope nope nope.

[usuallylurking]

I wouldn't. I wouldn't even bring my vaccinated self and kids around someone who was diagnosed with it. Sorry, that sucks

[VeryViolet]

I am going to be honest with you and give you an amazing backhanded compliment. I saw the title and the poster and thought "YUP probably being a scrooge" but no definitely do not take your infant around people who have the flu. I would not let anyone who had been in the same vicinity of grandma or who had the slightest sniffle look at my infant.

You're welcome for being an asshole while validating your decisions.

[april37]

I would not go. Not worth the risk.

[trafficgirl]

There is no way I would have taken the boys as infants anywhere that has the risk of being flu-infested. Just no.

[cleo29]

I would not risk it.

[So_Fetch]

I wouldn't put myself in that situation even with the flu shot. I don't think you're a scrooge at all.

[macmars45]

Not Scrooge. /gavel

[Deleted]

Nope, not worth it at all. I don't think you're overreacting.

[macmars45]

Dec 22, 2014 16:47:57 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

Dec 22, 2014 16:40:14 GMT -5 trafficgirl said:

There is no way I would have taken the boys as infants anywhere that has the risk of being flu-infested. Just no.

So what specifically does this mean?

I (with or without H) could take T back to our house (5 hours) and stay there with him and allow M to stay with his cousins (all 30 or so) and have Christmas with presents and tree and family gatherings...

Or we could stay as a family (H, T, M, and I) at my IL's and just not see my side of the family. Which means M gets a very abbreviated Xmas celebration with only the grown ups, no cousins, and no Grandma and Grandpa.

Or is there another option?


More background: My sister flew in from out of state and will be at my parents until Jan 5th and doesn't have the option to stay anywhere else. She will unavoidably be around my parents, niece, BIL, and all the other extended family (who have all been around Grandma).

FaceTime or Skype with sister. No way would I expose my unvaccinated infant to the flu. Good thing Christmas happens every year; see your extended family then.

[nsl]

Not a Scrooge. This is a nasty flu season, and in the long run you will have so many Christmases with family that missing this one won't be a big deal.

[gingerjar]

I wouldn't go. Not worth the risk, especially with an infant.

[trafficgirl]

Dec 22, 2014 16:47:57 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

Dec 22, 2014 16:40:14 GMT -5 trafficgirl said:

There is no way I would have taken the boys as infants anywhere that has the risk of being flu-infested. Just no.

So what specifically does this mean?

I (with or without H) could take T back to our house (5 hours) and stay there with him and allow M to stay with his cousins (all 30 or so) and have Christmas with presents and tree and family gatherings...

Or we could stay as a family (H, T, M, and I) at my IL's and just not see my side of the family. Which means M gets a very abbreviated Xmas celebration with only the grown ups, no cousins, and no Grandma and Grandpa.

Or is there another option?


More background: My sister flew in from out of state and will be at my parents until Jan 5th and doesn't have the option to stay anywhere else. She will unavoidably be around my parents, niece, BIL, and all the other extended family (who have all been around Grandma).

It just means that I wouldn't have risked having my infant boys around people who were either sick or people who were constantly around sick people. I was really paranoid about them last year because they were so tiny at the time.

I'm thinking more in terms of what I would do if someone in my family was sick and basically all of Christmas was flu-infested. And I just wouldn't go.  But our boys are also very young and don't really "get" Christmas, and I didn't have an older sibling to contend with.

Given your situation, I would probably choose to stay with the ILs and not risk it. But obviously that does not take into account your feelings on all this stuff (staying with the ILs, not seeing your family, M's shortened Xmas, etc).

Sorry you're in this situation

[macmars45]

Dec 22, 2014 17:08:14 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

Dec 22, 2014 16:56:33 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

FaceTime or Skype with sister. No way would I expose my unvaccinated infant to the flu. Good thing Christmas happens every year; see your extended family then.

So is this a vote to all stay at ILs or take infant home and let kid stay to have the Xmas trimmings?

All stay at ILs, no Christmas trimmings this year. Kid and/or your H could get flu or just give it to infant. I wouldn't screw around with that. No way.

[ECB]

Dec 22, 2014 16:47:57 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

I (with or without H) could take T back to our house (5 hours) and stay there with him and allow M to stay with his cousins (all 30 or so) and have Christmas with presents and tree and family gatherings...

Or we could stay as a family (H, T, M, and I) at my IL's and just not see my side of the family. Which means M gets a very abbreviated Xmas celebration with only the grown ups, no cousins, and no Grandma and Grandpa.

I;m confused. T is the baby? Why would you leave w/ the baby and go home and be alone while your DH stays w/ his family?  Or do you mean DH would stay and see YOUR family?

Do option 2- you all stay w/ your ILs and not see your family.

If option 1 means your DH sees your family..... then what's the point of you and T going home?  If stuff gets spread, it will be spread to your DH and M and then to you!!

[zoomzoom]

Dec 22, 2014 17:14:21 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Dec 22, 2014 17:08:14 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

So is this a vote to all stay at ILs or take infant home and let kid stay to have the Xmas trimmings?

All stay at ILs, no Christmas trimmings this year. Kid and/or your H could get flu or just give it to infant. I wouldn't screw around with that. No way.

Exactly this.  All of it.  I know he'll be disappointed b/c he's old enough to know what's going on but it isn't worth the risk.  I love the idea of Skype/Facetime.  By the time he opens presents, he'll be excited by all of that.

[Kristinmo]

Nope. I'm generally breezy about babies and germs but I would not knowingly expose anyone to the flu.

[ECB]

If sis has the flu, I say that you all stay away. Whether that means at your ILs or back at home - stay together. If she doesn't have the flu... then figure out what works best. I do understand wanting to make this as great a holiday for M as possible.