Post-Christmas Flamefuls/Confessions/Vents/LOLz/Randoms?

[hisno1girl]

Mine are mostly randoms:

I went into the bedroom we're sleeping in and found my grandson using one of my bras to bring out a shitton of his Matchbox cars. He filled the cups and was just ready to walk out when I walked in. I told him to put it down and did but then he ran out yelling, "Sissy come look at grandma's bra!!! It's HUGE! It's like a GIANT!"

Also, my granddaughter told me she could see my underwear through my leggings. Her father was horrified but I was thankful she told me since I had asked DH and he said they were fine.

[jlt19]

Im sure I pissed my mom off because I basically told her I don't like her family and I'm sick of being guilted into spending time with them.

[kayakjenn]

Oh, I am trying to accept my sister's BF. My sister is 44, I thought her BF was 21. Nope, turns out he'll TURN 21 in 2015. I spent an entire afternoon and evening serving someone underage. Thanks sis. He also talks incessantly, usually about things no one is interested in. Like lizzards and the device in cans of Guiness that allow for something having to do with foam or some shit. And I don't mean to make fun of him but he has a very nasal voice, it's a little grating.

Overall he does seem like a sweet guy, though. But he's 20/21, my sister is 2 years older than his mother. I spent an hour after he left trying to convince my mom that he doesn't have a drug problem, she's a little judgey on the long hair and tattoos.

[nadasteph]

Yesterday, while I was helping my mom get Christmas dinner ready, my 2 year old niece taps me on the arm and kept trying to tell me something. I couldn't understand her so finally she pulled me over to show me that my 13 month old had climbed up the stairs by himself and was just chilling at the top of the staircase playing with a plant. The same staircase that my H, dad, brother and BIL were sitting right near the bottom of talking in the livingroom. I was so pissed they didn't notice, but OMG, my niece is my new favorite. We kept calling her Lassie after that.

[milosh]

Dec 26, 2014 9:38:35 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

Mine are mostly randoms:

I went into the bedroom we're sleeping in and found my grandson using one of my bras to bring out a shitton of his Matchbox cars. He filled the cups and was just ready to walk out when I walked in. I told him to put it down and did but then he ran out yelling, "Sissy come look at grandma's bra!!! It's HUGE! It's like a GIANT!"

Also, my granddaughter told me she could see my underwear through my leggings. Her father was horrified but I was thankful she told me since I had asked DH and he said they were fine.

I think the only flameful part of this is that you weren't wearing something long enough to cover your bum. Leggings are not pants!

[Deleted]

I am now on day 3 of wearing the same black stretch pants. I am too bloated to even consider other options.

[keyslover]

Dec 26, 2014 9:48:44 GMT -5 jlt19 said:

Im sure I pissed my mom off because I basically told her I don't like her family and I'm sick of being guilted into spending time with them.

I liked this because you took a stand. I like life is too short to hang with douchey people. Even if they are family.

[cats]

Dec 26, 2014 9:59:19 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I am now on day 3 of wearing the same black stretch pants. I am too bloated to even consider other options.

If this is flameful, I better back myself out of this post. 

It's the holidays; wearing black stretch pants is the Christmas carol of my people. 

[bluetopaz]

Mine's more of a vent. Since I've been a part of the family (8 years now, wow) H's grandmother has always displayed this big, gaudy ornament that was from H's ex-wife. XW apparently made it, and it says "Love, Mary" (XW's name). It somehow always ends up front an center on the mantle. I silently stew over it a bit every year, but it's not worth saying anything. This year, my H noticed it and asked his grandma about it. This ended up in the both of us getting a massive lecture about not judging his XW and how those without sin should cast the first stone, blah blah blah. (XW had a drug habit and was cheating on H left and right, so it's not like she's some innocent angel.)

[ginandjucie24]

Confession: My DS has worn a tuxedo outfit/T-shirt every year for New Year's Eve, when I was buying his tuxedo shirt for this year I bought one for my H and myself in our sizes to wear as well. We are not going anywhere that night and will just be hanging out at home.

I am very excited to have "coordinating" outfits.

[pinkeggs]

Dec 26, 2014 9:49:31 GMT -5 kayakjenn said:

Wow. That is a story.

Mine is that I don't know what has gotten into DH the last few days but I don't remember the last time we had this much sex. When we were first living together maybe? And it's GOOD sex, too. Very random, but hey, not complaining! We've had our dry spells and frustrations with libidos (mostly mine) since DD1 was born, so this is kind of a nice change.

[emsumm]

Dec 26, 2014 9:48:44 GMT -5 jlt19 said:

Im sure I pissed my mom off because I basically told her I don't like her family and I'm sick of being guilted into spending time with them.

I'm sure you did too? That seems like....not the nicest thing to say. Especially on xmas, no?

[litebright]

I am checking out post-Christmas sales when I have no business doing so. But DH loves the Armani Exchange T-shirts as undershirts, and they're 50% off!

We got a good 4-5 inches of snow last night and we are taking the girls sledding. Then I have to slog through at least a few hours of work, which sucks.

[escrow]

My mom and step dad gave me like $400, even though we all agreed that we would only buy for the little kids this year. I have a really hard time taking money from them but it makes my mom sooooo damned happy. Anyway. I am now taking my car in because some stupid lights won't go off, damn electronics! I'm sad I'll probably be spending that money on the car

[whitemerlot]

Vent: I left my ham and a huge container of delicious potatoes out overnight and now I have to throw it away. I'm very disappointed.

[Deleted]

Kakajen- do you think maybe the BF is on the spectrum? A few friends of mine who are on the spectrum tend to end up in May/ Dec relationships & talk endlessly at times about seemingly random topics.

I hope your sis really loves him, & this is a good relationship for both of them.

[jlt19]

Dec 26, 2014 10:20:19 GMT -5 emsumm said:

Dec 26, 2014 9:48:44 GMT -5 jlt19 said:

Im sure I pissed my mom off because I basically told her I don't like her family and I'm sick of being guilted into spending time with them.

I'm sure you did too? That seems like....not the nicest thing to say. Especially on xmas, no?

I agree, I normally wouldn't have brought it up but it all started innocently enough and just snowballed. She's one of those people that just thinks you automatically should believe/ think the way she does and she was "bashing" relatives that I actually agree with. I just tried to stick up for them and then it all got out of hand. I also basically told my BIL I thought he was a racist asshole. Merry Christmas!

[keyslover]

Dec 26, 2014 10:20:19 GMT -5 emsumm said:

Dec 26, 2014 9:48:44 GMT -5 jlt19 said:

Im sure I pissed my mom off because I basically told her I don't like her family and I'm sick of being guilted into spending time with them.

I'm sure you did too? That seems like....not the nicest thing to say. Especially on xmas, no?

 
I could be jaded by dysfunctional family events, but why doesn't it matter if it was on Christmas?  Just because it is a holiday doesn't mean you forget everything.  


I find new boundaries are generally set after a holiday or family gathering.  

(Not trying to start a fight emsumm, just get annoyed that people think holidays are a free for all to act like assholes and family members are supposed to forgive and forget)

[RoxMonster]

I'm sure you will all be entertained with my IL vents this weekend--we are not seeing family until tomorrow and Sunday. H and I have already said that if BIL or MIL is being nasty to us, we will leave and stay in a hotel instead. So....that might happen.

BIL has already made some snarky remarks about us not being able to be there on Christmas Day.

[emsumm]

Dec 26, 2014 10:37:19 GMT -5 keyslover said:

Dec 26, 2014 10:20:19 GMT -5 emsumm said:

I'm sure you did too? That seems like....not the nicest thing to say. Especially on xmas, no?

 
I could be jaded by dysfunctional family events, but why doesn't it matter if it was on Christmas?  Just because it is a holiday doesn't mean you forget everything.  


I find new boundaries are generally set after a holiday or family gathering.  

(Not trying to start a fight emsumm, just get annoyed that people think holidays are a free for all to act like assholes and family members are supposed to forgive and forget)

Oh, idk. Goodwill to all men and all that. Lol :-)

[dirtyred]

Dec 26, 2014 10:01:41 GMT -5 cats said:

Dec 26, 2014 9:59:19 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I am now on day 3 of wearing the same black stretch pants. I am too bloated to even consider other options.

If this is flameful, I better back myself out of this post. 

It's the holidays; wearing black stretch pants is the Christmas carol of my people. 

I have been living in the same pair of yoga pants since Tuesday. Day and night. I take them off to shower and put them back on. I may have to break my streak as my dad wants to go out to dinner tonight and they've picked up some food/flour particles that I don't think I want to show off to the general public

[ginandjucie24]

Dec 26, 2014 9:59:19 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I am now on day 3 of wearing the same black stretch pants. I am too bloated to even consider other options.

I like this for the black stretch pants part.

[rosiebear]

Dec 26, 2014 10:33:18 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

Kakajen- do you think maybe the BF is on the spectrum? A few friends of mine who are on the spectrum tend to end up in May/ Dec relationships & talk endlessly at times about seemingly random topics.

I hope your sis really loves him, & this is a good relationship for both of them.

That is a very interesting observation! One of my nephews is on the spectrum and he had a relationship with a woman my age after talking with her over the internet for years.

He is back living with his parents now, though.

[Deleted]

my daughter informed me on Christmas morning that she is getting "buds" and needs a bra. She is 7. She neither has buds, or needs a bra. I was dying laughing. this isn't a flameful or confession but I didn't know where to post it lol

[hisno1girl]

Dec 26, 2014 9:56:24 GMT -5 milosh said:

Dec 26, 2014 9:38:35 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

Mine are mostly randoms:

I went into the bedroom we're sleeping in and found my grandson using one of my bras to bring out a shitton of his Matchbox cars. He filled the cups and was just ready to walk out when I walked in. I told him to put it down and did but then he ran out yelling, "Sissy come look at grandma's bra!!! It's HUGE! It's like a GIANT!"

Also, my granddaughter told me she could see my underwear through my leggings. Her father was horrified but I was thankful she told me since I had asked DH and he said they were fine.

I think the only flameful part of this is that you weren't wearing something long enough to cover your bum. Leggings are not pants!

No, no, no! I had on a long cardigan sweater but I had taken it off in the house and was bending over when she told me about my underwear.  

[W.T.Faulkner]

Last night, all of my dad's sisters backed my mom into a corner and told/asked her the following:
1. They know I am liberal and left-wing, and they fear for me because I "don't know what that means." Liberal means I support marriage equality and abortion! Gasp!
2. Why am I not married yet? Isn't my mom uncomfortable with my living in sin? Doesn't my mom want a wedding? Doesn't my mom want a married daughter?


I am no longer responding to their texts/calls/invitations for the forseeable future, and now, when I do get engaged, I'm straight-up hiding it from them.

[sugarbear]

We inadvertently crashed my brother and SIL's Christmas brunch with her family. Brother told me, Tuesday, to come over at 9ish for gifts, everyone else is coming at 11. Great! But then he texted yesterday that the baby was asleep, so come at 10:30. So we show up, empty-handed, play for awhile, and then exchange gifts, all while sil is running around cleaning. Then her family starts showing up in droves, and it would have been more awkward to leave right then. Then the food comes out, and Ds asks for some. So we all eat and stayed for another hour. It was actually fun, and I don't think they minded (we know and like her family a lot), but I feel weird about it today.

Not to mention, they gave gifts to us as well as our kids, even though I thought we'd established we were his doing kids. Oh well.

[hisno1girl]

Dec 26, 2014 10:12:46 GMT -5 Les Paul said:

We had a delightful Christmas yesterday with my daughters. Today we get to take DH's son and daughter out to dinner - the sole purpose of which is for them to collect their gifts from DH. They are willing to carve an hour out of their lives when it includes receiving money or gifts (and a free meal). I have tried for 8 years to have a relationship with them, but they refuse to acknowledge that I am a part of the family and treat me like shit. I'm done trying. It feels good to finally set a boundary, and not let them hurt me anymore.

Blended families are hard.  

((Les))

[LeggsBenedict]

both my credit card and debit card information were stolen yesterday. so now I have 2 locked accounts while I'm out of town.

[Deleted]

Dec 26, 2014 10:52:49 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

Dec 26, 2014 10:33:18 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

Kakajen- do you think maybe the BF is on the spectrum? A few friends of mine who are on the spectrum tend to end up in May/ Dec relationships & talk endlessly at times about seemingly random topics.

I hope your sis really loves him, & this is a good relationship for both of them.

That is a very interesting observation! One of my nephews is on the spectrum and he had a relationship with a woman my age after talking with her over the internet for years.

He is back living with his parents now, though.

A friend of mine on the spectrum said that women who are a little older are more accepting & can see past his behaviors that seem "strange" to others.