@shoegal I've been trying to tell myself that it's just because I didn't see my stepbrother's two ill-behaved monsters over the holidays like normal. Usually an hour with them and my desire to remain a DINK household is solid. Alternately, maybe it's because I'm bored at work for the first time in a few years? Still, every other time in my life I've been bored at work, I've focused on my hobbies or renovating our house. I'm still into hobbies and renos, but the instant feeling of "Oh hell no" when the thought of a kid arises has been replaced by, "yeah, that would be a lot of work, but a good change." If you find a cure, let me know!
Post by Velvetshady on Jan 9, 2015 14:49:19 GMT -5
I've got a super slow day at work today and I'm trying to be better this year than last--instead of waiting until the second half of Dec to do half my required training hours, I'm spending the day doing a "learning activity" (listening to an audio book on a work related topic). Man I'm having flashbacks to some long college lectures...
My admins are all pissing off the main boss today. They are all being too busy while doing mental filing (napping) and the main boss (our Torie) wants to hold reorganization meetings that no one will attend (err, umm, play chase around the house).
We waffled back and forth, and DH said ultimately he was happy no matter what my decision.
If I have to predict the future, I think this is exactly what would happen with DH and I. I'm worried that eventually he'll regret it or feel that I talked him into things. Then again, he's the laid back one of the two of us, so who knows.
@shoegal - That makes two of us who will be curious! The "good" news is that DH has a lot of heavy stuff going on right now which will likely have financial implications. That means my IUD is staying put for the balance of the year, which gives my plenty of time to "come to my senses" (or not).
I'm WFH today because I'm sick. I've been sick on and off for 2 weeks, first a cold and now the stomach flu. I'm just so sick of being sick. At least I have a cute cuddly cat to keep me company.
We waffled back and forth, and DH said ultimately he was happy no matter what my decision.
If I have to predict the future, I think this is exactly what would happen with DH and I. I'm worried that eventually he'll regret it or feel that I talked him into things. Then again, he's the laid back one of the two of us, so who knows.
How many times do I have to ask my office manager/payroll person/admin to change my damn address so I can stop paying NYC taxes? Shouldn't 2 be enough? WTF buddy, you're costing me money now. And he even emailed me back the last time I asked to tell me that he'd change it, and yet I just got another paystub with the old address.
I hate confrontation in the office, but the guy is playing video games and this is annoying me. WTF. Is it on me to do another W-2 or something? I really don't know, I figured telling him would be enough.
My personal life is a mess. A guy (Y) I was casually seeing (both interesed in taking it slow in regards to a relationship) needed a place to live very quickly so I offered him the spare room in our 3 bedroom house (after clearing it with my roommate) for 3 months then we'd re-evaluate. That was about a month ago. Except, he's not sleeping in the spare room. He's hot, funny and a generally nice guy, though not my normal "type". We had a conversation earlier in the week and he stated that he had no expectations in regards to "us". I told him I didn't know what I want and he said that "this would be a good time to figure it out but you don't have to make a decision right now. Just enjoy life and the time together."
Why is it a mess? Because this situation has caused another of my semi-casual guys (PL) to realize that he does want a committed relationship and has genuinely surprised me with his communications and efforts over the past month. I've wanted to explore more with PL for several months but he wasn't ready and neither was I truthfully. At first I thought it was him being territorial but we've had several conversations and I think he's being honest and open with his feelings. I really want to have a relationship with him.
So this weekend, I need to have a convo with Y about PL and tell him he needs to start sleeping in the spare bedroom. So that's going to be a hard conversation and awkward. If it makes it too uncomfortable for Y, his only other real option is to move back home, which is 4 states away as he had moved down here to try and get a fresh start.
Did I mention I hate confrontation? *head to desk*