I did take his last name I was excited to do it! Now, the controversy (a few people commented on it...not a ton) was that I moved my maiden name to my middle name. All the women in my family have done it. It was a nice tradition that I wanted to follow.
I took his and did not keep my maiden. to me, it was no question, that is tradition and what is done. I wanted to keep my middle name since I love it. what's sad is that my sisters and I are the last in our generation with our last name, and my dad's siblings have a different last name (his half-siblings by a different father), so the only way to pass it down is for a) my youngest sister to have a baby and give it her maiden name, or b) for us to give our last name to a son as a first/middle name, which my middle sister did.
it would have been more controversial on my side of the family for me to keep my maiden name, either not changing my name at all or moving it to my middle. my MIL did move her maiden name to her middle.
I took my husband's last name. I honestly was done with my father's family since my dad died so I was more then happy to change it. I only talk to one uncle on that side of my family and that's it.
I took my husband's name and was very happy to do it. His name is fairly common and easy to spell, whereas my maiden name is very hard to spell and pronounce.
I changed my last name, which apparently offended my dad. Oh, well. I was happy to finally have one part of my name that didn't require a spelling explanation.
Post by HoneySpider on Jan 13, 2015 16:03:36 GMT -5
I took my husband's name, there was no question for me, I am all about tradition. Although I think it's kind of weird to just give up the name you've had and it was especially weird going from an uncommon (and hard to pronounce) name to a common one. I still spell my name out of habit.
Post by wanderingenough on Jan 13, 2015 16:13:30 GMT -5
I pulled a MrsMB. I took his last name and moved maiden to middle. It's what my mom did. Plus my signature would still work based on the way it's signed.
My maiden was definitely more common and easier. I also cause even more trouble by monogramming things with my middle initial instead of maiden.
Legally I didn't change it due to my status in the United States it would have been such a hassle and expensive to change it. So I kept my maiden for all my legal documents/work stuff but socially I use my H's name. I would have loved to take it formally and legally, but it just wasn't doable.
Post by estrellita on Jan 13, 2015 16:36:49 GMT -5
I took H's name, mostly because I wanted the same last name as my kids and didn't want to hyphenate theirs. I do sometimes miss my maiden name because I shared it with a favorite hockey player
I did take his last name I was excited to do it! Now, the controversy (a few people commented on it...not a ton) was that I moved my maiden name to my middle name. All the women in my family have done it. It was a nice tradition that I wanted to follow.
Ditto this. It's actually useful for things that are still under my maiden name because my drivers license provides proof of my maiden name. Also for things my mom puts under her name (she does this if she books hotel rooms together or something).
I hyphenated mine. I wanted to keep my maiden, and DH wanted me to take his, so this was the compromise. If I had it to do again, I'd just keep my maiden. Largely on feminist principles, in all honesty. I'm not much of a traditional person and DH and I definitely don't follow "traditional" relationship roles
megkat Does your DD have your H's last name or a hyphenated name? And if you kept your maiden name would it be the same? Or could it be your maiden name?
I always wonder how this decision is made when last names of the parents differ.
I took his last name--I liked it better than mine because it's simpler and I don't have to spell it out all the time. Had it been something super long or complicated, I might have kept mine...or asked him to take mine instead so we'd still have a shared last name!
megkat Does your DD have your H's last name or a hyphenated name? And if you kept your maiden name would it be the same? Or could it be your maiden name?
I always wonder how this decision is made when last names of the parents differ.
Not to hijack, but I know a couple that both kept their own last names and their plan was to give any boys they have the father's last name and any girls they have the mother's last name. They don't have kids yet, so we'll see, but I thought that was interesting!
Post by ginkgoleaf on Jan 13, 2015 18:53:30 GMT -5
I took DH's last name. I wanted future children to have the same last name as us. Hyphenating would have made a really long last name. I have my middle name and maiden name as "middle" on most forms. My parents really wanted me to have my maiden name as middle, that's what they do in their family.
I have friends who combined their last names into a new last name.
megkat Does your DD have your H's last name or a hyphenated name? And if you kept your maiden name would it be the same? Or could it be your maiden name?
I always wonder how this decision is made when last names of the parents differ.
DD has my (hyphenated) last name. That was really important to me, and I told DH that before I even got pregnant. He was fine with that, since part of it is his name too. If I'd kept my maiden name? I'd probably still have wanted to hyphenate, so she could have a part of each name. I'd probably have been open to discussing her having H's last name though. But since I compromised on my name, I decided I wasn't budging on hers, lol
I also have a very...complicated relationship with my IL's, which didn't make me super anxious to give ANYTHING their last name. For the first three years we were married, MIL sent all my mail to Megan H's Lastname. She finally knocked it off after DH had a very serious chat with her.
megkat Does your DD have your H's last name or a hyphenated name? And if you kept your maiden name would it be the same? Or could it be your maiden name?
I always wonder how this decision is made when last names of the parents differ.
Not to hijack, but I know a couple that both kept their own last names and their plan was to give any boys they have the father's last name and any girls they have the mother's last name. They don't have kids yet, so we'll see, but I thought that was interesting!
That is interesting. I've never heard of someone doing that but it kind of makes sense. But then also the kids wouldn't have the same last name. I wonder if that would matter to them
I took my husband's name and was very happy to do it. His name is fairly common and easy to spell, whereas my maiden name is very hard to spell and pronounce.
I took my H's. I liked my maiden a lot so I kept it as my middle. Growing up, my mom kept her maiden. It was always so annoying to have to explain it to friends, etc. It was a lot more rare back then. Funny story is that the hospital where I was born bullied my mom into signing my birth certificate with my dad's last name, which she has never used in her life except then. It looks so weird to see it there! She got remarried and took my stepdad's last name for a change. Anyhow, I like the togetherness as a family it makes me feel. But, I completely respect those who want to keep theirs. If his last name was something like Butts I would have kept mine.. ha. Both of ours are fairly common/easy to spell.
I took my husband's name and was very happy to do it. His name is fairly common and easy to spell, whereas my maiden name is very hard to spell and pronounce.
This was me as well.
My maiden name was 13 letters and really hard to pronounce. My new last name is 5 letters and it's a very common name. (It's a first name as well as a last.)
If his last name was something like Butts I would have kept mine.. ha.
Lol this made me think of my ex's wife. Her first and last name are now the same. That's one instance where I absolutely would have hyphenated or kept my last name!
ETA This post has nothing to do with butts though. Her name is not Butt Butts lol.
If his last name was something like Butts I would have kept mine.. ha.
Lol this made me think of my ex's wife. Her first and last name are now the same. That's one instance where I absolutely would have hyphenated or kept my last name!
ETA This post has nothing to do with butts though. Her name is not Butt Butts lol.
Wouldn't that be something. lol.
I would have kept my maiden name if my first and last name would be the same.