Is "compassion fail" worth reading?

[pixy0stix]

knitting, crocheting, white guilt, miracle whip. Y'know, the standard fare.

[wawa]

It has gone in many directions. But somehow casmg keeps managing to bring it around to how right she is.

You'd think she'd have given up after the two page yarn related derailment.

[UMaineTeach]

no, not worth it

[zelda25]

Maybe one page; the other 12 pages are just a repeat of each other.

[emmybean]

It's beautiful and lovely and everything I love about message boards.

[ESF]

Aug 6, 2012 15:33:36 GMT -5 emmybean said:

It's beautiful and lovely and everything I love about message boards.

Pretty much this.

It's got everything an epic thread should have.

[ringstrue]

do it for the sikh glitter.

[AJL]

I think Steve expresses my answer best. (Except there was an interesting detour regarding yarn and fabric. Very surreal.)

[pedanticwench]

I'm just pissed that people are hating on Miracle Whip.

[casmgn]

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

[pixy0stix]

Aug 6, 2012 15:42:19 GMT -5 AJL said:

I think Steve expresses my answer best. (Except there was an interesting detour regarding yarn and fabric. Very surreal.)

I'm going to have to explain to my coworkers why excel spreadsheets are so funny.

[ESF]

Aug 6, 2012 15:43:58 GMT -5 casmgn said:

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

I heard on the news that 99.9% of us are right. You can tell who we are by the fact that none of us are named casmgn. HTH.

[wawa]

Aug 6, 2012 15:43:58 GMT -5 casmgn said:

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

:-|

you know, I just reread page one to see if you got your ass handed to you before it was warranted. And you didn't. You were getting fairly benign criticism that didn't even approach flaming until you called everybody a bunch of flaming bitches with holier than thou attitudes. The worst you had gotten till then was emmy saying, "no, that's fucking weird." And from emmy that's practically a hug and a kind word.

[emmybean]

Aug 6, 2012 15:43:58 GMT -5 casmgn said:

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

What's funny is that I usually agree with this.

But some days, people reveal themselves as truly cray-cray and the "pile-up" is well deserved.

Today was one of those days. You are one of those cray-cray's.

But maybe you can find a The USA Today article that says otherwise.

[AJL]

And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*

Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!

[mominatrix]

Aug 6, 2012 15:49:34 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Aug 6, 2012 15:43:58 GMT -5 casmgn said:

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

SHUT UP!!! Oh my God. You soooooo could have had the good will of this board and you SPENT it on the first fucking page of that thread. My God, why are you still hanging on 13 pages later?!? You could have gone with a "hmmm shrug I didn't *mean* it to be that way" and instead you've gone on for 13 pages about how awesome and informed and tolerant you are and what a giant burlap sack full of whores the rest of us are. As if the mere difference of opinion on this topic is an indication of a character flaw in everyone.

And for the last time, the problem ISN'T what you did. It's the way you have defended it. For real. I'm sure there are more than a handful of people out there, including some who actually posted in that thread, who thought what you did was nice or was at least done with your heart in the right place. But you have undone all of that. No one wants to support you because you have been such a snatchwagon for the past 4 hours.

Come back tomorrow. Pretend today didn't happen. GBCN allows for this. Believe me. But jesus, mary, and fucking joseph, shut up about your amazing fucking tolerance and compassion.

Spot on.
Spot fucking on.

...via mobile.

[wawa]

Aug 6, 2012 15:52:42 GMT -5 AJL said:

And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*

Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!

sorry. As penance - tell me your thoughts on the blogger trend of using home depot drop clothes as home decor fabric.

I'm gonna need a lot of window treatments in the next year or so, and they look nice in pictures, but i feel like it'll look cheap as shit in person.

[copzgirl1171]

I don't want to dress in burlap. It itches

[wawa]

Aug 6, 2012 15:56:18 GMT -5 @copzgirl1171 said:

I don't want to dress in burlap. It itches

See MrsAJL, we ARE still talking about fabric.

[AJL]

Aug 6, 2012 15:56:02 GMT -5 wawa said:

Aug 6, 2012 15:52:42 GMT -5 AJL said:

And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*

Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!

sorry. As penance - tell me your thoughts on the blogger trend of using home depot drop clothes as home decor fabric.

I'm gonna need a lot of window treatments in the next year or so, and they look nice in pictures, but i feel like it'll look cheap as shit in person.

What?! This is a thing?! Yeah, I'm going to have to see pictures.

Also IKEA sells decor fabric rather cheaply, and while some is on the garish side, some of it is really lovely.

[AJL]

Aug 6, 2012 15:56:18 GMT -5 @copzgirl1171 said:

I don't want to dress in burlap. It itches

Don't forget the ashes! Sackcloth is nothing without ashes.

[pixy0stix]

I didn't need to know that ikea sells fabric. I can't get DH to drive down there at all. I keep trying, but after one visit he refuses to go again.

[wawa]

Aug 6, 2012 15:57:42 GMT -5 AJL said:

Aug 6, 2012 15:56:02 GMT -5 wawa said:

sorry. As penance - tell me your thoughts on the blogger trend of using home depot drop clothes as home decor fabric.

I'm gonna need a lot of window treatments in the next year or so, and they look nice in pictures, but i feel like it'll look cheap as shit in person.

What?! This is a thing?! Yeah, I'm going to have to see pictures.

Also IKEA sells decor fabric rather cheaply, and while some is on the garish side, some of it is really lovely.

I'll have to check that out. I think we might end up at ikea for some new bedroom furniture anyway, so that should work out nicely.

examples of drop cloth curtains (just the first few links I found):
www.merrypad.com/2011/09/22/fabric-dye-colormatch-for-curtains/
www.chrislovesjulia.com/2012/04/how-to-our-double-trimmed-drop-cloth.html - I actually like these

www.allthingsthrifty.com/2012/02/tutorial-fork-and-knife-curtains.html

[AJL]

I like the curtains with the ribbon trim but I hate that she hot glued it. I'd have sewn it, but I'm kind of picky about those little details. I've never thought about using drop cloth. They don't look terrible.

[casmgn]

Aug 6, 2012 15:49:34 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Aug 6, 2012 15:43:58 GMT -5 casmgn said:

Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.

SHUT UP!!! Oh my God. You soooooo could have had the good will of this board and you SPENT it on the first fucking page of that thread. My God, why are you still hanging on 13 pages later?!? You could have gone with a "hmmm shrug I didn't *mean* it to be that way" and instead you've gone on for 13 pages about how awesome and informed and tolerant you are and what a giant burlap sack full of whores the rest of us are. As if the mere difference of opinion on this topic is an indication of a character flaw in everyone.

And for the last time, the problem ISN'T what you did. It's the way you have defended it. For real. I'm sure there are more than a handful of people out there, including some who actually posted in that thread, who thought what you did was nice or was at least done with your heart in the right place. But you have undone all of that. No one wants to support you because you have been such a snatchwagon for the past 4 hours.

Come back tomorrow. Pretend today didn't happen. GBCN allows for this. Believe me. But jesus, mary, and fucking joseph, shut up about your amazing fucking tolerance and compassion.

My point has not been to claim that I am so tolerant or compassionate, but to dispute that 1) it's weird/offensive to reach out to a stranger, 2) that you must be profiling if you can tell that a man wearing a turban is a Shikh, 3) that people don't appreciate others reaching out to them to express sorrow at what has happened to other members of their group and 4) that you might suffer from white guilt to feel and express such sorrow.

I really don't care if I don't have the support of a bunch of strangers. And I don't think that having a difference of opinion is a character flaw - it was clear what direction this was going to go in from the beginning once the "regulars" came in and started piling on about how weird/offensive/ignorant it is. Perhaps you don't see it because you are a regular poster, but as someone who reads a lot more than she posts, the whole group-think mean girl pileup is a common occurance on this board. Despite the numerous clarifications I've made as to what I said, why I was able to identify him as a Sikh, my intentions for saying something to him, his own response to me, and my intentions for my OP, people still continue to ignore all that and rail on with their preconcieved notions of how they think this all went down and/or what I really meant. That's okay, and to be expected on this board.

I've also since apologized for some of the language I've used because that is something I try to avoid on here. I used to join in the pile-ons in my knot days when I was in a bad place in my life, and I've since made a concerted effort not to be that person. So again, I apologize for calling people "bitches". I do stand by my comment that the regulars on here tend to suffer from mean girl group think however.

Anyway, I'm not sure why so many of you are still so up in arms about this. Who would have thought that a simple post about feeling bad about breaking terrible news to someone would garner this much rage?

[pixy0stix]

Aug 6, 2012 16:02:31 GMT -5 wawa said:

www.chrislovesjulia.com/2012/04/how-to-our-double-trimmed-drop-cloth.html - I actually like these

I wonder how long the ribbon stayed on before it started falling off.

[thejackpot]

Ok, Ikea has some pretty cool fabric. I LOVE fabric. Trying to get compassion fail out of my head.

[wawa]

Aug 6, 2012 16:08:51 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Aug 6, 2012 16:02:31 GMT -5 wawa said:

www.chrislovesjulia.com/2012/04/how-to-our-double-trimmed-drop-cloth.html - I actually like these

I wonder how long the ribbon stayed on before it started falling off.

I too wonder that with all the glue-happy bloggers out there.

I wouldn't want to sew all the ribbon though. I'm just not careful enough for that nonsense. How well do you think stich witchery would work?

[pixy0stix]

Aug 6, 2012 16:10:13 GMT -5 wawa said:

Aug 6, 2012 16:08:51 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I wonder how long the ribbon stayed on before it started falling off.

I too wonder that with all the glue-happy bloggers out there.

I wouldn't want to sew all the ribbon though. I'm just not careful enough for that nonsense. How well do you think stich witchery would work?

It'd work better than hot glue since it's specifically made to bond fabric with fabric.

[casmgn]

Aug 6, 2012 16:17:52 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Aug 6, 2012 16:06:44 GMT -5 casmgn said:

My point has not been to claim that I am so tolerant or compassionate, but to dispute that 1) it's weird/offensive to reach out to a stranger, 2) that you must be profiling if you can tell that a man wearing a turban is a Shikh, 3) that people don't appreciate others reaching out to them to express sorrow at what has happened to other members of their group and 4) that you might suffer from white guilt to feel and express such sorrow.

I really don't care if I don't have the support of a bunch of strangers. And I don't think that having a difference of opinion is a character flaw - it was clear what direction this was going to go in from the beginning once the "regulars" came in and started piling on about how weird/offensive/ignorant it is. Perhaps you don't see it because you are a regular poster, but as someone who reads a lot more than she posts, the whole group-think mean girl pileup is a common occurance on this board. Despite the numerous clarifications I've made as to what I said, why I was able to identify him as a Sikh, my intentions for saying something to him, his own response to me, and my intentions for my OP, people still continue to ignore all that and rail on with their preconcieved notions of how they think this all went down and/or what I really meant. That's okay, and to be expected on this board.

I've also since apologized for some of the language I've used because that is something I try to avoid on here. I used to join in the pile-ons in my knot days when I was in a bad place in my life, and I've since made a concerted effort not to be that person. So again, I apologize for calling people "bitches". I do stand by my comment that the regulars on here tend to suffer from mean girl group think however.

Anyway, I'm not sure why so many of you are still so up in arms about this. Who would have thought that a simple post about feeling bad about breaking terrible news to someone would garner this much rage?

You really, honestly do not get it and that makes this no longer fun. It's like trying to play catch with a two legged blind puppy.

I think it's you who honestly doesn't get it. I've explained in detail my thoughts on the matter and my intentions, yet you keep trying to assign meaning that isn't there. That's okay though.