bullygirl979 that's great news! Can you voluntarily go every 6 months if you want? Just for piece of mind?
I'm not sure if my insurance would pay for it seeing as it isn't recommended. I think I just need to relax, be better about self exams and remind myself that I still see an oncologist every 3 months.
Sooo....are you going to have an in person conversation with him?
bullygirl979 that's great news! Can you voluntarily go every 6 months if you want? Just for piece of mind?
I'm not sure if my insurance would pay for it seeing as it isn't recommended. I think I just need to relax, be better about self exams and remind myself that I still see an oncologist every 3 months.
Sooo....are you going to have an in person conversation with him?
I will, yes. He actually suggested tonight but he has his men's group tonight and when I asked about that he said he doesn't have to go every week. So naturally it annoyed me that he was going to change his plans for this. Yes, we need to talk but it doesn't HAVE to be tonight.
kaneen, I think it's just a place where you have to compromise and talk it out and it won't go further than that. You both obviously like each other very much, and this is just smoothing out the random spots that come up Good luck.
The interview on Monday went great, and the phone interview on Tuesday has already contacted me for an on-site interview! Fingers crossed.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jan 21, 2015 13:26:17 GMT -5
kaneen, ITA with gault. Even if it's not making you feel better right now, the fact that you two have started the conversation is a good thing. I hope you can get to a middle ground.
I'm not sure if my insurance would pay for it seeing as it isn't recommended. I think I just need to relax, be better about self exams and remind myself that I still see an oncologist every 3 months.
Sooo....are you going to have an in person conversation with him?
I will, yes. He actually suggested tonight but he has his men's group tonight and when I asked about that he said he doesn't have to go every week. So naturally it annoyed me that he was going to change his plans for this. Yes, we need to talk but it doesn't HAVE to be tonight.
Agreed but I get where he is coming from. If something bothers me, I want to get it resolved ASAP. If I don't, it will stay on my mind and distract me and therefore I can't really enjoy other things anyway.
Post by bullygirl979 on Jan 21, 2015 13:34:53 GMT -5
WTF? I went online to apply for that job and it is gone! The posting said that applications were being taken from 1/20-1/27! And, there are multiple contacts for other jobs, so I am not even sure who I would email to inquire what happened. Grr.
My dog just bit me. Grrrrr. These two need to get it together. We were out for a walk and I stopped the stroller because another dog was coming down the sidewalk. I sat and held them both by the collar and told them to sit and stay. M lunged at the dog anyway and got my arm instead. It didn't break the skin but I'm annoyed by the whole situation. I'm looking into trainers and doggy daycare for socialization since the dog park by myself with the girls and both dogs is not a safe alternative.
Agreed but I get where he is coming from. If something bothers me, I want to get it resolved ASAP. If I don't, it will stay on my mind and distract me and therefore I can't really enjoy other things anyway.
Agree with this. If it were me, I'd rather skip out on a recurring get together with friends and talk it out, so it didn't just keep hanging over my head.
And I'm glad you two can pinpoint what's bothering you kaneen. I'm sure you can find some middle ground.
This is me too. I think it's good that he's willing to prioritize trying to sort this out with you.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jan 21, 2015 15:09:39 GMT -5
I just realized how far I've lagged behind on attendance sheets for a couple conferences. It's not overly bad, but it's not pretty. Need to get on my game.
While I get your point what about my need for some space? I told him I'm already feeling smothered and he jumps to "let's get together and talk"? Um, yeah, that's exactly the opposite of what I just said I needed.
While I get your point what about my need for some space? I told him I'm already feeling smothered and he jumps to "let's get together and talk"? Um, yeah, that's exactly the opposite of what I just said I needed.
My bad. I thought you meant you were smothered by the physical affection.
While I get your point what about my need for some space? I told him I'm already feeling smothered and he jumps to "let's get together and talk"? Um, yeah, that's exactly the opposite of what I just said I needed.
My bad. I thought you meant you were smothered by the physical affection.
Well, in your defense that IS what I said on here. What? You can't read my mind?
The issue is that I actually feel smothered overall. He wants to spend LOTS of time together, touch all the time, email/text continually throughout the day. All of that just makes me want to run.
My bad. I thought you meant you were smothered by the physical affection.
Well, in your defense that IS what I said on here. What? You can't read my mind?
The issue is that I actually feel smothered overall. He wants to spend LOTS of time together, touch all the time, email/text continually throughout the day. All of that just makes me want to run.
I didn't understand that either. I figured he wanted to discuss it sooner rather than later because you brought up a concern. But if the concern is that you need less contact in every way, I understand why you're irritated.
I hope you two can work through this. To be honest, your posts initially confused me as to what you wanted. Now I get it and I hope he can hear it too.
That does seem overwhelming for only two months in.
Meh. P and I were totally like that 2 months in. Because we were in lurrrrvvveeee. Lol. Things gradually slowed down as the newness wore off. That being said, it needs to work for both parties.
Well, in your defense that IS what I said on here. What? You can't read my mind?
The issue is that I actually feel smothered overall. He wants to spend LOTS of time together, touch all the time, email/text continually throughout the day. All of that just makes me want to run.
I didn't understand that either. I figured he wanted to discuss it sooner rather than later because you brought up a concern. But if the concern is that you need less contact in every way, I understand why you're irritated.
I hope you two can work through this. To be honest, your posts initially confused me as to what you wanted. Now I get it and I hope he can hear it too.
I am apparently not good at communication at all today because I expected all of you to understand what I was NOT saying!
kaneen I thought you meant the constant touching was smothering, not the time together. Sorry for the confusion! If you need time to yourself, you should definitely have that
I've been MIA all day because I've realized that the temp guy we hired isn't doing his Job and I've spent all day tracking orders and making sure they are there and in the main book that goes with me on an installation. Maybe he's been tracking everything but all the other things I've asked aren't in the book either. Not to mention he was supposed to be here today and called in sick! WTF.
I have another woe. Apparently I am full of woe this Wednesday.
My hands hurt SO badly right now. Just got done working out with my trainer. I did a lot of work on the turf on my hands. They feel burned! I've been avoiding getting workout gloves because I always used to think they were silly. Nope, not silly. I'm buying some tomorrow.
Post by partiallysunny on Jan 22, 2015 8:03:59 GMT -5
That's tough about your pups motzie. I hope it's just the move and new baby (all the recent changes) that are making your dog's out of sorts. hope the training goes well.