Well, take this response with the knowledge that I mc'd at 11 weeks, but even up to that point I still wasn't excited. I was grateful to be pregnant, but it came at a weird time and really disrupted some things, so I was having a really hard time wrapping my head around it all. I would say to give yourself time and that eventually the excitement will come. I would like to add that I had to go to the OB yesterday for a follow scan appointment and seeing all the pregnants made me very sad and showed me that I was actually happy to be pregnant and will be very happy when it happens again... with better timing hopefully.
Wellll...my only pregnancy was a surprise at 21 and it was terminated. While I still have mixed emotions after many years, I know it was the right decision-we had broken up and I was about to graduate from college.
Post by textbookcase on Jan 23, 2015 18:25:36 GMT -5
Bonnie was a complete surprise. We found out I was pregnant the same month H was laid off from his job. I also had HG. My emotions were all over the place. I don't think I really felt psyched until more than halfway through the pregnancy!
With my DS, a good bit - and I wavered from being happy/excited to shit what the F am I going to do. I think it was about 6 months until I could think/plan without having anxiety (or very little). Every one is different though.
Added - Now though, and even after he was born, I couldn't imagine my life with out him. He really is the blessing our family needed. He is so laid back and offers such a dimension that I get sad thinking of all the time I wasted being worried.
With #3 I cried in my closet when I found out because our second was only 9 months old and I had been having terrible muscle knot pain and I just thought it was never going to go away--especially now that I was going to be continuing to hold and carry another baby. By the next day I was already attached.
Recent surprise pregnancy (currently 5weeks 4 days). I found out at 3 weeks 3 days which was 6 days after we moved to Florida away from our families and where it costs more to live. A 4th baby was not in the plans, but we've accepted it. I've been sick and the nausea started a couple days ago so it's making it hard to be excited, but I am attached. When I really think about it, it does make me happy and I'm amazed that there is a tiny human being formed within me. Some of the time I'm indifferent about it, yet I still check the tp every time, am anxious about the first OB appt and do hope I carry this baby to term. I know I will be excited and let myself get more attached once I hear the heartbeat.
Post by kellsbelles on Jan 23, 2015 19:20:04 GMT -5
tinybride Congrats!! You are the most gorgeous pregnant girl. I'm sure everyone's going to start asking you if your hoping to break the girl streak this time ha.
Post by whiskeyandwine on Jan 23, 2015 19:22:30 GMT -5
In the last twoish or so years you have gone from TTC, to convinced you were IF bc you didn't get pregnant in like, cycle #2, to pregnant, to no reliable form of bc, to pregnant again. This may be an unexpected pregnancy, but surely *surprise* is a stretch....
Regardless, I hope you get to where you want be be emotionally soon.
Basically until he was here and then I thought I was crazy for ever being scared/worried. It's okay to feel nervous, unsure, or downright sad! I did have times where I was really excited, around 20 weeks, but it's okay to feel how you're feeling.
In the last twoish or so years you have gone from TTC, to convinced you were IF bc you didn't get pregnant in like, cycle #2, to pregnant, to no reliable form of bc, to pregnant again. This may be an unexpected pregnancy, but surely *surprise* is a stretch....
Regardless, I hope you get to where you want be be emotionally soon.
tinybride Congrats!! You are the most gorgeous pregnant girl. I'm sure everyone's going to start asking you if your hoping to break the girl streak this time ha.
Aw thank you. I've been stalking your blog waiting for you to update on your pregnancy. I'm very excited for you!
Post by angelstar975 on Jan 23, 2015 19:51:17 GMT -5
I guess I got excited around 8 weeks, but I had feelings of doubt/stress throughout. So it wasn't like I hit 8 weeks and it was smooth sailing. Good news is I wouldn't trade her for the world now. But it was hard to adjust to the idea of being a mom before I was necessarily ready for it.
L was a surprise. The test came up positive and my first reaction was "oh shit". H and I were cautiously excited once the digital came up positive, since my lines were pretty faint at first, and I totally cried when I first saw her HB at almost 9 weeks, but I really had mixed emotions - happiness, terror, resentment, etc - until probably the second tri. It was hard to be completely happy anyway with the relentless nausea and car sickness for the first 13.5 weeks, and that was only compounded by the fact that the pregnancy was a surprise.
this past pregnancy was unexpected although we had taken no reliable or permanent birth control, I lost the pregnancy at 15 weeks but it took about until I was 10 weeks to really get excited. I had horrid morning sickness. I am devastated we lost the baby and we will actively ttc asap.
I will say as soon as the test was positive, that was my baby and I knew I would love it and take care of it, I just had a lot of conflicted emotions. It's easy to get distracted by the logistics. We were expecting our fourth and we're trying to get our 3 bd 1 bathroom house ready to sell. My husband works insane hours in the summer (when I was due). If I worked then childcare would have been a big stresser.
What I'm saying is it's okay to be freaked out, worried, disconnected and still know that ultimately this baby will be loved. It isn't one or the other and it doesn't make you cold hearted or anything.
I found out I was pregnant when sofia was 6 months old. We were using condoms, but obviously fucked up somewhere. I was not happy. I don't know if/when I ever would have been happy because that pregnancy ended in m/c.
This pregnancy was sort of a surprise. I say sort of because while we had unprotected sex, it was the last day of my period, so I thought we would be safe. Drinking was also involved in that decision, lol. We were immediately happy.
My first pregnancy wasn't a surprise and I still had mixed feelings. I burst into tears-not happy ones- and had a major "oh shit, what did we do" moment.
The pregnancy lasted less than two weeks and it was devastating. It was only then that I realized I actually had been happy to be pregnant. It's a complete mind fuck, man.
Goddamn it. Why the fuck would you target AR in a thread she wasn't even participating in, especially concerning an extremely sore fucking topic? What is wrong with you?
I was so afraid something bad would happen due to my age, 40/41, that I couldn't get connected to her. My other 3rd kids are older, 12, 9, and 7, and they were crazy excited. It wasn't until an ultrasound at 35 weeks that I really believed I could get excited.