If you had a surprise pregnancy

[MrsAggie]

Jan 23, 2015 21:17:19 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Sex ed failed a lot of people. Thanks, Obama. ?

I thought IUDs were inserted at the 6 week PP checkup but it turns out I have to order it from the manufacturer and we have no condoms- thus, the pull & pray.

Clinton was in office when I had sex ed. Thanks a-fucking-lot, Clinton.

Off to go like some posts.

ETA- TIC!

[yourmother]

Jan 23, 2015 23:21:04 GMT -5 NewOrleans said:

OP, you gossiped about a woman's miscarriage and mocked her for being excited enough about that unplanned pregnancy to announce it early. You might want to have a tall, frothy glass of stfu right about now.

Gross. WTF is this all about?

I sincerely hope this is an exaggeration because I can't wrap my mind around why someone would do this.

[stellas]

Jan 24, 2015 7:31:28 GMT -5 yourmother said:

Jan 23, 2015 23:21:04 GMT -5 NewOrleans said:

OP, you gossiped about a woman's miscarriage and mocked her for being excited enough about that unplanned pregnancy to announce it early. You might want to have a tall, frothy glass of stfu right about now.

Gross. WTF is this all about?

I sincerely hope this is an exaggeration because I can't wrap my mind around why someone would do this.

I think I remember this and it wasn't as bad as voodoo is trying to make it sound.

[stellas]

Jan 24, 2015 7:43:02 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jan 24, 2015 7:40:00 GMT -5 stellas said:

I think I remember this and it wasn't as bad as voodoo is trying to make it sound.

She said the woman was a "bad role model" and wasn't showing the kids "good morals that a teacher should".

Becase her H had known her in high school and she "had a lot of sex in high school" and then had miscarriage, got divorced and then became pregnant in a new relationship.

Yeah, it was judgy and naive, but she took her licks for it at the time. It's not like she was enjoying the woman's miscarriage or something, weirdo.

This post turned all predatory and gross.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Good morning everyone!

[NewOrleans]

Jan 24, 2015 7:40:00 GMT -5 stellas said:

Jan 24, 2015 7:31:28 GMT -5 yourmother said:

Gross. WTF is this all about?

I sincerely hope this is an exaggeration because I can't wrap my mind around why someone would do this.

I think I remember this and it wasn't as bad as voodoo is trying to make it sound.

I thought it was really disgusting at the time to use that as evidence against someone's character.

"Gave birth, the father was a some random guy.
Dated someone and got married to that guy. Got pregnant and announced at 4 weeks on FB. Lost the baby.
Got divorced. Began dating a new guy a month afterwards.
She just announced that she's pregnant and due in February. "


I don't think there's anything "gross" about bringing it up at all. It is relevant to this post. She wants to know when ppl got excited about unplanned pregnancies when just a couple months ago she was side-eyeing someone for having the nerve to announce her unplanned pregnancy.  She was implying the girl was stupid for announcing it early, too.  OP wants to be excited but judges someone else for actually feeling that way.  I came into the post originally with a supportive anecdote, not to troll her, but I lost the desire to do so when I saw shit in here.  

(And she later said she felt sorry for the girl's kids, stuck her tongue out at everyone, and flounced, so she didn't just take her licks and move on)

Sorry I had a fight in your Black Panther party.  I'll go back to CEP.

[whiskeyandwine]

Jan 24, 2015 8:16:21 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jan 23, 2015 19:37:38 GMT -5 whiskeyandwine said:

1. I never even respond to your posts so, slow your roll.

2. Did AR post and I missed it?

You're being an asshole. Slow your fucking roll.

ETA: and nice job, starting this shitshow and then bouncing. Complete with lol.

Would you prefer I stay and say more?

I'm pretty sure the shit show got started with Meikia going all Fuck You at somebody who hadn't even posted...

[jinkies]

Ah. This explains her other post. I had (wrongly) assumed it was just 4 pages of "you'll be fine! congratulations!"

[yourmother]

Jan 24, 2015 8:22:42 GMT -5 NewOrleans said:

Jan 24, 2015 7:40:00 GMT -5 stellas said:

I think I remember this and it wasn't as bad as voodoo is trying to make it sound.

I thought it was really disgusting at the time to use that as evidence against someone's character.

"Gave birth, the father was a some random guy.
Dated someone and got married to that guy. Got pregnant and announced at 4 weeks on FB. Lost the baby.
Got divorced. Began dating a new guy a month afterwards.
She just announced that she's pregnant and due in February. "


I don't think there's anything "gross" about bringing it up at all. It is relevant to this post. She wants to know when ppl got excited about unplanned pregnancies when just a couple months ago she was side-eyeing someone for having the nerve to announce her unplanned pregnancy.  She was implying the girl was stupid for announcing it early, too.  OP wants to be excited but judges someone else for actually feeling that way.  I came into the post originally with a supportive anecdote, not to troll her, but I lost the desire to do so when I saw shit in here.  

(And she later said she felt sorry for the girl's kids, stuck her tongue out at everyone, and flounced, so she didn't just take her licks and move on)

Sorry I had a fight in your Black Panther party.  I'll go back to CEP.

FTR - I was grossing over the gossiping of a miscarriage. I now remember the original post. 

[Eagles]

Jan 24, 2015 8:34:09 GMT -5 jinkies said:

Ah. This explains her other post. I had (wrongly) assumed it was just 4 pages of "you'll be fine! congratulations!"

Same. Whoops.

[Deleted]

Geez it's not even 6 am out here on the west coast and all this on a Saturday morning? I think everyone needs to chill. Very sensitive topics in here. We are better than this ladies. I wish a very H&H 9 months to you Mekia.

[cherryvalance]

Jan 24, 2015 3:06:12 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Jan 23, 2015 21:17:19 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Sex ed failed a lot of people. Thanks, Obama. ?

I thought IUDs were inserted at the 6 week PP checkup but it turns out I have to order it from the manufacturer and we have no condoms- thus, the pull & pray.

Clinton was in office when I had sex ed. Thanks a-fucking-lot, Clinton.

Off to go like some posts.

Okay? It was a "Thanks, Obama" joke. I guess the app ate my winking face.

But, yeah, I am of the mindset that it's not a surprise if you've been having unprotected sex. P + V = baby for most people. Pull and pray isn't BC. I'm not questioning the slew of emotions surrounding an unplanned pregnancy (or any pregnancy for that matter), but unless it was a BC failure, it's not really a surprise.

[Elsa]

Well. I stayed out of this thread last night bc.....well of course I don't want to be in here. But I came in after mekia' gbcgbcn post.

I understand being shocked. Hell, I was freaking out on the way to the hospital to give birth.

That being said. It is hard to undestined how topics like this, and stuff said previously, hurts women struggling with IF until you've been here. This is a place all come for support, and I don't want to deny that for women struggling with coming to terms with being pg, or anything else. But yes, we do ask for some sensitivity. Tagging autumn in this post was a shit move. Regardless of what she liked.

I like you a lot Mekia, and hope you don't leave for good. But I do understand if you want to take a step back after this. I do wish you the best, and I'm happy for your pregnancy

[hi725]

This thread is a shit show. Mekia, I wouldn't leave over this, like pp said, this is a loaded topic, some people are going to be upset. A few people =\= to the majority.

[rachelgreen]

Jan 24, 2015 9:23:47 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

Ughhhhhhh I hate even saying anything because I love Whiskey and Autumn and I feel like I'm risking my hard-earned infertility card with this. Mekia's BS IF woes pissed me off too, when I was struggling so much and then she got pregnant with E the next cycle. But. If I were to get a BFP right now? I can't promise I wouldn't be starting a thread just like this. Babies are hard work and her son is still really young.

but you don't have the posting history that she did which is why it rubbed people wrong.

[whiskeyandwine]

Jan 24, 2015 9:23:47 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

Ughhhhhhh I hate even saying anything because I love Whiskey and Autumn and I feel like I'm risking my hard-earned infertility card with this. Mekia's BS IF woes pissed me off too, when I was struggling so much and then she got pregnant with E the next cycle. But. If I were to get a BFP right now? I can't promise I wouldn't be starting a thread just like this. Babies are hard work and her son is still really young.

Aw, thanks RMD. Your IF Cred is still in full force, IMHO.  

To be clear, it isn't that I can't imagine that she's shocked and worried. And that babies are hard. I was fucking SHOCKED when I got my BFP, and I was shocked at how surprised and shocked I was. 

That said, it is, IMO, disingenuous to continue posting "OMG SURPRISE PREGNANCY!" when you admit to not using b/c and knowing that you are fertile. That was my only point. Unexpected? Surprising? Shocking, even? Yes. All of my very own pregnancy are those things, and I've got an IUI baby!

"Surprise Pregnancy"? Ehhh, that feels like a stretch for me. 

[LeggsBenedict]

I think I'm still drunk from last night.

[whiskeyandwine]

Jan 24, 2015 10:06:40 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jan 24, 2015 9:34:39 GMT -5 whiskeyandwine said:

Aw, thanks RMD. Your IF Cred is still in full force, IMHO.  

To be clear, it isn't that I can't imagine that she's shocked and worried. And that babies are hard. I was fucking SHOCKED when I got my BFP, and I was shocked at how surprised and shocked I was. 

That said, it is, IMO, disingenuous to continue posting "OMG SURPRISE PREGNANCY!" when you admit to not using b/c and knowing that you are fertile. That was my only point. Unexpected? Surprising? Shocking, even? Yes. All of my very own pregnancy are those things, and I've got an IUI baby!

"Surprise Pregnancy"? Ehhh, that feels like a stretch for me. 

So it can be surprising, but don't use the word surprise. Got it.

Glad you're here to clear these matters up.

I'm even less interested in debating with you than I was with her. It's fine with me if we don't agree.

[rachelgreen]

Jan 24, 2015 10:15:39 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

That said, I think of surprise pregnancies as sort of like winning a great big mansion across the country in a lottery. The house is great, no doubt about it. It'd be thrilling to live in it; omg, look at all the cool rooms, what could I do here, etc. 
But I don't have a job in that place, and there aren't any. And the cost of living there is really high, I don't earn enough now to pay the property taxes/utilities there. I can't afford to furnish the place, either. And if I go there, I'll have to give up my job and all my friends to go live in this 'great place'. And omg, since I won it, I have to pay taxes on the value of it as income tax, and it'll suck up all my savings; what'll I do to put my 2 kids in college? Or retire? Dh will have to take a second job, we'll never see each other, and I'll be the one stuck doing all the updating and painting and lawn work OMG it's on ten acres. 


Sometimes you can make the move to the mansion, sometimes you can't. 

so you're telling me to stop entering to win HGTV's dream house right now?

[RandZB]

A day or so. It was terrible timing but we never thought we would be able to conceive on our own and DH was so excited that it was hard not to be happy about it.

[vicky]

Jan 24, 2015 10:35:15 GMT -5 mp said:

Jan 24, 2015 10:22:16 GMT -5 Que? said:

So this is merely a semantics issue for you? Ok.

I don't understand why anyone who's experienced IF or a loss has to stand on one side, with total ownership of the experience. I feel like if one is this offended with Meki's word choice, that the issue isn't really with Meki.

Let's be honest here - a lot of people don't like mekia or at best think she has a flare for exaggerating and dramatics. I think this has little to do with this single thread, and more to do with her history of posts and exaggerations. Just a guess- as I wasn't a part of the arguing. But, that's how this all comes off to me.

I wasn't "attacking" Mekia because I disliked her, or even about the SURPRISE baby. My point was that it was a sore subject for AR, and she hadn't participated in the thread, so why jab at her? At that point, I hadn't even seen the whole "like" thing. And even still, who the fuck gives a shit about a "like?" And why not call out all the others who "liked" it after her? It just was a really shitty thing to target AR about. 

[Muddled]

Jan 24, 2015 11:16:28 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Jan 24, 2015 11:13:13 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

And let's don't pretend Autumn shies away from a fight.

Lol! No, but let's also not pretend the wide-eyed innocence and "chill out! Leave me alone!" about it was all that sincere here. Mekia was looking for a fight too.

Mekia egged her on.
And, no lie, Mekia has a penchant for drama.

[eddy]

I have always called Jack my surprise pregnancy even though it was failed NFP.

Calling him unplanned seems cold. I can't imagine when the subject coming up saying "Oh yes, Jack was unplanned." /grump face

I don't know many people who are keeping the baby who refer to their pregnancy as unplanned. It is always surprise.

[vicky]

Jan 24, 2015 11:18:47 GMT -5 eddy said:

I have always called Jack my surprise pregnancy even though it was failed NFP.

Calling him unplanned seems cold. I can't imagine when the subject coming up saying "Oh yes, Jack was unplanned." /grump face

I don't know many people who are keeping the baby who refer to their pregnancy as unplanned. It is always surprise.

Eh. My mom called me an accident and a mistake yesterday. Which sounds worse than she meant it.

[eddy]

Jan 24, 2015 11:22:26 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Jan 24, 2015 11:18:47 GMT -5 eddy said:

I have always called Jack my surprise pregnancy even though it was failed NFP.

Calling him unplanned seems cold. I can't imagine when the subject coming up saying "Oh yes, Jack was unplanned." /grump face

I don't know many people who are keeping the baby who refer to their pregnancy as unplanned. It is always surprise.

I always use the terms interchangeably too. I sometimes try to soften it up with "pleasant surprise" lol. I didn't know that was offensive. Guess I will go back to calling DD unplanned  

I have always said it BRIGHTLY.

[beefcheeks]

What is the fucking difference between surprise, the ever so different suprisING, unplanned, whatever else. This is dumb.

[vicky]

Words of the day "surprise" and "like"

[Deleted]

Jan 24, 2015 11:32:10 GMT -5 mp said:

Meh, mekia and her drama

i understand what you are saying. But I don't like to see people feel like they are getting run off the boards. I've absolutely said things here that I regret and would hate them being brought up in a post where I already felt vulnerable. This board would be so boring if only people who never annoyed anyone posted!

[iamali]

Jan 24, 2015 7:52:18 GMT -5 @astrid said:

This is really intense for a Saturday morning.

Mimosas for everyone!

Sent from my Fortress of Snatchiness

[vicky]

Jan 24, 2015 11:37:49 GMT -5 @lorelaireadsagain said:

Jan 24, 2015 11:32:10 GMT -5 mp said:

Meh, mekia and her drama

i understand what you are saying. But I don't like to see people feel like they are getting run off the boards. I've absolutely said things here that I regret and would hate them being brought up in a post where I already felt vulnerable. This board would be so boring if only people who never annoyed anyone posted!

I don't think anyone told her to leave.
Or even implied it.