First impressions?

[spedrunner]

does the thought of having strangers give you THEIR impression of you, scare you?

For some reason, it gives me major anxiety

I am reading a fun book, and it recommended this site to get first impressions from strangers. Its actually pretty neat/cool

You upload a photo of yourself and pick 6 topics to have strangers rate you on (age, single vs. married, creative or reserved, etc)


bobbie.com/firstimpressions/

[hungrycaterpillar]

This looks like fun! In going to do it after mass today. Also.... Hi! Your blog is great.

[underwaterrhymes]

I really have zero interest in what Internet strangers with whom I've never interacted think about me based solely on my appearance.

Although I would pay money to see fuckstick upload one of her WAT? photos.

[Booze Raccoon]

This does not sound like a good time to me.

[speckledfrog]

That sounds like a terrible idea.

[marylennox]

I might be curious to know what people would say, but not curious enough to ever really do it. I have no desire to post my picture online and invite strangers to judge me. But it's an interesting concept I guess.

[birdistheword]

Doesn't really scare me. I might do this, just for kicks. I think if you are someone who is generally insecure, it might not be a great idea.

[mrsukyankee]

I know teenagers who have done that and every single time they get the shit kicked out of them - in other words, people troll that site and get their kicks by knocking people down and making fun of them.

[everyjuan]

As someone who has resting bitchface, I'm not sure if this would be a great fit for me. However, it sounds really interesting!

[Deleted]

I'd do this for fun but it wouldn't bother me with what they would say.

[missyny]

anonymous strangers?  and just rating you on your looks?  
I'm not sure I get it. 

[eb777888]

Jan 25, 2015 12:00:54 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

A real "first impression" is much more complicated than just your appearance in a photo.

This seems like a really bad idea, and potentially bad for anyone who already has self-image issues.

This, this, this!

I would not do this, no.

[rosiebear]

I would never do that! I already know I am not physically attractive. I think my other good attributes can come across in a first person-to-person meeting, but just putting up my face? Ha, no.

[hippygirl]

I just posted my picture. I am pretty confident. I met my husband on HotorNot back in the day. It sort of seems like the same idea.

I am the complete opposite of most the ones with high ratings. I'm married and confident.
I'm pretty friendly. I'm not in my 20s or 30s. 50s?! May have to break out the wrinkle cream. I make more $ then the poll's results.

[spedrunner]

Jan 25, 2015 13:25:33 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

spedrunner - don't take this the wrong way....but given the things you have posted about before with ED and body-image concerns....WHY would you put yourself in a position for complete internet strangers to comment on your appearance?

Well it's really not about appearance it's more about what you're trying to portray do I look confident or do I look do I seem friendly or do I seem unapproachable so it's not like do I look fat or do I look skinny and my pretty or am I ugly. I would not want to do that but I am curious how other people perceive me if it's really me or if I'm being fake by the way I'm styling myself. I've always had a hard time being me My ed took they from me. Now is finally when I'm learning about myself and I'm no longer trying to people
Please.

[Deleted]

This doesn't scare me, but what is the point?

[spedrunner]

I'm huge into psychology and sociology I really like the way people think and it has always fascinated me

[stato]

Posting a picture online and having random internet people tell you their first impressions? I don't know that I'm scared of it, but I have no interest. I don't think it would be that useful -- it seems that the "impression" would be whether you're attractive and that's it. How would one judge confidence,etc from a picture you post (that is presumably one that you considered flattering)?

That said, I do think learning peoples' first impressions of you (going past appearance) can be useful. I attended a leadership conference where at the end we were put in small groups and were asked to share what our first impressions of the other group members were and also whether/how that had changed as we got to know them over the course of the conference. In that case, clearly, it wasn't based solely (or probably even largely) on appearance (although appearance and how one is holding themselves out/facial expression/posture/etc. likely plays some part). I found it interesting and useful to learn how I first present myself (body language, receptiveness to others, how I talk, etc.).

[sapphireblue]

Jan 25, 2015 13:38:04 GMT -5 mp said:

I'd actually be really interested in getting the avg male on a dating site's opinion. Well maybe not the AVERAGE because average = dumb.

I'm just always curious how the photos I choose, or how my look, comes off to those whom I am interested in.

I am not going to change who I am or what I look like, but my opinion is obviously completely biased.

When I was on OKCupid, I had an interesting thing with one of my photos. It was a full body shot, me on my back deck, barefoot, in some comfortable jeans and a fairly flattering casual tee. I was debating putting it on OKC because I knew I should have a full body shot, but I wasn't sure if I liked how my body looked. I showed it to several female friends who ALL said no, I could do better, I could find a more flattering shot. One friend even told me I should get higher waisted jeans because then I wouldn't have a roll of fat showing over the top of the jeans (since the shirt wasn't too loose, you could see it through the fabric).

But I liked how candid the pic was and finally thought "Fuck it, this is me, take it or leave it!" and I put it up. EVERY guy that I got to know from the site loved the photo. For many of them it was their favorite. It was so interesting to me, the difference.

[elleblue]

Jan 25, 2015 16:34:31 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Haha.. I see an MLer!

So do I!

[eb777888]

LOL at all of the MLers on there!!!