"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by messykitchen on Jan 26, 2015 14:11:27 GMT -5
My brothers were typical assholes. One of my sisters in law declared my dad and his husband sinners and said he'd never see his granddaughter again, and stormed out. Drama ensued. It was awful and horrible and I am so angry at my brothers for being so uncaring to my father. He is a wonderful man and doesn't deserve this (not that anyone would, just for being gay. Who cares?)
As far as I know, he is meeting with his lawyer this week to rework the will, and is adding a clause that if anyone contests it, they are disinherited. Which I think is smart, but my dad is smart man.
Sometimes I think being wealthy causes more problems than it solves. I really think dad thought this meeting would bring the family together, and it just revealed my brothers are only after his cash. I just want my dad, I don't care about his stuff. I just don't understand their entitled attitudes and it's really pissing me off, we were not close before and I think this is the end of my interaction with them.
I wish it had gone better. My dad is my best friend and seeing him hurting is hurting me. I lost my mother 15 years ago and am STILL not over it (I know suesue gets this) losing my dad is just hard to even comprehend.
So, that's how it went. Badly. But I think that dad now knows what he wants to do with his assets, which is a good thing.
Whatever happens, he has me and his husband to see him through any more bullshit from my brothers, and I will be damned if they hurt him again. Fuck them.
I missed the backstory, messykitchen, but that sounds awful I think it's good that your brothers showed their true colors, though. And it's definitely a good thing that your dad has you!
I'm starting to think that your dad was very wise in dropping the bomb at the meeting because it shows your brother's true colors in their reactions. I'm so glad your dad has time to make his wishes known in advance.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Your brothers are horrible people, this person is still their DAD. Irregardless of his sexual orientation this man loved them and cared for them. I'm so sorry things did not go well. ((Hugs))
What a pack of assholes (not you, your dad, or his husband).
Ew.
I hope he wills them each $1 just to make it CRYSTAL CLEAR that he is giving them jackshit, purposefully. I mean, really, he's just saving THEM from being forced to touch his dirty dirty sin money.
I am so, so happy that he has you in his life. Beyond his partner, the people who are supposed to love us unconditionally, as we do them, are being hateful asswipes. You are a great daughter and your dad sounds like a remarkable and very loved man.
Post by messykitchen on Jan 26, 2015 14:27:37 GMT -5
Thanks for the support everyone. My brothers are assholes, but I feel sorry for them. They missed the last years of my mothers life (she had leukemia for years) with their selfish attitudes, and now they will miss dads.
Is it ironic that I am the only adopted child? They brought that up a lot. She's not even blood! Why should SHE get anything??
Thanks for the support everyone. My brothers are assholes, but I feel sorry for them. They missed the last years of my mothers life (she had leukemia for years) with their selfish attitudes, and now they will miss dads.
Is it ironic that I am the only adopted child? They brought that up a lot. She's not even blood! Why should SHE get anything??
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Thanks for the support everyone. My brothers are assholes, but I feel sorry for them. They missed the last years of my mothers life (she had leukemia for years) with their selfish attitudes, and now they will miss dads.
Is it ironic that I am the only adopted child? They brought that up a lot. She's not even blood! Why should SHE get anything??
Ugh, Ridiculous.
They did NOT FUCKING SAY THIS. Yesterday? As they and their spouses called your father a sinner and denied him access to his grandchildren for the singular offense of GETTING MARRIED!?!?!??!!
What the everloving fuck.
I don't feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for you that you have to have them in your life in any capacity.
Thanks for the support everyone. My brothers are assholes, but I feel sorry for them. They missed the last years of my mothers life (she had leukemia for years) with their selfish attitudes, and now they will miss dads.
Is it ironic that I am the only adopted child? They brought that up a lot. She's not even blood! Why should SHE get anything??
Thanks for the support everyone. My brothers are assholes, but I feel sorry for them. They missed the last years of my mothers life (she had leukemia for years) with their selfish attitudes, and now they will miss dads.
Is it ironic that I am the only adopted child? They brought that up a lot. She's not even blood! Why should SHE get anything??
Ugh, Ridiculous.
They did NOT FUCKING SAY THIS. Yesterday? As they and their spouses called your father a sinner and denied him access to his grandchildren for the singular offense of GETTING MARRIED!?!?!??!!
What the everloving fuck.
I don't feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for you that you have to have them in your life in any capacity.
For real.
Fuck them.
There is no excuse for their behavior or their opinions.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Oh yes, he was. None of this really matters in the grand scheme of things, but my father met his husband while on an art collecting trip to China, fell in love with him, and moved him here. My fathers husband is only 4 years older than me (I am 39, dad is 74). Which is great because he keeps dad young and active, but is like the worst thing ever for my brothers. Again, who cares? Dad would never tell us who to be with.
Anyway there is a language barrier there, so while he got the gist of everything, I am sure my dad had to fill him on parts of it. I love my dads husband too, and he changed his ENTIRE life to be with my dad. He should get every single thing dad wants to leave him and more, in my opinion. He made my dad happy again when they met. That is worth the world to me.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jan 26, 2015 14:44:49 GMT -5
Holy shitsicles, Batman!
Those people you call your brothers can go fuck themselves right off with a quickness. Hoo lee shit.
When your father (who sounds lovely and a good dad to you, BTW) does change his will, see if he will give you a copy of it. I don't trust those shitslices you call brothers not to try to get their hands on it after he dies and try to destroy it.
You are a good person, I'm sorry you had to deal with that!
Post by beefcheeks on Jan 26, 2015 14:55:00 GMT -5
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I feel so bad for your Dad. It must hurt so bad to be treated that way by your own children. You sound like such a sweetheart and like an amazing, supportive daughter.
Post by aprilsails on Jan 26, 2015 14:59:19 GMT -5
Wow - I would have lost it on them. Which would probably have made things worse.
I'm sorry it went so poorly, although I think you knew what was going down before you walked in. I hope your Dad still has many healthy and happy years to spend with you and his DH.
Those people you call your brothers can go fuck themselves right off with a quickness. Hoo lee shit.
When your father (who sounds lovely and a good dad to you, BTW) does change his will, see if he will give you a copy of it. I don't trust those shitslices you call brothers not to try to get their hands on it after he dies and try to destroy it.
You are a good person, I'm sorry you had to deal with that!
I don't know too much about this, I know he has a personal lawyer who he said will only work on his behalf and not for us kids as the executor? And his husband and I are his medical powers of attorney already.
I would like to have a copy of his will, and know where his life insurance details and other accounts are, because it seems important to know. I am sure, however, his husband has this information so I am not sure if I should ask for it. My dad is so well organised though I would be surprised if he didn't offer the it voluntarily.