WDML think? Shower two weeks before due date? *UPDATE*

[themoneytree]

I think it's cutting it fine. Would suck to miss your own shower if you go in early.
Even a week earlier would feel safer.

[leeluu]

I wouldn't be ok but I need to have things done early. I already had my "main" shower. I know work will throw me a shower, but they usually hold showers very close to the due date, and I am not waiting until then to purchase the rest of the things I need off my registry.

[cuccaro]

It's enough time, but I really wanted things ready long before that so I could relax and enjoy the end. And I liked having it earlier because I would've hated pictures by that point, lol.

[calmcosmo]

My first arrived 5 weeks early so I'm clouded by that. I think 30-34 weeks is the ideal time. 38 weeks is risky.

[hopecounts]

38 weeks would be too late for my comfort DD was born at 38 weeks so that would've sucked.
Also by about 36 weeks I was nesting like crazy and would've lost my mind waiting for the shower to get things all ready.

[VeryViolet]

My biggest issue with it would have been that I wouldn't want to deal with people even people I loved at 38 weeks. I loved being pregnant and I still wanted to kill everyone at the end. As far as nesting and getting stuff ready I would have been okay I think. My idea of nesting however was setting everything up on subscribe and save and my nursery wasn't done until DS was 7 weeks old so I am also weird.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

I was so huge and miserable by then that it would have been a horrible party.

[meggers]

That's when my family one is scheduled. I was uncomfortable with it because that only gives me two weeks to get things from the registry ordered and delivered that weren't purchased. And I just found out I'm likely to be induced 2 weeks early. :/

[jinkies]

My first was born at 38 weeks. So I probably wouldn't have been able to attend the shower.

Nesting also made me super anxious to have everything prepared around 36 weeks.

[missmaddie]

I was still pretty comfortable physically, but there was a TON to do post-shower. We got lots of duplicates that needed exchanging for other registry items, things to assemble (crib and stroller were done, but received swing, etc.), TY cards to write and mail (because a second batch were needed for gifts when DS was born so it was nice to have the first round done), etc. Plus weekly appts by then, trying to wrap things up at work (knowing I wouldn't be back form12 months so had to pack desk and tie up lose ends), etc. It wouldn't be my first choice, but if that's the only option and the hosts and guests know it could be subject to the baby's plans... I might also tailer your registry to items you won't need right away (high chair, larger clothing/sleepers/convertible seat/etc.) and ensure you have the early items ready to go, washed, etc.

[jennistarr1]

I personally wouldn't like it, they were considering having my shower at 35 weeks and I wasn't happy about that. Mine will be next week at 32 and it totally fits with my ebb and flow because right now I'm really antsy to have everything set up. Plus, I'm still pretty comfortable so I think can actually enjoy the shower.

[prairiedawn]

depends. how important is it for you to look back at those pictures and look cute? nobody is cute at 38 weeks. nobody.

[jinkies]

Given your update: no, you are not being a brat. Unless there are serious extenuating circumstances, the hosts should make every effort to have it earlier.

[iamgrace]

I don't know. I had mine at 37 weeks, and it was fine. He wasn't born until 5 weeks after that. Lol.

[speckledfrog]

I was pushing out a kid two weeks before my due date! If there is no other option I would go ahead and book it then because, frankly, I would appreciate the free stuff.

[hopecounts]

yep Hostesses need to move the date unless there are extenuating circumstances.
You are not being a brat at all.
Remind them that they won't even try to stop labor after 35 weeks and you want to have the shower before you are likely to have the baby which is anytime from 37 weeks on.

[partiallysunny]

Sounds like Hell, honestly. Not enough time to get ready for the arrival and I was miserable pregnant by that point.

[speckledfrog]

Also, I had a shower two days before I had W (so, two weeks and two days before my due date). It was from my book club, so it was mostly books but there were other things as well. I didn't have time to put everything away and there were bags and shit everywhere when he came. My MIL put it all away for us when she came a week and half later.

Keep in mind that you need very little before the baby is born. The rest you can do/get after she's here.

[sandyapples]

I would not want my shower that late. You are NOT being a brat.

[moolarkey]

I went in to labor at my shower.

This was with our first. I thought I was feeling contractions but being first time I wasn't sure. A friend who had given birth 6 weeks early drove me to the shower. I told her what I was feeling and she told me she was sure I was in labor. I told her not to say anything. As we walked in to the room (at a restaurant) I had a contraction and basically almost doubled over. They thought I was in shock. I ate my lunch, I was starving and knew the hospital wouldn't let me eat. After the shower friend drove me home and H and I went to the hospital.

[lilafowler]

Jan 25, 2015 18:37:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

My biggest issue with it would have been that I wouldn't want to deal with people even people I loved at 38 weeks. I loved being pregnant and I still wanted to kill everyone at the end. As far as nesting and getting stuff ready I would have been okay I think. My idea of nesting however was setting everything up on subscribe and save and my nursery wasn't done until DS was 7 weeks old so I am also weird.

I totally went into confinement (lol) about 37 weeks or so. I didn't want to talk to or see anybody.

[jenna]

I would reschedule if possible. That seems really late.

[Elsa]

Maddie would have been a week old....so. Lol
But if you're having a healthy pregnancy I would be ok with it

[fivechickens]

I would not want to have my shower so close to my due date.

My friend had her shower late and was miserable during her shower. She had her son 3 days later.

[anlo]

Planning issues aside, I was so uncomfortable by 38 weeks. None of my clothes fit well. Only pair of shoes I could wear were crocs due to swelling. It was just not fun.

[missbella]

I would not have been comfortable with that and I would have had a 1 week old at that point.

My shower was at 36 weeks which I was nervous about (I'm a planner and had a "feeling" I would go early) I spent the whole next week prepping stuff, putting things together etc. i got everything that "had" to be done, finished and was just about to finish my TY notes when my water broke at 37 weeks.

[isabel]

That would stress me out. And I know you're not expecting people to buy you things and all of that, but the fact is that people will buy you things and you won't know what they're going to get, so it's going to be hard to plan for what you need prior to the shower. Then, you'll need to buy whatever wasn't purchased or return things if you decide to purchase stuff before the shower. That all just sounds kind of stressful and like a lot to do and plan for on the weekend before the baby is due.

My mom is throwing us a shower the first weekend of February and I am so thankful that it is coming up soon because I am really looking forward to going ahead and buying the things we need and getting everything settled well in advance of baby's arrival.

I would see if they can push it up by at least a week, if not two or three.

[specialk]

I would have been bringing my baby with me to the shower. I would try for earlier if you can.

[bc1206]

That's really close but it can definitely work. My DD was a week late. We had most things already like diapers, clothes, etc.

[eb777888]

Well, IDK. I had mine at 32 weeks, I specifically wanted it early because I'm kind of a control freak and I wanted to know exactly what I had and what I needed ASAP so everything could be ready ASAP. lol. Control freak.

But you do you! I wouldn't do it that late, no.