Post by undecidedowl on Jan 25, 2015 18:41:56 GMT -5
When did you feel ready to go back to work? When did you actually go back (if you did)?
With DS1 I went back at 3 months. I don't think I was really ready until 18 months. DS2 is 3 months tomorrow and I am going back this week. I don't feel ready AT ALL.
Going back at 16 weeks. I would have loved a year off. I'm ready to have my own schedule but am not ready to leave them and scared I will miss everything now.
Post by honeybadger on Jan 25, 2015 18:59:50 GMT -5
With DD, I went back to work at 3.5 months. With DS, I will go back to work when he is just shy of 5 months. I think 4.5-5 is perfect--they're finally able to interact/fun, but by that time I'm ready to drink a cup of coffee in peace, eat a real lunch, and have adult conversations/interaction
With DS, I planned to go back at 12 weeks. I enjoyed ML but was ready to get back into the swing of things at work. So I ended up starting back part time (2x week) at 8 weeks. It was awesome to have a month to transition into the daycare and work. I hope to do that again this time around, assuming I want to go back to work at 8 weeks again.
Post by karinothing on Jan 25, 2015 19:08:28 GMT -5
Six months. It was good i think. I had a very fun maternity leave but so many of my friends were on maternity leave too so we hung out and did stuff every day.
I went back to work PT (3 days) at 12 weeks. I've also worked a lot from home while my mom watches baby here so it has not been too bad. I would probably have been a mess though if she was going to a daycare and I went back at FT like before. I'm not sure if I could do sah.
Post by bananapancakes on Jan 25, 2015 19:32:56 GMT -5
I've been off 9 months and don't feel even remotely ready to go back anytime soon. I am technically supposed to go back at one year but since we moved, I had to resign and will have to look for something new. At this point we are just aiming for something part time for me.
I went back at 5 months BUT, DH was off with her after that and remains off until she is a year. I was fine/happy/somewhere in between when I went back but I know that was largely due to the fact that DH was with her.
I went back at 12 weeks. I was only half time.(taught every other day). I could have used more time off. DH was a golf pro and was home with DS full time for three more months.
Post by changedname on Jan 25, 2015 19:44:03 GMT -5
I'm still off. DD is 11 months next week. I went on a business trip last week even though I'm not back and I actually felt excited to be me again instead of dd's mom.
I wasn't anywhere close to being ready at 3 months so I think you feelings are totally normal. Good luck!
I went back at 6 months with DD1 and will go back at 7 months with DD2. I enjoyed both of my leaves and felt they were a good amount of time. A year would be nice though.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
DD1 I went back at 10 weeks to finish the school year for 9 weeks and then had 3 months of summer off. I was so not ready that 2 years later I quit working after DS was born. I got an 8 hour a week job when he was 10 months.I didn't work for DD2 until she was 3 years old. Then it was a very part time job. After DD3 I went back part time at 4 weeks. The curse of owning a small business. I took her to work with me until she was 12 weeks...that would be the great thing about owning your own business. She is with either DH or my mom while I work 20 hours a week. I wasn't ready at 12 weeks but she was getting difficult to keep amused.
12w. I was nearly climbing the walls by 10.5w. I am only PT now (3 days) and would do nearly anything to go back FT. I've been back to work 9w as of tomorrow. On the other hand, DH would love to be a SAHD, but he makes 2x what I do (based on me working FT, more like 3x of my PT pay). He was a mess when he went back to work the same day I did, I had to console HIM.
I went back at 12 weeks and I felt ready. DD wasn't that difficult as a newborn, but I had no help apart from DH (who took 6 weeks with me then went back). It was a huge relief to send DD to daycare so I could have alone time again. It was also nice to engage with other adults again (though just barely since I work remotely). I might have felt differently if I had more of a support network here, but we'd moved halfway across the country 3 months before she was born. Anyway, it's perfectly normal to feel ready or not at any stage, we all deal with it differently.