Why couldn't you just ask nicely for them to quiet down?
I don't cuss that much, but I don't have a problem with it. I don't understand how cussing = not creative. When someone cuts me off in traffic I don't feel the need to get extra creative and verbose in my language when saying motherfucker works perfectly well.
I cannot get on board with the cussing = not imaginative bullshit. I feel like that's an excuse people use when they just personally don't like cussing. Which, whatever, that is your choice. But it's silly to judge others who have no problem with it.
Having said that, I wouldn't blame a parent for not wanting a bunch of "fucks" dropped around their kids. I do think OP could have just asked them to quiet down, but I can't really fault her for wanting adults to watch their language around her kid. Whenever I'm around my friends' kids, I make a concerted effort to clean up my language, even though the odd curse word here and there won't hurt anything. I just do it out of habit, I guess, and because the parents would like to limit that language when possible around their kids.
I have a swearing issue. I've managed to tone it down around DS but when he isn't there I forget. SD1 says there should be a swearing jar, her only motivation is so we give her more money. Fuck that.
I didn't say "fuck that "to her, so no pearl clutching needed.
Post by deanlicker78 on Jan 26, 2015 9:21:15 GMT -5
I cuss around my children probably more than I should. It still irrationally annoys me when other people cuss around my children. Like, have some respect for my fucking kids you doucheweasel.
Eta: I should add from family and friends. I don't expect random strangers in passing to care what they say.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Maybe all of this "creativity" whoever it is is talking about is just cover up for "being a big fat liar." Since swear-ers are more honest.
"I recently wrote an article discussing the power of swearing to alleviate pain. However, it may actually do even more. Timothy Jay and Kristin Janschewitz (2012) suggest that swearing may also indicate a tendency to be more honest and upfront with their loved ones."
Post by autumnfire on Jan 26, 2015 13:41:17 GMT -5
Honestly, you could have handled that a bit better. From what you quoted it sounded like you spoke to them like toddlers. My husband would be a bit put off if I spoke to his friends like that, as would I. Then again I swear like a sailor and the occasional fuck or shit etc, is known to be said in the presence of my daughter. It has gotten a little better.
Next time either make sure your H is aware of your wishes so he can handle it himself, or just politely ask them to lower their voices. Then if swear words come out it's at a level your daughter can't hear.