I know we should pull the trigger on really potty training DS1. He'll be three in a few weeks. But when DH suggested we wait till spring and spend a weekend in the backyard where, if he has an accident, it's not on my carpet, couch or hardwood floors, I'm extremely tempted to let my laziness win.
DD2 just had her 18 mo appt and the pedi mentioned that it's a good time to break out the potty and get her used to it. She also, however, expressed many times her hatred of PT'ing in the winter when kids have so many more layers and you can't just let them run around naked. So I (and my pedi!) are all for your wait until spring time plan
Comment sections of newspaper articles make me lose my faith in humanity faster than anything. I actively try to avoid them for that reason.
Did anyone listen to This American Life?! I went over to ML to talk about it, but no one is. It was about internet trolls and it was FASCINATING. This random guy was a terrible troll who did a really, really evil thing to this writer and ended up apologizing for it and there was a whole interview with the two of them talking.
Anyway, Ira did an intro about a comment section that was hilarious. Did anyone else listen??
I read your post over there this morning and downloaded it for my drive to work. I've only gotten about 25 minutes in, but it's fascinating. I can't believe she confronted her troll and he backed down!
I use baby talk when I talk to DD, which appears to be flameful from the other thread. In my defense, DD is actually a baby. I do not baby talk to toddlers.
Baby talk is good for babies. I could see how in-laws might be doing it wrong, though
DH and I frequently discuss what we will do with my ILs' house and money when they are no longer with us. Not in a lets get rid of them now kind away but more do we want to sell our house and build a dream home in their land/ sell the land retire or start a business kind of way. I love my ILs and imagine people would think this is incredibly morbid.
Ummm DH and I do this too. More like when FIL dies b/c MIL doesn't have anything to do with his business. FIL makes 5x at his business what DH and I do combined (and DH has a good job and I do ok for working PT). DH is an only child, so he will "have to" take it over, so FIL says. I honestly hope it gets sold before then so we don't have to worry about it, and can roll around in the cash Scrooge McDuck style. Combine this with my thoughts on MIL from the BEC thread and it's extra flameworthy, lol.
Someone on my local board is wondering whether 55 degrees is too cold to take her baby out. She put him in a snowsuit with a blanket but still didn't know if it was okay.
Seriously? A snowsuit? I was wearing shorts when it was 55 degrees out the other day. I've come to the conclusion that people on the West coast are a bunch of babies when it comes to weather.
I'm sure I'm going to get flamed by her for taking my babies out in below zero weather. THE HORROR.
I use baby talk when I talk to DD, which appears to be flameful from the other thread. In my defense, DD is actually a baby. I do not baby talk to toddlers.
I talk to DD in annoying voices. She's my kid. I do what I want. I also talk to her in a normal voice. MIL has nothing to do w/ DD except for the quarterly visit and talks to her like she is a dog the entire time she is here. Mostly MIL is BEC with me, so it doesn't matter what she does, it annoys me.
Last night I swore I was going to call a therapist because I can't tell if I have a little PPD or it's just been a really shitty year with H. In the light of the day I almost feel silly about it.
Someone on my local board is wondering whether 55 degrees is too cold to take her baby out. She put him in a snowsuit with a blanket but still didn't know if it was okay.
Seriously? A snowsuit? I was wearing shorts when it was 55 degrees out the other day. I've come to the conclusion that people on the West coast are a bunch of babies when it comes to weather.
I'm sure I'm going to get flamed by her for taking my babies out in below zero weather. THE HORROR.
I dressed B in a snowsuit for our walk this morning but it was ELEVEN DEGREES. People are crazy.
DH's BFF (a woman) gave us 4 huge trash bags of clothes for soon-to-be DD. I just spent the morning going through them. I know I should be more grateful of free clothes, but I'm donating 3/4 of them. I see no reason to keep clothes I'm never going to put on her. It was all NMS (ruffles, princess slogans, cupcakes). So, flameful that I'm ungrateful and also picky. I'm also disappointed. I am already bummed about having a girl, I really wanted another boy. But now girl clothes aren't fun either? Blah.
Maybe budget some fun money and go out and get 2-3 outfits you LOVE for her. I find hammies ( or even gifts) blah too. I want to put my kid in the clothes I picked out for him. This was especially true when he was tiny. This might be flameful.
I'm not jealous when people in the south post or talk about their beautiful 70* or 80* weather. Would it be nice to visit for a week? Yeah. Would I enjoy that year round? NO!
I like having 4 distinct seasons. No way could I live where it was always the same no matter what time of year. I like that where I live it gets super cold, has snow we can play in and do fun things with, but then in the summer it gets really warm and we boat, go swimming and enjoy it. Each season has it's perks and I can't imagine missing out on those.
Last night I swore I was going to call a therapist because I can't tell if I have a little PPD or it's just been a really shitty year with H. In the light of the day I almost feel silly about it.
Don't feel silly, do it. Even if it's just been a shitty year, chatting with a therapist might help things get better.
I guess my flameful is I don't understand why people don't take perfectly safe medications while pregnant. I figured growing a human was suffering enough. I took the cold medicine.
Post by cricketwife on Jan 26, 2015 12:56:31 GMT -5
I don't like the pottery barn Easter baskets...at least not the boy ones. You can't read the embroidery on most of them and I don't like the the few when you can.
I adore my in-laws and I always feel sad when people don't get along with theirs...granted, they are amazing and I have no reason to dislike them, but I try to think about how upset I'd be if my kids' spouses hated me so I try to not even harbor those kinds of feelings in general. Lame, I know.
I've gotten really lucky in the in law dept too. They're perfect at being supportive without being intrusive.
I got lucky in the parents department. My mom is perfect. Sweet, kind, follows our rules, loves DS to pieces, plus she's a nurse! My dad may be a bit detached (always watching TV) but he does come through when I need him. I'm very lucky.
DH's BFF (a woman) gave us 4 huge trash bags of clothes for soon-to-be DD. I just spent the morning going through them. I know I should be more grateful of free clothes, but I'm donating 3/4 of them. I see no reason to keep clothes I'm never going to put on her. It was all NMS (ruffles, princess slogans, cupcakes). So, flameful that I'm ungrateful and also picky. I'm also disappointed. I am already bummed about having a girl, I really wanted another boy. But now girl clothes aren't fun either? Blah.
Getting rid of hand-me-downs that aren't your style isn't flameful.
But this? Really? It's like you're fishing for trouble lately.
Ah! Missed a word when typing. "But now THESE girl clothes aren't fun." I'll fix it. I was really looking forward to going through those clothes and funding cute stuff. I'm bummed that I didn't find much I liked.
i noticed yesterday that she seemed unusually quiet. i checked her activity (creeper, party of one) and she had posted within the last 2 hours. i don't think it was on MMM though.
Post by simpsongal on Jan 26, 2015 13:00:37 GMT -5
A couple things that are probably flameful (maybe not though, maybe unpopular)
1) I bought stuff from Pottery Barn Kids recently. After perusing their website I think the amount of personalized stuff is WAAAAAY over the top. Seriously? My special snowflake doesn't need his name on everything. He's a little boy, of which there are many in society. ETA: For this reason I'm not a fan of the giant monogrammed letters, or spelling the name on the wall in big letters.
2) As I approach age 1, honestly, I think the professional pics of babies eating cake but w/o clothes are a little odd. If you're going to spring for pro pics, why not spent a few bucks on clothes to wear in the pics? I just don't get it.
This is actually flameful, because I know I shouldn't judge another person's eating habits, but I have a friend who is currently dealing with GD and she's telling me about how all she eats is bowl after bowl of pasta and cereal. I had GD myself and I know that's not healthy for her or her baby. I really hope she's being smart about it.
I would judge that too. I have GD too, and as you and I both know, there's no way to eat pasta or cereal and stay within the carb guidelines. It's impossible. So she's just failing her daily testing and not caring. That's so sad, for her and her baby.
E has started telling us that she has pooped. I do not want to deal with potty training until after Disney, in May. And would prefer to let daycare start that process in the next room anyways. #MOTY
My DD1 told me when she pooped for months and months before she was ready to potty train. I wouldn't take that as a sign she's ready to potty train, just that she doesn't like sitting around in her own shit (which is a good thing because some kids really don't care!).
Also, DO NOT potty train before your Disney trip! I've taken a newly potty trained kid to Disney, and it sucked. So many accidents. So many close calls. So many frantic sprints to a bathroom. Not worth it. A toddler in diapers is SO MUCH easier!
DH's BFF (a woman) gave us 4 huge trash bags of clothes for soon-to-be DD. I just spent the morning going through them. I know I should be more grateful of free clothes, but I'm donating 3/4 of them. I see no reason to keep clothes I'm never going to put on her. It was all NMS (ruffles, princess slogans, cupcakes). So, flameful that I'm ungrateful and also picky. I'm also disappointed. I am already bummed about having a girl, I really wanted another boy. But now these girl clothes aren't fun?
ETA: I added "these" to the last sentence. Left that out typing too fast. I was really looking forward to going through those clothes, I'm bummed I didn't find much I liked.
Ooooh, you made me think of one. Yes, I was grateful for all of the gifts given to us when DD was born. But it pisses me off that so many people bought her fancy dresses and completely impractical outfits. Hello, my child goes to daycare, the majority of what I need are footed sleepers, bodysuits and elastic waisted pants. I had a ton of outfits she wore once or not at all and they ended up getting donated or consigned. But it has come in handy that I didn't have to buy any of the outfits she needed for professional photos or her easter dress since I am not really into spending money on that kind of stuff anyway.
I don't like the pottery barn Easter baskets...at least not the boy ones. You can't read the embroidery on most of them and I don't like the the few when you can.
I really liked the Peter Rabbit one, that is fairly gender neutral.
Ooh, I thought of a confession, not really flameful though. I think my sewing room gives me the shits. Five minutes in there and I'm sprinting to the bathroom. There is no logical explanation.
DH's BFF (a woman) gave us 4 huge trash bags of clothes for soon-to-be DD. I just spent the morning going through them. I know I should be more grateful of free clothes, but I'm donating 3/4 of them. I see no reason to keep clothes I'm never going to put on her. It was all NMS (ruffles, princess slogans, cupcakes). So, flameful that I'm ungrateful and also picky. I'm also disappointed. I am already bummed about having a girl, I really wanted another boy. But now girl clothes aren't fun either? Blah.
Maybe budget some fun money and go out and get 2-3 outfits you LOVE for her. I find hammies ( or even gifts) blah too. I want to put my kid in the clothes I picked out for him. This was especially true when he was tiny. This might be flameful.
Oh I'll totally do that I have my eye on some striped dresses at a boutique shop one town over.
This is actually flameful, because I know I shouldn't judge another person's eating habits, but I have a friend who is currently dealing with GD and she's telling me about how all she eats is bowl after bowl of pasta and cereal. I had GD myself and I know that's not healthy for her or her baby. I really hope she's being smart about it.
I would judge that too. I have GD too, and as you and I both know, there's no way to eat pasta or cereal and stay within the carb guidelines. It's impossible. So she's just failing her daily testing and not caring. That's so sad, for her and her baby.
I occasionally ate a bowl of Cheerios for my night snack, but not on the regular! She had it with a prior pregnancy as well, and I just can't understand her thought process here. I'm hoping she has a magical form of GD or something, but I kind of doubt it.
Also @supergreen gender disappointment sucks. I strongly suggest therapy.
I have never dealt with it, but it seems to be a symptom of underlying issues ( depression, anxiety) in folks I know who have.
Good point, thank you. If the feelings persist once she's here, I'll certainly start seeing someone. I was on high alert for PPD/PPA with DS, since I'd had issues as a teenager. But nothing happened. If it does with DD I'll get checked out ASAP.