Sister #1- I don't really know her H. He seems nice enough but we've only spent a few hours together. Sister #2- divorced but her ex is awesome. SiL #1- crazy. Like, told people she had cancer when she didn't kind of crazy. I am civil to her. SiL #2-also crazy, in a paranoid, talks about everyone behind their backs kind of crazy. We are nice to each other's faces but she makes no secret of the fact that she resents me. BiL-married to SiL #2, and seems nice enough, but also follows along with her paranoia, so not sure what to think. He is my H's brother, and my H is getting fed up with him, too, I think.
I'm so incredibly lucky in that I 100% adore my BIL (my sister's H). I've known him my whole life (they were HS sweethearts) and he IS like a brother to me.
I also really love my H's brothers and get along well with their wives as well, one in particular is absolutely amazing and I am so grateful for her presence in my life.
I will be sad if he marries this girl and I don't like her.
I love H's sister and, like a few of you, am much closer with my step-brother's Ex-W than him. I keep thinking maybe she'll be better next time but she's just...not.
I love my sister's husband and I really like my husband's sister. We don't have much of anything in common with her (my H's sister's) husband though. So it's okay that we rarely see them I suppose. Easier for everyone that way.
I love h's brother. He has a super dry sense of humor.
I love sister's fiancee, too. He's a little redneck, but he's a really hard worker, and I admire him for that. And he's funny and fits in really well with our family.
bil (h's brother) is fine. i barely know him because he doesn't talk. sil (his wife) is one of my best friends. i like her 95% of the time. i don't like her when she's being a know-it-all or letting her kids hurt mine.
sil (h's sister) is great. she's still in college so she is much younger than us but she's fun! i wish we saw her more.
She has her human points, like being spoiled as a kid and adult and consequently doesn't quite "get" how she comes off sometimes, especially to those with less than.
But she is patient and kind and a great mom and we get along really well.
Post by rachelgreen on Jan 26, 2015 15:00:36 GMT -5
A year ago I would have said yes. I was about to be her co-MOH and we called each other bffs and sisters vs SIL. Then I found out on the night of her wedding that for months she and her childhood bffs had been bitching about me behind my back and she was allowing them to make fun of my weight and say some very nasty things about me. We haven't been the same since. I did finally tell her I found out about it and it took me months and months to try to get past - esp since I was pregnant and all along we had always planned on them being the godparents.
Right now, after she did a couple more suspect/shitty things, I really don't know. I'm trying to forgive and move on because the level that this consumes me lately isn't really that healthy. It just sucks because for 11 years I thought I had a true sister who loved me as much as I loved her. (wilted)
Post by Captain Serious on Jan 26, 2015 15:14:07 GMT -5
My husband's SIL carried on a months-long affair with her priest in my house, so...no.
I am growing to like my brother's wife more with time, although we come from different worlds and view things very differently. We've found some common ground now that we both have kids.
I really like my BIL, (Dh's brother) but worry I won't like whoever he marries, based on who he has dated up to this point. I really hope he finds someone great. I can.. tolerate my SIL, (Dh's sister) but she is dramatic to the extreme. My other SIL (my brother's wife) is easy for me to like, and we get along great, even if we're not very similar.
H has three siblings, I adore his oldest brother and his wife but we haven't had a chance to hang out as much as I'd like because they live in Arizona. His oldest sister is warming up to me but I love her husband. I despise H's other brother for many reasons. He's accused H of keeping E away from their family, among other things. Yuck.
Post by ninjabridemom on Jan 26, 2015 18:55:49 GMT -5
Oh man I think I won the lottery. I love my BIL who's married to my sister, and I love all Jake's brothers and their wives. Seriously, we connect on different things and sometimes it's a little much when we're all together, but I love them all.
I didn't like BIL for a little bit though. When my sister went to Italy I was her conduit for one conversation w him and he ended up talking my ear off about nothing. And he's seriously funny and smart. But he took getting to know. Before that I thought he was sort of too much of a partier, too quiet, kinda dumb, etc.
He's like Joel on Parenthood. When he started fitting in he really fits in.
Post by marylennox on Jan 26, 2015 19:29:55 GMT -5
Eh. When I first met H's family I loved his siblings and thought all of them were really great. They have changed a lot since then. So have my opinions.
Post by BunnyMacDougal on Jan 26, 2015 19:34:06 GMT -5
NOPE.
Here's some advice. Not sure if you're the "me" or the "SIL" in your situation - obvs you're the sane one. But if she tries to be close with you and you're not into it, be kind and just tell her you don't think it'll be a hang-out relationship. Be super clear.
My SIL was an ass who would always say "let's do (this or that)" and "we have to go do " (this or that) making me SUPER welcome and happy......then she proceeded to break plans and say mean shit to people willing to quote her to me. It was saaaaaaaaaaad.
I will be sad if he marries this girl and I don't like her.
I love H's sister and, like a few of you, am much closer with my step-brother's Ex-W than him. I keep thinking maybe she'll be better next time but she's just...not.
I really really hated my SIL...she did a lot of horrible things to me and my family (and brother). It's been 13?14? years, and I just tolerate her now.
A year ago I would have said yes. I was about to be her co-MOH and we called each other bffs and sisters vs SIL. Then I found out on the night of her wedding that for months she and her childhood bffs had been bitching about me behind my back and she was allowing them to make fun of my weight and say some very nasty things about me. We haven't been the same since. I did finally tell her I found out about it and it took me months and months to try to get past - esp since I was pregnant and all along we had always planned on them being the godparents.
Right now, after she did a couple more suspect/shitty things, I really don't know. I'm trying to forgive and move on because the level that this consumes me lately isn't really that healthy. It just sucks because for 11 years I thought I had a true sister who loved me as much as I loved her. (wilted)
OMG people are so shitty. I hate sisters in law. They're worse than Cinderella step sisters.
H's brothers wife I do not like at all but apparently my IL's can't stand her either. She's really crazy and practically a catfish (not to us, as far as we know, but she's been caught in some serious lies and deception on her social media account).
I love my two other SIL's (married to my brothers). One has been around since I was about 10. We've had a better relationship but my dad's failing health separated us and I don't know that we will ever be back to what we were. But I love her and my brother. My other SIL is awesome and my oldest sons godmother. We don't talk regularly but I could trust her with anything.