I'm sorry rumpshaker, it's such a hard decision to make. I really put off making it until my stbx did it for me because everyone said not to make any decisions in the first year of parenthood. But like your H, mine had serious issues that he is honestly unlikely to ever address and I couldn't stick around hoping and wishing that someday things would magically get better, walking on eggshells all the while. Now that we have been separated for almost 8 months I realise that if losing his family wasn't enough to spur a change then there was almost certainly no hope with me staying.
It will be hard because you still love him and you can acknowledge that there are deeper issues at play, but I think you will also find it a relief in a lot of ways. Best of luck to you. x
I am so proud of you. It is hard and awful and sad... But so liberating too. Some of my best times were when I started over. My gut and heart hurt but I have to admit starting over without the dead weight of my x was amazing
You get to make a perfect home for yourself and your baby. You get a new chance to be happy. And you will be. This will be wonderful, trust me. Once you get going nothing will stop you. You are giving yourself and your dd a new chance at happiness. You got this.