This brought to you by a conversation I had with one of my student's moms at conferences on Friday.
Her and her husband have 4 girls (7,6,3 and 1). They want two more. Mom is 28 and "has plenty of time left to have more children" (direct quote). Her friend is 41 and has been trying for 15 years to have a child. So mom of my student is carrying her friend's baby. She's due in August. Her own children don't know yet but she told me as a heads up so I would know what was going on if her daughter mentioned anything to me.
I would never be a candidate given my high risk pregnancy and induction necessary at 36 weeks BUT in the perfect world if I had easy pregnancies and births I would like to think I would do it.
Post by Velar Fricative on Jan 26, 2015 16:56:53 GMT -5
No way. If all goes well with this pregnancy, I have never been more sure of anything in my life that this is the last time I ever want to be pregnant.
However, I think it's awesome that there are women willing to do this.
I would! I mean, not for money or just because I "love being pregnant" but I would do it for a family member definitely. Hell, my mother volunteered to be a surrogate for me when I was having TTTC. It's a great thing to do for someone and (knock on wood) pregnancy hasn't been so bad for me and my delivery was very easy.
Post by countthestars on Jan 26, 2015 16:58:42 GMT -5
I don't know. There are probably only 3 people in the world I would even consider doing it for and two of them are either pregnant or a mom already. The 3rd is struggling with IVF and if approached by her, I would give it serious thought.
Post by cincodemayo on Jan 26, 2015 16:58:53 GMT -5
I would love to do it, but only if it was somehow immaculate conception. I don't think I could handle the IVF procedure.
I also know that my H would have a really hard time getting on board, and I think I would have a major hormone swing after the baby was born that would probably lead to me wanting another of my own. ha
My sister had a hysterectomy at 28, before she had kids. She has asked me if I would, but I just can't. I have several reasons, none of which are related to how pregnancy affects me physically. But I just can't.
No way. Pregnancy is something I'm willing to endure for my (and DH's) own desire to have a family, but I don't love it and certainly wouldn't volunteer for it if it wasn't my own kid. Maybe that makes me a selfish asshole?
I would do it in a minute for either of my sisters. I have pretty easy pregnancies and deliveries. I hate being pregnant though, so thankfully they have each been able to conceive and carry three children,
Yes. It is a real possibility that my sister will need one due to chemo treatments when she was younger and I have already offered (she's not even married/engaged or 100% sure on kids yet though)
I think I am too old to be a good surrogate candidate and I have a short cervix. Even if I was a good choice I don't think I could go through pregnancy again. Shudder. I don't think I would have a hard time with the emotional aspect.
Yes, for my brother. He is gay, and I know he would love to have kids some day. Right now he is single and not thinking about anything in the near future, but if he were interested in having a biological child of his or his partner's own, I would do it in a heartbeat. Not necessarily because I loved being pregnant or anything, but more because I love my brother so much and being able to give him a child that he would be an amazing dad to would be such an awesome thing. I would obviously not be the egg donor though.
I would do it. I'd like to be pg again, just 1 last time, but I don't need more kids. However, my last (only) pg was full of problems so IF couples can do better than my ute.
I got to a very late stage (transfer scheduled) with a friend who had a series of horrible baby-related events (infant loss, multiple m/c, etc.). I would do it in a heartbeat for someone I love. I love being pregnant.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Post by MadamePresident on Jan 26, 2015 17:16:53 GMT -5
I would do it for a sister or a very very close friend. I think emotionally it would be hard. I'd want the baby to be in my life somehow. I have very easy pregnancies and very quick labors. I'm pretty sure my husband wouldn't go for it though.
Post by BlueNotebook on Jan 26, 2015 17:17:53 GMT -5
Emotionally I don't think I could do it. I'd like to think I could do it for my sister if it were her only option for having a baby but I would need some serious therapy before, during and after.
Post by timorousbeastie on Jan 26, 2015 17:21:53 GMT -5
Emotionally I think I could handle it. I even used to think I would consider doing it for a friend or family member. Then I got pregnant with DD and I hated every second of it. So, nope.