Yes, for my brother. He is gay, and I know he would love to have kids some day. Right now he is single and not thinking about anything in the near future, but if he were interested in having a biological child of his or his partner's own, I would do it in a heartbeat. Not necessarily because I loved being pregnant or anything, but more because I love my brother so much and being able to give him a child that he would be an amazing dad to would be such an awesome thing. I would obviously not be the egg donor though.
I may DD this later.
I'm so sorry that it ended that way, what a difficult situation you were put in! My thoughts on being the egg donor were skewed the same way yours were. That would make it harder to give the baby to it's parents. I guess I would consider it a bit more if brother wanted a child that had some of his genes and some of partners, but I think DH would maybe not be on board with it that way. Right now, DH and I have discussed our response and/or offering it to brother and he is on board 100%. But timing is also an issue, we aren't sure if we will have another, and I'm 32 now.
Yep, I think I could. I had no issues with being pregnant and I know I only want one. Of course I say this but who knows how I would feel if I were truly carrying another baby.
Post by runblondie26 on Jan 27, 2015 10:18:19 GMT -5
I would for my brother/sil. It would have to be a close, blood relationship, so they'd be the only ones I'd consider. I enjoy being pregnant and would love for my kids to have a cousin they are close with.
For a singleton, yes. I enjoyed being pregnant with J. The twin one was a lot harder on my body and am not as eager to do that again. But, I'd do it for my sister.
No way. If all goes well with this pregnancy, I have never been more sure of anything in my life that this is the last time I ever want to be pregnant.
However, I think it's awesome that there are women willing to do this.
This is me. I really hope I'm never in the situation where someone asks because I don't think that I could do it.
I totally would! At this point I probably wouldn't be eligible because I had pre-e and HELLP but that was with a multiple pregnancy so maybe things would be better with a singleton? The MFM dr told me I should be a surrogate because I had a rockstar ute! lol
One of my l&d nurses was a surrogate twice-one with twins. She had older kids and said she always did well with her pregnancies. Amazing!
Post by WillabyWallabyWu on Jan 27, 2015 12:46:51 GMT -5
I would do it. I don't think I'm a good candidate since I had HELLP, but I'd do it. I didn't love being pregnant, but I prefer the pregnancy part to the caring for a newborn part. That was rough.
Maybe for my sister, that would be it. Being pregnant is really hard on my back (I already have problems) and I imagine it would be painful, since #2 is already a lot more painful than #1 was.
Would I? Yes. I enjoyed being pregnant. If it was possible....
COULD I? No. Unfortunately, that isht tries to kill me, so we may be 1 and done but I realllllllllly want a 2nd kid. I have to go to an MFM doc and all that jazz for a 2nd pregnancy.
I would consider it for my sisters or SIL if there were no other options for them. But I don't know that I could emotionally carry a baby for 9 months (even if not biologically mine) and then hand it over to someone else to raise/care for. I would need some major counseling during and after pregnancy to deal with it so I would only consider it for family. I have immense respect for anyone who is capable of acting as a surrogate.
I'm so sorry that it ended that way, what a difficult situation you were put in! My thoughts on being the egg donor were skewed the same way yours were. That would make it harder to give the baby to it's parents. I guess I would consider it a bit more if brother wanted a child that had some of his genes and some of partners, but I think DH would maybe not be on board with it that way. Right now, DH and I have discussed our response and/or offering it to brother and he is on board 100%. But timing is also an issue, we aren't sure if we will have another, and I'm 32 now.
Yeah timing was an issue for us, too. You'd have to consider the 9 months being pregnant plus the year+ recommended recovery. So it would be almost 2.5 years from starting to be a surrogate to being able to have your next kid.
I love surrogacy in theory, and loved being pregnant. It's the emotional part I would have a hard time with.
I would consider it for a close friend or family. If you'd asked me after my first or second pregnancy, I would have said no. But my third pregnancy was much easier so I'm more open to it now. However, I would need my DH and kids to be totally on board (as much as kids can be).
I would truly consider it for a close friend as well as family. I really enjoyed being pregnant both times. I like what it did for my body. Cleared up my skin, improved my headaches, and I actually even grew an inch taller (!) with my second. My body completely recovered after both without any stretching aside from my breasts ;-(. But I plan on fixing that eventually. I think it would be hard not breastfeeding afterward though.
I think DH would be fine with it. He was completely enamoured with my body when I was preggers. I don't know how DS/DD would take it though. Might be hard to explain.
Call me naïve, but is there such thing as non-iVF surrogacy eg. "au naturale " conception? The IVF process does wierd me out a little too as does egg harvesting. Mild needle aversion. Is this a thing or am I waaay out on this? If it is a thing, would it change anyone's thoughts?
I always wanted to be a surrogate. Then I struggled with IF and had an emergency c/s and pretty much gave up the idea. I love being pregnant but I don't think I'd be a good candidate anymore.
If I'd had 2 easy vaginal births, I would totally be a surrogate right now.