What does a guy mean...

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When putting they are "open-minded" or looking for someone who is on their dating profile.  I obviously know the definition of the word but I feel like there is some hidden meaning in this context.  Is that code for I want to have sex on the first date?  Or I'm looking for someone into anal?

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I think that would all depend on the context of his profile honestly. It could legit mean an open-minded person or could mean something else entirely. I think it's a go with your gut sort of thing.

[Deleted]

Open minded usually makes me think they want to be swingers or something oddly kinky or creepy.   It may not imply that at all, but my mind goes there.

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Jan 26, 2015 20:27:18 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

It could also mean politically open.

Do I just have a really dirrrrty mind??? 

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Like for example this guys says he's looking for a woman that's down to earth and open minded. And then he goes on to say he likes to grill out, blah blah blah

[jellymankelly]

In my experience, "open minded" in a dating profile means that he wants to be able to bang other women freely while he's dating you. However, it's possible that I just encountered some shitty people who don't know what "open minded" actually means...

[Deleted]

Ehh..it may be nothing.  Maybe that he just wants someone laid back..not a crazy, picky chick..KWIM?  

[Emerald1486]

Jan 26, 2015 20:46:16 GMT -5 @bk said:

Like for example this guys says he's looking for a woman that's down to earth and open minded. And then he goes on to say he likes to grill out, blah blah blah

Could be a few things... 
Doesn't want a woman who believes in the "traditional gender roles"
Could be has a few kinks and wants a woman who would be ok with those.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Kinky or liberal would be my guess.

ALSO SWINGING ISN'T CREEPY.

[mcc]

Considering where you live, it might be code of (shh!) Democrat.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Oh, the other thought I had was maybe he's unemployed and doesn't want to be written off so easily? Or maybe has kind of a dicey living situation.

[lexxasaurus]

I wouldn't read into it. I would classify my friends and my partner as open minded. I'm super alternative, liberal and non-traditional - open minded to me just describes someone who would take any or all of that with ease.

[Deleted]

I think it's just so vague and it could mean 100 different things, and a guy writes it thinking you know what he means and you really don't.

[jojoandleo]

Living in the south- it typically means liberal here.

I don't like calling consensual sex between adults creepy. I save that word for, like, woody Allen fucking his adopted daughter. I could never swing because I am a jealous bitch, but that doesn't make it creepy.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I think it means that he's in a non-traditional living situation that women before have judged him poorly for. Like he and his XW/XGF are still living together because of the kids/health insurance/waiting for the house to sell. Or he's unable to find a job due to his rap sheet, so he sells pot out of his basement.
He's got something questionable in his life, and if you aren't willing to date him despite this stuff, you are just intolerant.

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Jan 26, 2015 22:17:37 GMT -5 lyssbobiss, Command, B613 said:

Kinky or liberal would be my guess.

ALSO SWINGING ISN'T CREEPY.

That wasn't what I said or meant to imply. I said "it makes me think they want to be swingers OR something oddly kinky or creepy".  Like something a bit more unusual for many people hence the "open mind",  KWIM? 
(although swinging is something that would not be for me, but that's besides the point) 

[bl]

I sometimes say I am looking for someone open-minded when asked what I am looking for and yes it means a ton of things to me. First someone who isn't judgemental of others even if their situation is different than yours, liberal, and yes would be open to some kink.

[abcdefu]

I thought it meant open minded to try new things: like fishing, hunting, the opera, sporting events or anything else he may be interested in. After seeing these answers, I'm glad I'm not on a dating website ...yet! lol

[GilliC]

Depends on whether he's wearing a shirt in his profile pics.

[Emerald1486]

Jan 26, 2015 22:46:09 GMT -5 lyssbobiss, Command, B613 said:

Oh, the other thought I had was maybe he's unemployed and doesn't want to be written off so easily? Or maybe has kind of a dicey living situation.

That is a good point too. I went out with a guy who is a similar living situation as my brother; living with his sister to help out. 

[missva]

I have "open-minded" somewhere in my profile, but I just put it on there because I live in an extremely conservative area that is frequently close minded to any culture / beliefs other than right wing, Christian, socially conservative ones. It never crossed my mind people could think I'm a freak because of it lol! Then again, I probably am a freak by South Carolina's standards.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Jan 26, 2015 23:43:37 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Jan 26, 2015 22:17:37 GMT -5 lyssbobiss, Command, B613 said:

Kinky or liberal would be my guess.

ALSO SWINGING ISN'T CREEPY.

That wasn't what I said or meant to imply. I said "it makes me think they want to be swingers OR something oddly kinky or creepy".  Like something a bit more unusual for many people hence the "open mind",  KWIM? 
(although swinging is something that would not be for me, but that's besides the point) 

Sorry, my brain subbed in "and" for "or."

[Wanderista]

I've seen it used several different ways. It can just mean open to new experiences, people and ideas. That could include sexual experiences. That's what it sounds like from your description.

I've also seen it used the other way. It can sometimes have a more douchey meaning. "Oh, baby, you don't want to do that? Come on and be open-minded." I think that's the sense that other posters consider to be creepy. More like: open to anything that I want regardless of your personal feelings.

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When I see it, I think "open minded" means he was with some harpy who didn't want to have fun or deviate from the norm. Or that it's just a blah cliche thing to say. Anything to fill the space. "I'm a nice guy, with a job, own place and a car. Looking for an open minded, kind, attractive woman." WTF does any of that mean? I'm downright bitchy and snarky, but many would definitely say I'm kind. What does attractive mean? :\ I wouldn't read too much into it.

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Threesomes.


/Fin

[calle28]

It really could mean anything and I've seen that on plenty of profiles. I've never thought anything weird or creepy.

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Jan 26, 2015 20:46:16 GMT -5 @bk said:

Like for example this guys says he's looking for a woman that's down to earth and open minded. And then he goes on to say he likes to grill out, blah blah blah

I would think that would mean someone who isn't conservative and likes to try new things.

I don't think it necessarily has to do with sex at all or having an open relationship based on that context.

[jojoandleo]

I promise you all, open minded in a deep red state means liberal. We can't out ourselves here. It attracts the Jehovah's Wintesses.