Are you living in your "forever" location?

[HoneySpider]

Are you currently living in a city/town you imagine being in forever? 

[Deleted]

No. I would love to move down south near his parents but he says I need to find him a job were he makes as much or more then he does here or we retire. So we will have to wait until he retires.

[christy082]

I wouldn't mind living somewhere else but almost everyone in our families is here, so I imagine we won't go far. I can see us building our "forever home" one town over from where we are now.

[katespade]

I don't see us ever moving away from this area. We both grew up two small towns away from our current town, and neither of us have any interest in moving any farther away. If we were to move out of the town we live in right now, it would be to move back to our hometown.

[krystee]

I think we are. H would prefer to be in a warmer climate, but my whole family is here and we have good jobs here.

[tacocat]

Probably. We live in our hometown and both of our parents are here, so I don't see us leaving.

[HoneySpider]

I don't know what our forever location is. We've moved a lot so it's hard to fathom being in one place for ever and ever. I do want to eventually settle somewhere (especially once we have kids in school) but I don't know where that is. We'll see.

[grover]

No. I'd prefer moving out of state, preferably south. But we'll likely land up staying in this state. I do not consider this suburb one that I want to stay in once kids are here.

[estrellita]

Nope. My job is what's keeping us here pretty much. H could work from anywhere, so if anyone is going to get a new job, it's me. But it's hard to give up the benefits/pay/hours right now. That's why I'm ok buying a house here for a while, maybe until we're done having kids so I don't have to worry about ML benefits. We'll see. My ideal area would be closer to my parents, but I know H wants to stay closer to his parents. A good compromise is the area about halfway between our parents, which works well because I have a lot of friends around there. A former coworker does have a good job in that area, so I have been considering applying there. I think I will wait a while though. Anyways, there's just not much to do in this town and I wish I was closer to my family. We're only about an hour and a half away, but being 45 min or so away would be so much better!

[ginkgoleaf]

I think we will be here a decent amount of time. DH's family is in this general area, as are all of our good friends (DH's friends from high school that we're both friends with now, and our closest friends from college). We would love to live somewhere warmer, but can't really see moving somewhere that we didn't know anyone. So that leaves DC/NOVA, which is expensive, or FL, which I'm just not sure we'd want to do either. I think weather-wise, the Carolinas would be ideal, but I haven't spent much time there.

[bk1]

In this area, yes. We might eventually go to a nearby small town or something.

[wanderingenough]

Doubtful. H and I are both bred with an interesting combo of wanderlust for interesting places and willingness to "go where the best jobs are." We've gone from wanting to move back to Florida in the next two years, applying to jobs in the Northeast, and planting roots where we are---all in the last month.

[mac08]

I honestly don't know.  It's something I think about frequently.  Our parents live about 4 hours away, and we don't have any family close to where we are.  It would be nice to be close to them, but we like the area we're in now much better.  There is a lot more to do, and there are many more job opportunities.  Sometimes I think about moving somewhere completely different, like maybe somewhere more south with better weather and lower cost of living.  

[MrsAggie]

Yes. We absolutely love it here.

[melsamoony]

Yes even though I dream of living in a tropical location, family trumps all.

[tiptoetulips]

Yes, we grew up here and both of our families live here

[lostarz]

We'll be staying where we are for quite awhile. Our families are close and it's my hometown. If we were to move, it would probably be more north in the upper lower peninsula of Michigan, but that wouldn't be for quite awhile...if ever.

[awick14]

Jan 27, 2015 7:30:27 GMT -5 tiptoetulips said:

Yes, we grew up here and both of our families live here

This is us too.

There maybe a chance we will move after a career change for one/both of us but who knows.

[Deleted]

I think we will stay in this area for a long time. H has a good job here, and his parents and mine both live here. In fact, 3 years ago we actually helped my parents move 700 miles from the East Coast to be closer to us. They are definitely glad to not be dealing with the snow right now, because they would have gotten more than 3 feet.

H and I talk about moving somewhere warmer, but I don't know if that will ever happen. If/when we have kids I would consider moving to a town with a better school district.

[MrsMB]

I would like to say we are. DH tends to get stir crazy easily. If this partnership with his current dance partner ends (not likely...just if), he may talk about other locations. That's his usual pattern following the end of a dance partnership. He's very successful at his current location with a steady roster of students though....so it's a hard idea to swallow. It can take years to build that up. Right now he's talking about one day buying a giant plot of land in our current city. He really loves being out in the country. He also loves how great the people are out here.

I usually just ride the rollercoaster and let him know I'll go wherever he wants us to go. We usually end up staying here. I like it because it's only 3 hours away from my family. They are the only ones with children so the kids we will have already have cousins nearby...which is nice.

[travelbug]

Nope, nope and nope! I basically hate the state we live in. H and I both want to live more south. We hate the cold. We already are a good long ways from my family so that won't be much a change moving a little further away. But... We will probably stay in this state for quite a few more years....

[estrellita]

Ugh ok, I decided today we're not buying a house here. Yet another business closed down and it worries me about the future of this city. I know our jobs are fairly safe, but in the last couple months we have lost like, 10 businesses. All of which are well known places and most closed with little or no notice. I think we're going to make our current place work until I feel comfortable finding a new job. I just can't see myself raising my kids here!

[HoneySpider]

Sorry estrellita that much be frustrating

[HoneySpider]

I could see us being in DC longish-term BUT I really want to buy a house again at some point and that's not happening in this neighborhood. I am not rich.

So, we'll see.

[mrssandro]

I sure do hope not. I love Texas and all but I have lived here nearly all my life. 

We talked about moving to Kauai one day. But it won't be for several years. Probably until the kids graduate. 

While I love Kauai I am on the fence if the above will ever come true. I want to explore more islands before deciding on one to live on. I want a good snorkeling location because it's something I really enjoy. Kauai is okay for snorkeling but not the prime location. 

[estrellita]

Jan 27, 2015 12:45:59 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Sorry estrellita that much be frustrating

It really is. This town has changed so much since I started school here almost 10 years ago, and sadly a lot of the changes haven't been positive. The businesses closing are also annoying because this is the only decent sized city within like 50 miles. So for say, my hometown to lose a chain restaurant, it's no big deal because there's probably another within a reasonable distance. We lose one here and we have to drive at least an hour to the next closest one. Supposedly we are getting a few more places I really want here (Costco and Trader Joe's) but we'll see if they really come and how long they last!

ETA: H just told me he's ready to move away from here too, so at least we're on the same page! So it looks like this will be a summer of job hunting! I hate job hunting but hopefully I will find something that pays well and has good benefits!

[wanderingenough]

MrsMB - You can't leave. Every few months my H makes noise about wanting to move to your locale. I'mma need you to live there if that happens.

[MrsMB]

Jan 27, 2015 17:16:46 GMT -5 wanderingenough said:

MrsMB - You can't leave. Every few months my H makes noise about wanting to move to your locale. I'mma need you to live there if that happens.

Umm...Imma need that to happen ASAP. For realz!

[pooh8402]

Yes and no. We do plan to retire here, but we also have plans to move away for a while, probably due to school/work for me. My career and education opportunities are limited here.

[jennybee1018]

Nope, definitely not. While we are really enjoying being ex-pats, this is obviously a temporary gig! We've been here for 6 years so far. We'll ideally stay for at least another 3. (And then part of me wants to stick out for 2022). I'm not sure where we'll go when we eventually repatriate.

If it were up to DH, we'd go to Montana, where his family is. But we both need to find jobs! So that's undecided as of now.