What should I do here? Anniversary related poll.

[cville]

(minds out of the gutter, as if I'd ask you for advice there)

My husband and I agreed that our present to each other for our 10th anniversary would be our trip.  Then, last night, he revealed he also got me some sort of item.  He will not reveal the price range.  Well, yet.  I wanted to watch our recorded Downton so I didn't harass him too much.

Background:  He gave me (imo) crappy Christmas and birthday presents (due to their lazy thoughtlessness) so either he had this planned all along or this is somehow making up for it?  He has, otherwise, a general history of good gift-giving.  He is impossible to buy presents for, so I was looking forward to not having to do that.  Ha.


For app users:


Get him nothing, per original agreement.
Get him something tokeny, because he's violated original agreement.

Try to figure out the price range, get something comparable.

Get whatever strikes my fancy.

[pantsparty]

This is THE WORST. At least you have some warning.

I would get something tokeny. But make him open yours first in case his is way better. LOL.

[cville]

Jan 27, 2015 15:38:20 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

This is THE WORST. At least you have some warning.

I would get something tokeny. But make him open yours first in case his is way better. LOL.

I'm actually mad at him.  Because he bought me a present.  


But if it's another goddamned Kindle giftcard, I will shank him right there on the beach.  I know I am ungrateful.

[iamgrace]

Ahhhh, I hate it when they do this. Idk.

[Moe]

Special snowflake: get him something if you find/see something that you think he must have/will make him happy/you would have gotten him regardless of whether it was anniversary or just because it's Tuesday.

Don't get him something, no matter how big or small, just because you feel the urge to match his gift.

[cville]

Jan 27, 2015 15:40:26 GMT -5 @scottydeux said:

Something small.  Maybe some Molton Brown stuff?  The black pepper scent is nice.

I have not heard of Molton Brown.  Can I google this at work, or are you sending me to some sort of chocolate themed sex shop?

[FastHands]

Jan 27, 2015 15:39:24 GMT -5 cville said:

Jan 27, 2015 15:38:20 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

This is THE WORST. At least you have some warning.

I would get something tokeny. But make him open yours first in case his is way better. LOL.

I'm actually mad at him.  Because he bought me a present.  


But if it's another goddamned Kindle giftcard, I will shank him right there on the beach.  I know I am ungrateful.

This is part of why I say get nothing. First, don't reward going back on the deal. Additionally, if you go out of  your way and get him something thoughtful and he gets you something junky, it'll only make it even worse. And if he gets you something awesome and you get him nothing, well then, lucky you.

[jinkies]

My husband told me 2 days before Christmas that he got me something, although we'd agreed not to exchange.

I did not get him anything, and don't regret that decision.

I say stick to the original agreement, especially if you don't already have something in mind.

Alternative: plan something special during your trip (special dinner or something) and tell him that's his anniversary gift.

[cville]

Jan 27, 2015 15:40:47 GMT -5 Moe said:

Special snowflake: get him something if you find/see something that you think he must have/will make him happy/you would have gotten him regardless of whether it was anniversary or just because it's Tuesday.

Don't get him something, no matter how big or small, just because you feel the urge to match his gift.

I might just do this.  Be open to the notion of presents, but not search them out.

BECAUSE HE'S A JERK WHO WENT BACKSIES ON OUR PLAN.  

[rex]

my h always does this!

i stick with what we agreed on and only get him a card. maybe i am a jerk though.

[aprilsails]

I was also going to suggest doing something extra on the trip. We usually go on vacation around our anniversary and we have never bought gifts for one another. We've always gone in on big gifts together or bought some nice things and a fancy dinner while we're on the trip.

[candyland]

cville We have a no gift card policy.

Do you think he might have gotten you an excursion for your trip and not an actual gift?

[ninjabridemom]

Jake did this for Christmas and I one-upped him (b/c that's what marriage is about, people) by having the boys pick something out for him as well.

PUNISHMENT.

(it was Jurassic Park which they picked b/c DINOSAH!!!!)