i am however judging a fb friend who has gotten 3 or 4 dogs in the last couple years and rehomed all of them for one reason or another. maybe it's not the dogs, maybe your family isn't in a good place to have pets right now! you have six kids, one of whom has disability, and zero extra minutes to train a puppy.
Was invited for a playdate with a friend today and I finally asked her if her kids are vaccinated. I used the current measles outbreak as an explanation for needing to ask. As I suspected, they are not, but "this outbreak shows that immunizations aren't foolproof". And she told me "there are so many things that can go wrong with our kids, it is incredibly reassuring to me to know that God is ultimately in control." I have been trying to get out of being friends with her for years, as we have very little in common and her views drive me bananas. But we've known each other so long and have so many mutual friends that it's been really difficult. I told her we can't hang out because of the immunization thing, and I feel bad. But kind of relieved too.
Was invited for a playdate with a friend today and I finally asked her if her kids are vaccinated. I used the current measles outbreak as an explanation for needing to ask. As I suspected, they are not, but "this outbreak shows that immunizations aren't foolproof". And she told me "there are so many things that can go wrong with our kids, it is incredibly reassuring to me to know that God is ultimately in control." I have been trying to get out of being friends with her for years, as we have very little in common and her views drive me bananas. But we've known each other so long and have so many mutual friends that it's been really difficult. I told her we can't hang out because of the immunization thing, and I feel bad. But kind of relieved too.
how did she take that?
i'm sorry to hear about your dad L. hope he's on the mend soon!
Was invited for a playdate with a friend today and I finally asked her if her kids are vaccinated. I used the current measles outbreak as an explanation for needing to ask. As I suspected, they are not, but "this outbreak shows that immunizations aren't foolproof". And she told me "there are so many things that can go wrong with our kids, it is incredibly reassuring to me to know that God is ultimately in control." I have been trying to get out of being friends with her for years, as we have very little in common and her views drive me bananas. But we've known each other so long and have so many mutual friends that it's been really difficult. I told her we can't hang out because of the immunization thing, and I feel bad. But kind of relieved too.
how did she take that?
i'm sorry to hear about your dad L. hope he's on the mend soon!
rootbeerfloat and IndiaInk I'm solo parenting this week too. It was going amazingly well until we got home from a playdate tonight and DD2 pooped in the tub and DD1 threw a monstrous tantrum (rare for her).
rootbeerfloat and IndiaInk I'm solo parenting this week too. It was going amazingly well until we got home from a playdate tonight and DD2 pooped in the tub and DD1 threw a monstrous tantrum (rare for her).
So this is me now.
Thank god for bedtime. I've popped open a bottle of pinot noir. It's kind of a nice bottle but I don't care. Wine.
Oh great. She just responded that she was offended at first but is feeling less offended now. She thinks I'm being overly cautious, but remembers the feelings of protectiveness with the first. And gave me a guilt trip about hoping I'll someday feel like it's safe to see them again.
This is so awkward.
It's one thing to be hardass about this stuff in theory, but it sucks to have to tell someone in person that you don't want to hang out with them because of their choices.
Oh great. She just responded that she was offended at first but is feeling less offended now. She thinks I'm being overly cautious, but remembers the feelings of protectiveness with the first. And gave me a guilt trip about hoping I'll someday feel like it's safe to see them again.
This is so awkward.
It's one thing to be hardass about this stuff in theory, but it sucks to have to tell someone in person that you don't want to hang out with them because of their choices.
i HATE when someone chooses a topic like this to pull the "you're a first time mom" card. i will most definitely lighten up on certain issues with subsequent children, but this is not one of them.
Oh great. She just responded that she was offended at first but is feeling less offended now. She thinks I'm being overly cautious, but remembers the feelings of protectiveness with the first. And gave me a guilt trip about hoping I'll someday feel like it's safe to see them again.
This is so awkward.
It's one thing to be hardass about this stuff in theory, but it sucks to have to tell someone in person that you don't want to hang out with them because of their choices.
i HATE when someone chooses a topic like this to pull the "you're a first time mom" card. i will most definitely lighten up on certain issues with subsequent children, but this is not one of them.
I guess she's grasping at some justification so she can feel less offended. We live in a pretty crunchy community, so it's possible this is the first time someone has ever said anything to her about it. You'd think non-vaxers would understand that people not wanting to hang out with them is a risk they take!
Oh great. She just responded that she was offended at first but is feeling less offended now. She thinks I'm being overly cautious, but remembers the feelings of protectiveness with the first. And gave me a guilt trip about hoping I'll someday feel like it's safe to see them again.
This is so awkward.
It's one thing to be hardass about this stuff in theory, but it sucks to have to tell someone in person that you don't want to hang out with them because of their choices.
Oh fuck that condescending "feelings of protectiveness with the first" bullshit. Right in the ear. If I had 75 children I WOULD STILL NOT HAVE PLAYDATES WITH ANTI VAXXERS
L, hugs. heygrey, I have banned my sister from ever getting pets again, after she rehomed her cats (she is terrified of cats, I have not a clue as to why she ever got cats in the first place).
I can't sleep, because I am worried about getting everyone up and out of the house on time tomorrow. Not sleeping is going to make it all so much easier.
As an Eastern time zone night owl, I reserve the right to play in whichever random thread is active.
I live in a crunchy area and the non-vaxxers cannot see reason. they would not understand how or why I feel like their decision is putting my kid at risk because they don't feel that their own children are at risk.
I joined a local crunchy parent group on facebook just to lurk and joked with h that it's so I can keep my eye on the non-vaxxers and know who to avoid. it has subsequently become awkward when I've run into these people in the community and recognize them from the group. I know them, but they don't know me.
I live in a crunchy area and the non-vaxxers cannot see reason. they would not understand how or why I feel like their decision is putting my kid at risk because they don't feel that their own children are at risk.
I joined a local crunchy parent group on facebook just to lurk and joked with h that it's so I can keep my eye on the non-vaxxers and know who to avoid. it has subsequently become awkward when I've run into these people in the community and recognize them from the group. I know them, but they don't know me.
Oh great. She just responded that she was offended at first but is feeling less offended now. She thinks I'm being overly cautious, but remembers the feelings of protectiveness with the first. And gave me a guilt trip about hoping I'll someday feel like it's safe to see them again.
This is so awkward.
It's one thing to be hardass about this stuff in theory, but it sucks to have to tell someone in person that you don't want to hang out with them because of their choices.
You have my admiration for doing something so difficult if it's any consolation.
And also, her argument doesn't make sense unless her reasoning for not vaccinating is sheer YOLO parenting and not concerns about possible risks of vaccines. How is avoiding something doctors recommend because of your own fears not "feelings of protectiveness?" You could say you think she is being overly cautious. You know, in a dumb, not using logic or science-y way.
Thanks. I'm feeling so uncomfortable right now, so that means a lot.
It's about 10pm and I was too busy finishing Gilmore Girls on Netflix to post tonight. I think it's gotta be one of my all time favorite shows. FNL comes pretty close also. HIMYM was running a really close second for a long time, but the horrible finale just ruined my whole perception of the series. I'm still not over my disappointment. Same with That 70's Show, the whole last season without Eric. Lame.
Clearly I have issues with TV shows I still need to work through.
I love that DS has been STTN pretty consistently for weeks now, until tonight. Of course, tonight is when I'm finally sick with the crud that's been plaguing DS & DH and I feel like I've been hit by a truck. Go back to sleep little one! Mommy's head needs to rest!
Daddy is passed out thanks to nighttime cold meds that I can't take!!! Ugh!