My MIL emailed me and made it seem so urgent that I choose a time for her to take me out to lunch and a pedicure on my birthday. She then cancelled 2 hours later once learning how sick the boys are, "Oh, we'll do it another time since you have your hands full." No "do you need anything?" Or "wow, you really do need a break then!"
Luckily, I scheduled an hour massage and facial for Saturday. And I'll go get a pedicure afterward by myself.
We have no internet at work. Which means in addition to not being able to get work done I can't even look around on the Internet all day. My half preschool/half bank day is already a long one, today is going to be never ending.
Post by lauranicole91 on Jan 28, 2015 12:30:19 GMT -5
I'm pretty frustrated for my cousin right now. She just posted this. And for reference, her daughter is almost 6.
"Oh my freaking gosh! Yesterday I went into L's class and was told L cut her shirt with scissors. L was punished yesterday for cutting her shirt. She maintained that it was the another kid did it all night and even this morning. We kept telling her to stop lying. We get there today and am told that another kid actually cut L's shirt and the kid had an I'm sorry card for L. L was humiliated yesterday in front of the entire class when I was told that she cut her shirt. The parent of the other kid also apologized and offered to pay for the shirt. I'm so mad. We have taught L to trust her teacher. And there her teacher goes, lying to me and not saying that L was right when she said it was the other kid. The teacher said it was policy that they not say it was another child just that it was someone. I told the teacher that L got punished and told to stop lying. She laughed. I apologized to L for not believing her when she was telling me the truth, and the teacher laughed again. Today we are taking L out early to take her to ITZ for a treat for telling the truth consistently."
I feel like there had to have been a better way for this to be handled. I totally understand the teacher not being able to be like "oh so and so did it!!!" But why say the child did it to themselves. Is is really against the policy to just say "one of her classmates cut her shirt".
Guys, I really miss my kids. Edie misunderstood something I said (or I misspoke) and she thought I was taking her to school today. Then I said another wrong thing that made her think I was picking her up. I am doing neither of those things and it broke her heart and THAT SUCKED.
Give her extra hugs when you see her & I'm sure from her end all will be forgiven. If not I like to buy forgiveness with M&Ms. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
We just got back from Emerson's preschool. Her teachers seem great and she played well with the kids in her class, but the lead teacher told me all the other kids have IEP's. That's not a problem of course (Emerson has one), but she's supposed to be in an integrated room so I'm not sure how to address that without sounding like an over involved asshole parent.
I would just approach the teacher or director with that question. Ask them to clarify the classroom set up & their definition of integrated. Sounds like other than that it seems like a good fit.
Post by sunshineluv on Jan 28, 2015 12:45:12 GMT -5
lauranicole91, Wow, that is weird on so many levels. I think the teacher was backpeddling and making no sense bc she knew she made a mistake. I would be so mad.
lauranicole91, Wow, that is weird on so many levels. I think the teacher was backpeddling and making no sense bc she knew she made a mistake. I would be so mad.
It is very weird. I just can't think of any alternatives, that would make it all make sense.
That's pretty ridiculous lauranicole91. Our daycare isn't allowed to tell you the name of the other child who did something. B has had incident reports sent home and the teachers will talk to us at the end of the day about the incident (when another kid bit him or when another kid threw a block at him and he had a bump on his head), but they're not allowed to name child who did it. That's awful that the teacher lied about it.
lauranicole91 if I was the parent I'd be speaking to the teacher's supervisor that just doesn't seem right.
hairballs I think that's what I'll do. I realized I might not understand what the actual definition of integrated is for her program. I'm also worrying about everything educational for her right now, so I'm trying to remind myself to relax and just see how everything goes.
That's pretty ridiculous lauranicole91. Our daycare isn't allowed to tell you the name of the other child who did something. B has had incident reports sent home and the teachers will talk to us at the end of the day about the incident (when another kid bit him or when another kid threw a block at him and he had a bump on his head), but they're not allowed to name child who did it. That's awful that the teacher lied about it.
Yeah, exactly! I totally understand and respect the policy of keeping the name of the child anonymous. But to instead put the blame on the "victim" makes zero sense to me.
lauranicole91 Sounds like maybe the teacher didn't see it happen and wrongly assumed she did it to herself. Maybe later she found out the truth and felt bad admitting she didn't see it at all.
lauranicole91 Sounds like maybe the teacher didn't see it happen and wrongly assumed she did it to herself. Maybe later she found out the truth and felt bad admitting she didn't see it at all.
This is why I posted here. In attempt to maybe see another side I didn't think of. This is a totally plausible idea.
I haven't been able to get Andrew to nap anywhere but one me so far. He's exhausted right now so I've put him in his swing. We'll see if this works. I remember Madison napping in swings and bouncers from the beginning.
Adeline told me yesterday she will start using the potty when she's 3. So I'm going with that. Seems legit.
Madison keeps telling us very excitedly that very soon she won't have diapers or pull ups. So we ask if she'll start peeing on the potty and she says no. Okay.
Lily still asks for a diaper when she has to poop. I dont understand why going on the potty is so terrifying. She held it in for 6 days once because I told her no diapers. I had to pump her full of prunes. ugh
kandrze1 I'd ask her case manager about it. In our intergrated preschool rooms, where I work, it's supposed to be a 50/50 ratio. Sometimes that doesn't happen if not enough typical peers enroll. I don't think you'll come off as "that parent" at all. I'm sure they value peer models as much as you do.
Post by charlielove on Jan 28, 2015 13:06:24 GMT -5
I think the teacher was probably embarrassed to find out that she was in the wrong about the situation. At least the other student apologized and the student's parent acted appropriately too. It seems a bit over the top to pull her out of school early for a treat though.
We have no internet at work. Which means in addition to not being able to get work done I can't even look around on the Internet all day. My half preschool/half bank day is already a long one, today is going to be never ending.
My branch is so slow today. I think I searched everything there is to search on the internet already.
Madison keeps telling us very excitedly that very soon she won't have diapers or pull ups. So we ask if she'll start peeing on the potty and she says no. Okay.
Lily still asks for a diaper when she has to poop. I dont understand why going on the potty is so terrifying. She held it in for 6 days once because I told her no diapers. I had to pump her full of prunes. ugh
Can you bribe her with toys? I had special bathroom toys that Lincoln could play with while he pooped and if he went, he could take it out of the bathroom to play with. But if he didn't go, it had to stay in the bathroom. I also gave him an m&m every time he went poop on the potty.
Lily still asks for a diaper when she has to poop. I dont understand why going on the potty is so terrifying. She held it in for 6 days once because I told her no diapers. I had to pump her full of prunes. ugh
Can you bribe her with toys? I had special bathroom toys that Lincoln could play with while he pooped and if he went, he could take it out of the bathroom to play with. But if he didn't go, it had to stay in the bathroom. I also gave him an m&m every time he went poop on the potty.
I've offered her everything. Movies, TV show, toys, candy.. Sometimes she asks me to sit on the side of the tub and hold her hand. She eventaully starts playing with my rings and fingers and gets totally distracted. I've even offered to close the door so she can have some privacy (I stand on the other side of the door and listen of course), but nothing seems to work.
Can you bribe her with toys? I had special bathroom toys that Lincoln could play with while he pooped and if he went, he could take it out of the bathroom to play with. But if he didn't go, it had to stay in the bathroom. I also gave him an m&m every time he went poop on the potty.
I've offered her everything. Movies, TV show, toys, candy.. Sometimes she asks me to sit on the side of the tub and hold her hand. She eventaully starts playing with my rings and fingers and gets totally distracted. I've even offered to close the door so she can have some privacy (I stand on the other side of the door and listen of course), but nothing seems to work.
She's so stubborn.
She'll get it! Lincoln was pee trained for almost a month before he finally pooped on the potty. He'd either go in his diaper first thing in the morning or go in his underwear.
I think the teacher was probably embarrassed to find out that she was in the wrong about the situation. At least the other student apologized and the student's parent acted appropriately too. It seems a bit over the top to pull her out of school early for a treat though.
Yeah I thought it was really sweet what the other parent did and said too!
I have to knock on wood as I say this but I think M is finally potty trained! We went through like 3 weeks of her being fine when she was bare butt but peeing in all of her underwear or pants as soon as her butt was covered with something. Well so far we have had 2 full days of underwear with no accidents. I feel like we may have finally gotten over the hump. I hope I'm not jinxing myself here!
Oh I am SO glad to hear this! We just started week 2 and peeking in unders is a significant problem here. Thinking continued dry thoughts for you!
Eta: peeing in unders. Not peeking. Autocorrect strikes again.
Lol at peeking. For some reason the only thing that worked was those padded training underwear. We were putting pull-ups on her to go out and to school and she just treated those like diapers. I don't know why the padded underwear worked but they did!
I've offered her everything. Movies, TV show, toys, candy.. Sometimes she asks me to sit on the side of the tub and hold her hand. She eventaully starts playing with my rings and fingers and gets totally distracted. I've even offered to close the door so she can have some privacy (I stand on the other side of the door and listen of course), but nothing seems to work.
She's so stubborn.
She'll get it! Lincoln was pee trained for almost a month before he finally pooped on the potty. He'd either go in his diaper first thing in the morning or go in his underwear.
This is where we're at now. She's been full pee trained for about 2 months. She has started pooping first thing in the morning before anyone gets to her. I think figured out that if she does this she won't have to use the potty. I wake up to her yelling "I poopied! Mommy!! I poopied in my diaper! Come change me!" over the monitor.
Yesterday at daycare Madison made it to the potty for the tail end of a poop. She wanted to leave it there in the toilet so daddy could see it when he picked her up. Meanwhile, she tells me flat out at home right as she is going to start to poop but won't go on the potty for me.
The downside (or upside) of working at the same company as your H: he called to tell me he talked to my boss's boss today and that after my current boss retires (2 days after I return from maternity leave), they're restructuring my whole department and all of the people that I currently work with in my group are going under one manager and I'm going under a different manager, all of the other people in my "new" group are located in CA, and I'm the only one in DE. While it's nice to know that everything is going to be different when I come back (woohoo, like returning from maternity leave isn't going to be stressful enough), I was kind of enjoying being completely oblivious to what's going on at work right now.