I'm just stunned. I know the teacher doesn't like the accommodations for my son and has resisted things at times. I never thought she'd talk about him in a negative light to another parent. This could have hurt B's budding friendship with this girl and that breaks my heart.
You need her head on a stick in your yard.
She violated FERPA with by mentioning the evaluation. She can dislike him, she can report on his relationships with other parents to a degree, but she can't violate FERPA or ignore his IEP.
Honestly, I know my kid is difficult and I'm sure accommodations are a pain in the ass sometimes. I have mad respect for teachers and how much they have to balance. We've asked for the minimum needed to help B and fought like hell for the aide, as much to help the teacher as B. She has said and done plenty that annoys me but I don't talk about her to the other parents, I'm polite when I work in the classroom and I don't contact her unless its really important (giving my kid with the egg allergy a cupcake, in spite of the health plan in place and providing alternate snacks stored in the classroom). I just don't want this to read like "I hate teachers!", or that I don't understand my kids makes things difficult. Thank you for the replies, it really helps.
SO she endangers your sons health b/c an alternative snack is inconvenient? what the ever loving fuck. I can understand a mistake, but fucking come on with allergies. That can KILL a kid. You can't be all "well, whatever" with fucking allergies.
I'm sorry but between her unwillingness to help a child by following the IEP, talking badly about your child to another parent AND ENDANGERING HIS HEALTH. no. I'm like on Defcon 1 of anger and this isn't even my kid. I'm very much a teacher defender, but this teacher sounds awful and I'm enraged.
I really adore you, no snark. My information on cupcakegate is inadequate, but I think it was more that she forgot he couldn't have one. She didn't catch it, and B was pretty freaked out. He doesn't tell my much about school, just big things like getting hurt etc. His egg allergy isn't one you can play fast and loose with though and I made sure they knew that. One bite and B would likely have been on his way to the ER. I feel like she doesn't take his safety seriously.
Burn it down. Its a violation of FERPA. It also sounds like she needs a serious admin intervention in regards to the legalities of an IEP and a health plan. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.
Yeah, no. Between this, the egg things, and the general sense that she's not interested in meeting your child's needs (or able to, whatever), I'd go to the principal. Burn it down, indeed.