I need a safe word, super fast

[1confused1]

Butter

**that's the first word that popped in my head, weird**

[jojoandleo]

Oreo is the first one that popped into my head. I think we have a food obsession here...

[BlueBayou]

Boobfart. No one will ever guess.

[BlueBayou]

Ohhhh wait..is this a safe word for the sex ?!?!

[1confused1]

Jan 28, 2015 18:30:37 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

Ohhhh wait..is this a safe word for the sex ?!?!

That's what I assumed ;-)

[bl]

Just pick something that is important to you, mine is related to Harry Potter lol.

[Emerald1486]

Congress. Kills the mood fast
Pineapple
Serious

[cuddlyevil]

Banana.

[lookingup]

Lol at "a pet's name won't work."

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

I don't have a suggestion for a good one, but "goddammit, OUCH you fucking asshole" is NOT a safeword.

[Emerald1486]

Jan 28, 2015 21:47:02 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Didn't quite need it, but thanks for all the awesome suggestions.
Now, how do I heal rope burn in a hurry?

I drink lots of water and put some lotion on it.....and switch to leather cuffs

[peppermint]

butting in this thread to express how happy i am for you that you needed a safe word! (and how jealous i am, at the same time, haha!) glad you didn't need it afterall!

[ladyk]

Mine's 'pineapple'

[cuddlyevil]

Banana, because apparently it's the only word you can say that sounds the same regardless of what's in your mouth.

[1confused1]

Jan 29, 2015 11:57:06 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Jan 28, 2015 18:21:20 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Butter

**that's the first word that popped in my head, weird**

So, funny story here. TL said if I chose this, he'd be likely to go get a stick of it, because he'd forget it was the safe word. Lololololol

That's why I didn't say whipped cream!

[Emerald1486]

Jan 29, 2015 12:58:52 GMT -5 TR said:

So question. I hope this doesn't sound rude or anything, but I've never participated in any such activities that would require a safe word. Is the whole point that you're doing whatever and part of the turn on is that you're protesting what he's doing? Otherwise, wouldn't "NO" or "FUCKING STOP IT" work?

FormerlyRR
cuddlyevil
ladyk

Roleplay is sometimes the best part of it. If you say No, it can be confusing as to whether or not its the roleplay or an actual reply. The safe word is a way to say "need to stop" or "need a break" without worry. 
I know some use colors too. Yellow if you are enjoying it but need to either soften the blow or slow down. Red for stopping completely. 

[cuddlyevil]

You really, really need to trust your partner. And your partner needs to trust you. If you're going to engage in activities like this, sometimes saying things like "stop it" might be part of the game. BUT, you need to be certain that your partner will stop if you use the safe word.

You both need to be totally clear on what the word is and agree that everything ceases immediately.

[bl]

I have said ouch that hurt or I fucking hate you right now, but that didn't mean I wanted the other person to stop. I have used yellow before as a I don't want you to stop, but I need a breather or you to go a little lighter. If I say my safe word I truly mean stop whatever you are doing right this second, get out of role and see whats going on.

[ladyk]

PDQ

I'm usually too drawn up in the moment to remember colors. And there is no mistaking 'pineapple' and it sticks in my head as well as my partner's head.

But yes, sometimes part of the play is 'resisting' or there is pain involved or even mental games where you may say "no" but that doesn't mean you want to stop. So using some random word that is pre-agreed on allows you to "play" to your limits but allows you to have them completely stop when you say it. And that's why you have to trust your partner implicitly that he or she will stop when you say that word. That is why I refuse to even enter into such realms with randoms. Boundaries are talked about ahead of time as well as dealbreakers. I had a guy where we had been together for a little while and I was comfortable with him but looking back, it was too soon. We had set boundaries and were 'exploring' within them. He was getting more aggressive and I told him the agreed safe word to back off. He didn't and he just up and backhanded me, which was way outside of the boundary. Within 5 seconds, I had him flipped on his back, pinned him with my forearm across his neck and telling him that was not okay. I got dressed and left and I never talked to him again.

It's not for everyone, that's for sure. And it was a lesson learned.

[riverpestie]

Ours is "alligator."
ETA: We only need a safe word when adding other people and we're not comfortable with what the added person(s) is/are doing. This lets US know that we're not comfortable and we put a stop to it. Although, we haven't needed it, yet.

[kanga1]

PDQ
FWB wants to go down this road further with me and I am totally into this because I trust him 110%. The problem is I really want to explore more but I feel so vanilla and naive. We've got a set of restraints and have used rope but that was more like just keeping the tied down's hands away from the other. We've also done some light choking but that's about as far as we got. What are some things we be doing that we would need a safe word? Are there some websites I should check out? The only thing I can think of is anal but that I know I could not do in this manner, that has to be super gentle for me. Sorry for sounding like a naive idiot!!!

[moonlight]

I just wanted to add that as soon as I saw the title of this thread my mind said "bleu cheese."

I wonder what that means!