1. I have been very vocal from the beginning that I didn't want to do this garage sale. I would much rather donate everything and be done with it. DH was coming around to my side (because we just don't have time to mess with it) until MIL volunteered to set everything up. She said if we got everything over there, she would clean, price everything, get it all set up, etc and only need help on the actual sale days.
I haven't been over there helping. DH and BIL have been going at night (multi family sale, so everyone is adding to it) to get things ready. Apparently last night MIL was all stressed and just needed someone to confirm EVERY little thing she was doing. So now DH wants me to go over there today to help her set this up even though I still have things I need to do here at home. Whatever.
Which brings me to vent #2
2. MIL ALWAYS plans DH's vacation days. It's shit. basically now she has decided the sale has to be Friday/Saturday (I've been suggesting Saturday only) so she made FIL take off work, BIL is taking off work, and she is trying to guilt DH into taking off work. DH already took off last Friday to get things ready for the sale (BIL took off 2 days last week) and I'm not so pleased with it. DH has 2 vacation days left and gets no time off for when the baby gets here. He has the choice of 2 weeks unpaid (which is NOT possible for us right now) or nothing. He NEEDS to keep those days but MIL is throwing a fit that he won't take off. UGH!
Side note: @@ DH talked to HR and there is no paid leave for him to take when baby gets here. He was told by another employee he should go to corporate parent company and see if they have a different policy and maybe can get time off. Fingers crossed!
Post by luv2rn4fun on Jan 29, 2015 11:38:35 GMT -5
DH...being around him lately is no bueno. He keeps picking stupid fights and I'm so over all of it. I really don't like him much right now
My ILs too. They are causing a ton of drama at a time where we really don't need any more stress and should be a happy time. I don't really care to ever see them again.
Post by estrellita on Jan 29, 2015 12:16:14 GMT -5
I'm annoyed with my coworker. She's been hogging our PTO calendar for weeks and I want to get some days on there before I'm out. She's also super whiny sometimes. I know ML won't be a vacation, but it's going to feel like it to me!
My parents' divorce. It's so close to being finalized. I'm hoping we can move on from all of this drama soon. I can't take it anymore. Cried myself to sleep last night. So much stress.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Jan 29, 2015 14:56:07 GMT -5
Thanks ladies!
jjwritergirl- We haven't tried Colic Calm but are doing Gerber Soothe Drops. They say that it's for colicky babies and supposedly reduces crying 50% but we haven't noticed much of a difference, if any at all. Some of the reviews said it took a week...we started that last Friday night so there's still some hope. They are probiotics for C. Honestly, I'm at the point that I think I will just go ahead and make the dietary changes and see if that helps. I cannot stand to see him crying so much...it's seriously nearly non-stop. Thankfully today he's napped twice, including right now (he fell asleep in the stroller) so today is a little better. And last night was a godsend with him finally sleeping somewhere besides on me.
Thank you for sharing your journey. It really helps to feel like things might get better between us. I hope it does because I can honestly say that I'm at my lowest with DH (and it's not just adding C in, there are other issues as well). He knows this after a horrible fight last night so hopefully it leads to a lasting improvement.
Sorry luv2rn4fun DH and I have bad and good days as well. Just keep on communication. Often times DH and make up on messenger or texting as it's the easiest way to have a disagreement and not start yelling at each other. We are kinda nerds though.
My vent I am worried about Sadie gaining weight. I feel judged that I have to start feeding her solids as early as 4 months. Especially from those hardcore breastfeeding mothers. I am trying not to feed into the mama guilt. I just want her to grow and I will do just about anything to make her gain weight. Also someone tried to label her as FTT and just don't think that is the issue. I think she just had a very rough start.
Post by christy082 on Jan 29, 2015 17:19:50 GMT -5
I hate working so much right now. I need this baby to come early to get away from work. No FMLA for me because I"m part time and don't have enough hours to qualify. Never wanted to be a SAHM before but am seriously thinking of looking at our options while I'm out on STD.
The bullshit is just unreal. Short staffed. Everything getting dumped on my team. No support when you need it from management. I've been in tears twice already today. Good thing I work from home.
Don't let other people's judginess bother you, you have to do what's best for your baby! You are a great mom & I hope she starts gaining weight soon so you don't have to worry as much.
jjwritergirl Because DH is on salary, he gets vacation days but no set sick/personal days. It's always been an "as needed" things. When he asked about taking time off his boss just said "we'll see when we get to it". I'm sure he'll have no problem being off work when I'm in the hospital, but once I'm home I don't know. There are so many things up there that are just "how it's always been" and it's frustrating not to have real policies in place.
Post by Skyesthelimit1212 on Jan 30, 2015 9:23:31 GMT -5
I had to use my PTO time on Tuesday even though it was a Snow Emergency, a driving ban and the T (public Trans) wasn't running, but my co stayed open on a technicality, because most people can work from home. I'm a receptionist, I can't work from home.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Jan 30, 2015 11:21:22 GMT -5
Another "vent" (not really a vent but it's bugging me). My mom had another u/s to determine fluid build up and authorization for another paracenthesis. It's worse again. I'm so sad and fear that our time with her is becoming more and more limited. It's also extremely hard seeing her visibly in so much pain. She has an appointment Feb 17th with the transplant center but I think it's a little too late (her first u/s was "mild", second was "moderate", and now she has "significant" fluid buildup...all with progressively less time between procedures).