Post by Melissa W. on Jan 29, 2015 10:03:41 GMT -5
I couldn't find one so forgive me if this is a duplicate.
About some months ago my friends planned a trip for LAX this month. I was supposed to go but with job uncertainty, DH's schedule and kid duty, I couldn't. The friends had talked about going at another time and then we sort of dropped it.
Well apparently the three friend are going leaving today. I only heard about it because one friend mentioned wanting to shop before LAX on Monday. I am hurt that they are going anyway but they should go and have fun.
this morning I woke up to all kinds of notifications on our group text about meeting at the airport and etc. I put me in a really foul mood. Especially seeing how do has been skiing by himself 5 days this season where I have stayed home.
In the meantime he had planned an overnight on Sunday for us.
So this morning he asked me what was wrong (on the phone) and I said I really couldn't understand why I couldn't have gone and it suckes getimg all tje texts this morning His response was, "if you are going to be a bitch about this, we should cancel Sunday. I don't want to hear how I didn't let you go. "
I took a deep breath and said, "you asked me what was wrong and I told you. I am not implying that I am going to nbe about it." Then we hung up.
I am ripping. Don't fucking ask me to tell my feelings when I get that response. I called.him back and told him not to ever say that to me again. He said we would talk later tonight. 14 hours from now.
I get that I can't be a baby about this but don't complain how I don't tell you what I think and then blast me when I do. /rant
Post by orangeblossom on Jan 29, 2015 10:09:05 GMT -5
Oh hell no. I would be mad too. Your DH was very wrong to speak to you that way, and the truth hurts. I know skiing is not cheap, so if he's been able to enjoy five skiing days by himself, I think you're within your rights to go on a girls trip, that probably equals what he's spent.
To be honest, it's really not tit for tat, but just pointing out that he's had time to himself, and you should as well.
Post by ChillyMcFreeze on Jan 29, 2015 10:45:09 GMT -5
The power is out in half our building. Our lights and computers work (not all offices are so lucky), but there's NO HEAT. I know we're not in blizzard territory, but it's about 50 degrees in this office right now. I am displeased.
The power is out in half our building. Our lights and computers work (not all offices are so lucky), but there's NO HEAT. I know we're not in blizzard territory, but it's about 50 degrees in this office right now. I am displeased.
Did he actually tell you that you couldn't go, or did you decide that by yourself?
Scratch that. I don't want to get in the middle of any fights.
In other news, I've had to make a couple of decisions already this morning, and my coffee hasn't kicked in.
His exact words were now isn't really a good time for you to go.
It was also dictated by his crazy as fuck schedule.
But honestly I can't change this situation at all. I didn't get to go. The end. I am pissed that the last two times I have tried to articulate my feelings, he legit called me crazy the first time and being a bitch the second time.
I finally have a space heater at work. I am so pleased. I'm warm! I'm finally not wearing my gloves at my desk! Yay!
they're doing a chili cook off at work. I totally want to participate, but it's the Monday after we go away for the weekend. I'm thinking I could make my chili the week before, freeze it and then just pop it in the fridge when I get home on sunday to thaw, and stick it in the crockpot in the AM. Does this make me a terrible person? I freeze chili for myself all the time - this is not a weird thing to do, right?
I finally have a space heater at work. I am so pleased. I'm warm! I'm finally not wearing my gloves at my desk! Yay!
they're doing a chili cook off at work. I totally want to participate, but it's the Monday after we go away for the weekend. I'm thinking I could make my chili the week before, freeze it and then just pop it in the fridge when I get home on sunday to thaw, and stick it in the crockpot in the AM. Does this make me a terrible person? I freeze chili for myself all the time - this is not a weird thing to do, right?
I finally have a space heater at work. I am so pleased. I'm warm! I'm finally not wearing my gloves at my desk! Yay!
they're doing a chili cook off at work. I totally want to participate, but it's the Monday after we go away for the weekend. I'm thinking I could make my chili the week before, freeze it and then just pop it in the fridge when I get home on sunday to thaw, and stick it in the crockpot in the AM. Does this make me a terrible person? I freeze chili for myself all the time - this is not a weird thing to do, right?
Not terrible. I would maybe add some seasonings when you reheat it, but I think that's fine to freeze it.
I finally have a space heater at work. I am so pleased. I'm warm! I'm finally not wearing my gloves at my desk! Yay!
they're doing a chili cook off at work. I totally want to participate, but it's the Monday after we go away for the weekend. I'm thinking I could make my chili the week before, freeze it and then just pop it in the fridge when I get home on sunday to thaw, and stick it in the crockpot in the AM. Does this make me a terrible person? I freeze chili for myself all the time - this is not a weird thing to do, right?
Not terrible. I would maybe add some seasonings when you reheat it, but I think that's fine to freeze it.
People have made me paranoid with all the "I don't eat things that come out of other people's kitchens" stuff.
Did he actually tell you that you couldn't go, or did you decide that by yourself?
Scratch that. I don't want to get in the middle of any fights.
In other news, I've had to make a couple of decisions already this morning, and my coffee hasn't kicked in.
His exact words were now isn't really a good time for you to go.
It was also dictated by his crazy as fuck schedule.
But honestly I can't change this situation at all. I didn't get to go. The end. I am passed that the last two times I have tried to articulate my feelings, he legit called me crazy the first time and being a bitch the second time.
I need more coffee too.
This would make me so mad - like throw things mad. DH and I have an agreement that I will never use the word "asshole" (jerk is also out b/c I might have yelled "JERKHOLE!" once in place of asshole) in an argument and he will never say "bitch" b/c that is just petty shit. I hope you calmly let him know you have limits and this isn't going to fly.
And his response to you being bummed that you're not having a girls weekend should be, "Ah, honey, I'm sorry, it was hard for US to plan around my schedule ahead of time. At least we are going away on Sunday." Not, "Well, if you're going to be sad, I'm taking away Sunday!"
The power is out in half our building. Our lights and computers work (not all offices are so lucky), but there's NO HEAT. I know we're not in blizzard territory, but it's about 50 degrees in this office right now. I am displeased.
Crap, why are you still at work? Do you hold the launch codes for Obama?
I finally have a space heater at work. I am so pleased. I'm warm! I'm finally not wearing my gloves at my desk! Yay!
they're doing a chili cook off at work. I totally want to participate, but it's the Monday after we go away for the weekend. I'm thinking I could make my chili the week before, freeze it and then just pop it in the fridge when I get home on sunday to thaw, and stick it in the crockpot in the AM. Does this make me a terrible person? I freeze chili for myself all the time - this is not a weird thing to do, right?
As long as you aren't planning on mixing all the different types of chili into one big vat you're good!
And I see nothing wrong with making it ahead and freezing it, I do that with stuff all the time!
I just found out my best friend is moving back to town after being gone for 6 months while her H was deployed. I'm so excited to have someone to spend time with again. I love DH but another woman is much needed at times.
Post by Velvetshady on Jan 29, 2015 12:20:57 GMT -5
My DVR has decided to start informing us that our TV in the living room isn't an HD TV when changing to a non-HD channel. No shit. But what is worse, it now has decided it won't record scheduled programs on the non-HD TV when we selected the non-HD channel for the recording. DISH Network, you wanna piss me off, not recording Australian Open Semifinals is a damn quick way to do it.
These are reasons, as discussed between my therapist and me, women remarry at far fewer rates than men after a spouse dies. Because being with a man means putting up with a lot of bullshit sometimes.
eta - and I say that in spite of the fact that my own DH has been kinda awesome the last couple of weeks.
My random (other than my integrity dilemma I posted separately):
Last week or so I got into a FB PM war with my SIL again. She called me mentally sick because I take antidepressants. I tried to overlook that and not get caught in her web of drama and extended an olive branch to see how we could get along better for my brother's sake. She refused and said, "when we have to be around each other, I will be polite and cordial, but know this: I do not like you."
Ouch.
Then she proceeded to call me Satan because I quoted several Bible verses at her demonstrating how Jesus would call her a hypocrite for judging gays and condemning anyone who supports them when she puts her mom on a pedestal after her mom cheated on her dad with her trainer.
My poor brother. I tried to extend the olive branch because I love him, but got sucked into the drama with my SIL. I look forward to 2028. I am pretty sure my brother will file for divorce then, once the kids have graduated high school. In the meantime I pray for him and them. Hard.
Someone on my local board is getting rid of her cat - who has SEIZURES - for free and needs it gone by tomorrow. She said she just can't afford to keep feeding it because of her other animals. I kind of want to shank her. She's leaving the cat on the porch and whoever wants it can take it. No one has asked yet what she is doing with the poor thing if no one takes it.