How do you deal with people who just don't like you?

[snipsnsnails]

Do you have someone who just doesn't like you for whatever reason? What's your approach when you have to be around them? Do you kill them with kindness, remain civil and to the point, or just ignore them completely?

There's a woman who is in one of the same social organizations that I'm in, and I see her weekly. She does not like me. I just rub her the wrong way and we do not click. It's nothing overly dramatic or mean-girlish and nothing was particularly a catalyst for it; I can just tell she doesn't like me all that much. So, what do you think?

And, I know, I know, I was astonished, too, that there are people who don't like me! (hot)

[wambam]

I ignore the catty snatches at my gym. When I engage them, I always regret it.

[no0b]

It depends. If it's within a social circle I tend to distance myself a bit but not to the point of it being painfully obvious. I try and be as pleasant as possible to not create any additional and unnecessary drama. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

If they are out of my social circle... then ignore.

[EmilieMadison]

I ignore people who actively dont like me for no reason, unless I have to work with them in some capacity. Then I am polite.

[luckyval]

I will say, it actually took me a while to get over the dislike one of my coworkers has for me (the feeling is mutual). I'm a nice person, not a polarizing character.

I made a little bit of an effort to be friendly, but it wasn't reciprocated.

Now I'm kinda relieved I don't feel like I have to try anymore. And I don't. I occasionally say good morning to her, but that's about it. Unless she's got a question about work, I just don't interact with her at all.

And we both seem happy with this arrangement.

[snipsnsnails]

Jan 29, 2015 15:09:28 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Call them out on their likes?

Worked like a charm!....for you.

[papie]

I am polite but ignore them a lot.  I mean, there must be something wrong with them. no?

[Kit]

I am polite and cordial because I don't want to stoop to their level, but generally I try to avoid interaction.

[Kit]

dup

[stephm0188]

I feel sorry for them for having crappy taste.

[Deleted]

I'm either super lovable or super oblivious because I don't even know if this applies to me. Probably a mix of both.

[snipsnsnails]

Jan 29, 2015 15:11:34 GMT -5 papie said:

I mean, there must be something wrong with them. no?

This is exactly what I was thinking. But we're over-confident people, Pap!

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

I do not understand.

[luvvy]

Civil conversations only when required.  It's a mutual understanding we have.

[Deleted]

I give what I get. If you don't like me for no reason, I will not waste my time on you.

[LeggsBenedict]

kill them.

[sequins]

I remain civil and polite with ILs. They do not like me.

A lot of my classmates have an evil rivalry going on. I cut out a lot of them. I remain civil with the ones who I've known too long and have ties back at home with.

Don't go out of your way to be nice to your org lady and try not to let it bother you.

[iamali]

Civil. Don't interact unless I have to.

[gozf]

If it's someone I know I will run into regularly because of work or other obligations? Something in-between "killing with kindness" and "civil and to the point." I am pleasant, polite and professional. If it's someone I don't necessarily have ties to? Ignore forever.

[Deleted]

Ignore, and KNOW that it's them and not me

[Alyssa]

So funny this post came up right now.  I have one, I work with her and she's been a total snatch to me over the past 6 months.  Just a real shady POS.  I pretty much just ignored her and didn't feed into it.  She kept at it and I finally took it up with management.  She stopped bugging me after that.

Well today is her last day here, she's going to be a SAHM starting tomorrow.  I have ignored her all morning.  I didn't show up to her little party and skipped out on signing the group card that was passed around.  A co-worker just put another card in front of me and asked me to sign it.  I wrote, "Best of Luck!".....although I wanted to write, "So nice of you to finally fuck off - Alyssa" 

[Deleted]

Obviously, I dislike them right back! So there!! 

[killercupcake]

There's someone in my program who doesn't like me, for whatever reason, and made it very obvious. She handed out her baby shower invites to other people in my cohort in front of me and I was not invited. Lol "And none for Gretechen Weiners, bye." Her loss. I give kick ass baby shower gifts. There were other things, but that was the moment I knew for sure. Anyway.

Once I picked up that she didn't enjoy my company, I just avoided her. I didn't say anything to her and didn't acknowledge her.

We're in the same internship class this semester and the class is tiny (About 10 people), so it's harder to avoid her, but so far, we've been getting along. I let her initiate the conversations though. I'm not being overly sweet, but I'm cordial and polite.

[CloudBee]

Interact only when necessary, smile when you approach a group they're amongst, and remain polite. Remind yourself that it's not you, it's them. And that's okay. Not everyone clicks.

Cry on the inside.

[sineadorebellion]

Bare minimum interaction. Not worth engaging and I just don't have the energy for it.

The feeling is mutual, I'm sure.

[knx9211]

Everyone likes me.

I'd be lovely to their faces, avoid extended conversation, and do this when they turn around


I'm just really in the mood for gifs today.

[zoomzoom]

I remain civil and only engage if necessary.

I am so grateful that one of my H's good friends moved away. I couldn't stand that fucker.

[BaliHai]

I am civil if I need to interact with them, otherwise I ignore.

[happyholiday]

I'd just think "fuck'em."

Really I would just ignore/be neutral and wonder secretly why they didn't like me!

[jlt19]

I try to be nice. There's a girl in a social circle I sometimes frequent that doesn't like me. She has a good reason not to, though it has nothing to do with my personality. When we do see each other out, I try to engage and be friendly, but I know she'll never welcome me and that's ok. But, we have a mutual friend's weekend bachelorette party coming up and I won't like and say I'm super dreading how awkward it could become.