Post by liverandonions on Jan 29, 2015 15:42:29 GMT -5
More of a WWYD? We didn't find out the gender of our first until the delivery room. I promised my husband if we did that for baby #1 we could find out with #2. Also, I have TONS of girl clothes taking up space in my garage so if this one is a boy we could sell/donate those because we're done after 2.
So, my dilemma is this. I'm AMA for my hospital/network so I will be getting the advanced screening blood test where you can find out the gender via the DNA results. My husband wants to find out ASAP so we can plan (we have to move a bunch of stuff out of bedroom #3). I feel like if I'm going to find out this one and only time I'd like to find out on an ultrasound-you know so you can see something but this does push back the timing. I'm high risk and get u/s every month so I would have no shortage of those. If we were to find out via the DNA results I'd want to do something fun with the family-A cake, an outfit, balloons etc. after having it written down in an envelope.
If you've been in this situation, or if you've found out the gender in either way what was your experience? Or what would you do in this situation. I keep going back and forth on how/when I want to find out! It was actually easier for me to just not know until the end lol.
Post by estrellita on Jan 29, 2015 15:52:38 GMT -5
We found out the Sat after our a/s. We brought an envelope with the sex written in it to a party store and had them put balloons in a box for us. We opened the box with some family and found it together. I loved doing it this way and may consider doing it again when we have another. Although I'll make sure they have the weight on the balloons as requested.. so glad we didn't do it outside!
I think no matter how you do it, it can be special. Totally up to you if you prefer to know ASAP or later. I never got that blood test, but if I did I might have waited anyways. I really could have gone this whole time without knowing, but I'm glad now that we know!
I did the DNA. They called me and told me, and then I went and got blue balloons, a boy outfit that said something like "Daddy's Co-Pilot" on it, etc., and surprised my H with it when he got home from work. You could do it the opposite way where they tell him and he surprises you, if you want something more fun!
It was kind of anti-climactic to find out on the phone without him, but it was really fun surprising him.
Post by 5oclocksomewhere on Jan 29, 2015 16:07:20 GMT -5
Could they still write it in an envelope separate from the test results and have you pick it up? I'm not sure how the test results are given to you but would that be an option? Then, it could still be a surprise and you could open it whenever you wanted.
I think because you got what you wanted for the first ie waiting to find out, you should find out early with the second to please your H. Also, the DNA tests I believe are 100% correct in determining gender, whereas the A/S there is room for error (which I am terrified of by the way!)
Could they still write it in an envelope separate from the test results and have you pick it up? I'm not sure how the test results are given to you but would that be an option? Then, it could still be a surprise and you could open it whenever you wanted.
This is what we've asked for our genetic screening results (or really, just the sex part of the results). We'll open the envelope together over dinner or somewhere private. I don't think I could wait as long as the 20 week ultrasound!
Post by nextbigthing on Jan 29, 2015 16:19:40 GMT -5
I found out at 12weeks from the panorama bloodwork. I've enjoyed knowing it was a boy for so long. Plus it was fun to tell people I was pregnant and it's a boy at the same time before I was even showing. Freaks people out!
I would just go with the test. A think there are lots of ways to make it more climatic like the ladies above have suggested. No matter when/how you find out it's still going to be exciting!
We found out via the blood test. Our counselor said she could tell us over the phone or put it in an envelope or whatever we wanted. We wanted to know from the beginning so it was never really a question, but I like that the result was like 99% accurate. My parents thought I was a boy based on US and surprise, I was a girl!
Could they still write it in an envelope separate from the test results and have you pick it up? I'm not sure how the test results are given to you but would that be an option? Then, it could still be a surprise and you could open it whenever you wanted.
Yes, if we do the early find out then I would definitely want it this way-I would want to find out at the same time as my husband.
I think because you got what you wanted for the first ie waiting to find out, you should find out early with the second to please your H. Also, the DNA tests I believe are 100% correct in determining gender, whereas the A/S there is room for error (which I am terrified of by the way!)
I would imagine the DNA results would still be in the file so they would use that as a confirmation back up. I guess I need to start planning a way to find out after the results are put in envelope. SO weird to think I might know the gender in just a few weeks!
Post by hbomdiggity on Jan 29, 2015 17:26:12 GMT -5
My harmony results came the same day as a previously scheduled appt. they left a phone msg saying the results were great and to call back if I wanted to know sex.
Since I had an appt that afternoon, I told DH and he just came to the appt. had he not been able I would have had them put it in an envelope for us to open together.
I think it was most important to me that we find out together, not how or where. And my H is not patient - at all - so there was no waiting longer than necessary.
It was a little weird to tell people without having actually seen the goods, but the accuracy is like crazy high so I didn't see the point of waiting.
Post by starburst604 on Jan 29, 2015 17:39:04 GMT -5
We are the 2 worst people at waiting to find out information! I had the genetic test and told them to leave a voice mail with all the info if they didn't reach me. I missed the call so I listened to the voice mail at work, the counselor purposely didn't say the sex till the end and warned me before they she was going to say it. So I hung up before listening to that piece. I called H and told him all the results were normal and asked of he wanted me to wait till I got home to listen to the rest together. He said NO listen now and call me back!!! So I did, called and told him it was a girl and we both cried happy tears over our healthy girl.
Looking back, the only thing I regret is not hearing the message together so I could see his reaction in person because he was so emotional. But alas, we have no restraint with that stuff! Maybe next time!
Post by catscatscats on Jan 29, 2015 18:26:53 GMT -5
I am also AMA. We found out early when reading the results of the cell free DNA test over My Chart. It was still pretty cool. First to find out everything was ok, and then to find out she was a girl when we had thought for sure it was a boy. We both cried. Over an email.
if you have the opportunity to find out early, do it!!!! I asked for the blood test and was denied, so I'm having to wait until the anatomy scan (another month, ahhhhh). the waiting sucks!
I wanted to find out ASAP. My OB and genetic counselor both knew the sex when the preliminary results of my CVS came back, but my H wanted to wait until the full results came back before finding out. And he wanted to find out at the same time. We ended up doing a conference call with the genetic counselor one night when my H was at work.
Post by yourmother on Jan 29, 2015 18:32:27 GMT -5
I was Team Green and my DH was not. When we went to the specialist for the testing at 13 weeks, the sono tech asked if we wanted to know. My DH yelled out YES and I reluctantly said ok. She showed us the parts, guessed girl, but was uncertain (I guess things were still developing and she was unsure). She walks out and the doctor walks in. Doctor does the sono and asks if we want to know. I say NO and DH says YES! She tells him and I looked away. I made the decision later that day to have my DH surprise me and my family with a gender reveal cake that weekend. We cut the cake and it was BLUE!!!
A week or so later, I got the call from the doctor's office with the results of the MaterniT21 test and confirmed that my baby is a boy. I'm so THRILLED to know my baby is a boy. I feel happier and more connected with HIM. I just love him so much!
Also, I'm Type A and it helps to know what colors to register for and how to design the nursery.
if you have the opportunity to find out early, do it!!!! I asked for the blood test and was denied, so I'm having to wait until the anatomy scan (another month, ahhhhh). the waiting sucks!
Why did they deny you? It's controversial, at least via internet message boards, on whether one should have it if they don't have AMA or other "risk" factors but I believe anyone can request it regardless.
Because I'm low risk (despite IVF) and young (30), and that my insurance probably wouldn't cover it for those reasons. Essentially, it's not medically indicated. Neither me nor DH felt that the OOP cost was worth finding out early.
Post by runblondie26 on Jan 30, 2015 12:18:07 GMT -5
Kudos, for having the patience to wait even once!
I had found out at the sex of my first at the A/S, then I found out at 13 weeks via MaterniT21 with my second. I <3 technology. Im a planer and I loved knowing so early. Also, in a way it helped me bond too, since i could better "visualize" the baby. I did the cake thing to tell my husband about baby #2, since I'd gotten the news over the phone. His reaction was priceless.
For practical reasons, I really hope to find early this time too. Being that this is our last baby, I want to get to work early clearing out clothes and baby stuff that we won't need (we currently have stuff for both genders piled hile in storage).
if you have the opportunity to find out early, do it!!!! I asked for the blood test and was denied, so I'm having to wait until the anatomy scan (another month, ahhhhh). the waiting sucks!
I was denied by my OB practice with my last pregnancy too., since I wasn't high risk or AMA. I was persistent and found a doctor that would let me have the test.
Its non-invasive, inexpensive, and more accurate than the quad-screen/NT scan. Why wouldn't I want the better test? I anticipated paying $250 (per speaking with the Sequenom rep), but my insurance company covered the entire cost.
if you have the opportunity to find out early, do it!!!! I asked for the blood test and was denied, so I'm having to wait until the anatomy scan (another month, ahhhhh). the waiting sucks!
I was denied by my OB practice with my last pregnancy too., since I wasn't high risk or AMA. I was persistent and found a doctor that would let me have the test.
Its non-invasive, inexpensive, and more accurate than the quad-screen/NT scan. Why wouldn't I want the better test? I anticipated paying $250 (per speaking with the Sequenom rep), but my insurance company covered the entire cost.
I'm am not interested in changing doctors just to have this test done (especially at this point). I've worked with almost every OB in town, and her practice is the only one where I trust all of the doctors to provide good care during delivery. Other practices scare the shit out of me.
I'm am not interested in changing doctors just to have this test done (especially at this point). I've worked with almost every OB in town, and her practice is the only one where I trust all of the doctors to provide good care during delivery. Other practices scare the shit out of me.
FWIW, I didn't have to change OB practices. I just went to a different MFM for the test, instead of using their in-house one for the NT and Anatomy scans.
Like I said, it was not worth it to me, especially now. I'm 16 weeks, I have one more month. Many people wait 9 months, even my impatient ass could wait 5. I waited 2 years to conceive this kid so I'm familiar with waiting.
And the closest MFM is 1.5 hours away. There isn't one locally.
Like I said, it was not worth it to me, especially now. I'm 16 weeks, I have one more month. Many people wait 9 months, even my impatient ass could wait 5. I waited 2 years to conceive this kid so I'm familiar with waiting.
And the closest MFM is 1.5 hours away. There isn't one locally.
Finding out the sex isn't my intent. I want to be screened for as many conditions as early as possible.
Just putting my experience out there in case anyone else got push back on wanting the test.
Like I said, it was not worth it to me, especially now. I'm 16 weeks, I have one more month. Many people wait 9 months, even my impatient ass could wait 5. I waited 2 years to conceive this kid so I'm familiar with waiting.
And the closest MFM is 1.5 hours away. There isn't one locally.
Finding out the sex isn't my intent. I want to be screened for as many conditions as early as possible.
Just putting my experience out there in case anyone else got push back on wanting the test.
My RE screened me personally for genetic diseases before I started treatment with her. I was only concerned with the conditions that the quad screen and NT scan showed. Maybe I'm just breezy.
I have to say, I'm feeling mildly attacked here for not pushing for it.
We found out early as well. I'm AMA and we went through IVF, while we wouldn't have had to see the genetic counselor or get a perinatologist I am glad we did for reasons other than finding out the sex early. That was my main reasons for wanting the test done though. I am not patient and I wanted to start planning and buyign stuff early. Plus it's been fun to see DH buying pink camo outfits for her...he bought her first pair of shoes.
I found out over the phone and then called DH and made him guess. He thought it was a girl all along, I was totally shocked and it was the first time all pregnancy I'd actually cried happy tears.
Our friends did a sex reveal party which was fun to go to and a great way to find out together and surrounded by family and friends
Post by curbsideprophet on Jan 31, 2015 9:00:08 GMT -5
Did not read all the replies, so if this as covered, sorry. What test are you getting? Finding out the sex is standard with some and not others. When I had the Harmony test with DS I thought we were going to get sex info but was informed later that was an additional test/box that needed to be checked. Pretty sure it is standard with the M21 test.
I wanted to know by the DNA since there is less chance for error with that.