As long as it is at a time that's convenient to us, I ask my kid if they want to go. They almost always say yes. Young kids don't care as much about being good friends with the birthday girl/boy. They just love the party.
Do you go to birthday parties if you are invited but your kid hardly ever talks or plays with the birthday kid?
The whole class was invited for this birthday but I have never heard dd talk about the birthday kid. I am wondering if it's worth the effort to go make new friends. I don't think DD cares.
i would ask the kid, and also consider the venue and schedule and if it works. I passed on a party at a movie theater because in kindergarten my kid couldn't sit through one. We went to a party for someone DS didn't know very well but had a good time and I met other moms.
We haven't been invited yet (and won't invite preschool friends to his), but if it worked for us I'd do it. If it was a pain, I'd pass... but DS LOVES birthdays and would love anyone's birthday party.
If my kids want to go, we go. If the whole class is invited, they have fun playing with their other friends even if they're not close to the birthday kid.
Generally yes, as others have stated above. But DD goes to a small Montessori school. I'm going to be potentially interacting with these people on a few occasions a year, might as well meet them at a party. And...cake!
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Jan 30, 2015 13:05:46 GMT -5
Absolutely. I love it when parents invite the whole class to birthday parties because it's a great chance to get to know the kids and parents in my child's class.
Why do you feel it's not worth the effort to make new friends??? I feel like the more people my kid is comfortable with in her class the better.
As long as we had no conflicts. He's going to the party of a boy he doesn't talk about much tomorrow. We have nothing else ot do, so we're going. But in two weeks there is a conflict. Only a minor one (two parties that overlap by a 1/2 hour), but the one party is for a boy that DS only ever talks about how the boy hit someone, or threw something, etc. So, we're opting for the other party instead.
I go to 90% of the parties we get invites to. If my daughter really disliked the kid or the party conflicted with something else then we'd skip it. In my daughter's K class there are about 5 families that pretty much go to everything and then the majority seem to be more selective.
yes. I've been to lots of awful (for me) birthday parties because of this, but DD usually ends up having a good time playing with the kids she is actually friends with.
I'm also always nervous this will be the one kid who ends up with no one at his/her party and I don't want to be responsible for that!
As long as it is at a time that's convenient to us, I ask my kid if they want to go. They almost always say yes. Young kids don't care as much about being good friends with the birthday girl/boy. They just love the party.
Absolutely. I love it when parents invite the whole class to birthday parties because it's a great chance to get to know the kids and parents in my child's class.
Why do you feel it's not worth the effort to make new friends??? I feel like the more people my kid is comfortable with in her class the better.
This is because it is painful for me to talk to people. I am socially awkward.
Thanks ladies! I guess I'll make an effort after asking DD.
I totally understand. I am the same way. Most parties are okay but there have been some horribly awkward ones for me. However, DD always walks out saying it was the best party ever so I keep doing it.
DS has been invited to two parties from his preschool class this year. The first one was Thanksgiving weekend and impossible to attend. Last weekend, we went to one at a bounce house place. My DH and I just hung out with each other, and DS had a blast with his friends. It was socially awkward for us, but it was worth it for DS:) we have found the parents of this preschool class to be very clicky and a bit younger than us. We actually made good friends with two sets of parents from last year.
Teacher weighing in here- keep in mind that while your child may never mention "A" at home, "A" may consider your child to be his/her very best friend. I've seen it happen year after year.
This year in my class, "A" had a birthday party in October and she still talks about how "B" went to her party. It was clearly the best thing ever in her 5 year old world! They rarely play together in class and I know the families aren't close outside of school, so I bet B's mother probably wondered whether or not to even attend.