my brother is amazing

[iamgrace]

Today he and his girlfriend have handled looking for (and not finding) my mom's will, doing a preliminary clean up of her condo (food. Etc), contacting her workplace, her benefits and her insurance and funeral coverage. He hired a lawyer, because we have no name from my mom's paperwork. He got the death certificate.

From afar, I contacted the funeral home and organized her transport.

This has been a devastating day, but I am so thankful for the hard work we did today.


I'm sorry if you don't want to read about this, but I am just so proud of and thankful for my brother. And I know it may not seem like much, but collectively, we've never dealt with anything like this.

[justemily]

*hugs*

It definitely helps when you have a strong family to get through rough times like this. I hope that you guys can continue to be strong for each other.

[rageragerage]

holy shit, he is a rockstar. Nobody should have to do that stuff, but he is handling it like a champ. You too.

[cville]

He sounds wonderful. I hope you're keeping it together okay. A thousand hugs to you.

[eddy]

I am so happy he did those things today. You are awesome as well.

[Moe]

I'm also grateful of your brother.  This must be a difficult time for everyone, I'm glad he's being supportive.
 
I'm glad you were able to coordinate transportation and funeral home contact.

I'm sorry again.

[Deleted]

I'm so glad your brother is there for you.

[speckledfrog]

Sounds like you guys make a good team. I'm glad you've got him.

[iamgrace]

He is amazing. As is his GF. I didn't imagine we would get this far today.

[nicanmatt]

I am so glad you have each other to lean on and help each other during this difficult time.

I'm so sorry. Please talk about it as much as you need, this is a great place for support.

[madringal]

Your mom would be proud of you guys. ((hugs)) I remember how hard those first few days were, and I think you are doing great.

[malibu]

He sounds awesome. Don't worry about posting thinking someone doesn't want to read it. Everyone coming in here is ready to support you through an awful time.

[iamgrace]

Also, if he doesn't put a ring on it after this, there will be words. We need more women like his girlfriend in our family.

[lilac05]

It sounds like you've got a wonderful brother. I'm so glad you don't have to tread these horrible waters alone.

[Saint Monica]

((grace))

[Kit]

That's really great, I'm glad you have awesome family support. ((hugs))

[Deleted]

You guys got a lot done in a short amount of time and I would be proud too. I do hope the legal "stuff" goes smoothly for you guys.

[Deleted]

I'm so glad you have people to help out so this isn't all on you. Lots of hugs and prayers.

[bananapancakes]

I'm so glad you have each other. Continued hugs and good thoughts for you all.

[egeiger]

I have been in a position to make sudden arrangements when someone dies unexpectedly. I found it to be therapeutic to make to-do lists and check things off. I am a doer. Your mom was blessed with children who just want to keep her best interests in mind. You guys are doing a great job. I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts as you work through the details.

[underwaterrhymes]

I'm sure he feels equally grateful for you.

((grace))

[elleblue]

{{{iamgrace}}} So glad to hear your brother and his gf are being a great help to you.

[iamgrace]

Jan 30, 2015 16:16:00 GMT -5 egeiger said:

I have been in a position to make sudden arrangements when someone dies unexpectedly. I found it to be therapeutic to make to-do lists and check things off. I am a doer. Your mom was blessed with children who just want to keep her best interests in mind. You guys are doing a great job. I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts as you work through the details.

this is exactly it. My brother and I deal with doing. My other brother and my sister deal in different ways.

[happyholiday]

I'm glad you have someone to share this burden with. Again, so sorry for your loss.

[jreeds]

I'm glad you have him. ((Hugs))

[revolution]

You are amazing too. It's a tough road ahead, and you did good things today. As did your one brother.

I hope you can all lean on each other and get through this together and find some peace.

[pittsmcgee]

I am so glad he is there for you. Hugs.

[rex]

you did amazing things today, too. i am glad you have a sibling who is a doer too, so you can share this burden together.

[bohemianmango]

I'm so sorry for your family's loss and what you're going through, but I'm glad you have each other for support.

[Deleted]

((((HUGS)))) I've been thinking about you. I'm glad you brother is being proactive and getting things done. Take care of yourself.