I have a friend who I have known for two years. I have another friend who I became friends with in Septemberish. Old friend has not even bothered with a "so sorry for your loss". New friend has made a point to ask how I'm doing every time I see her, which is every day at school pick up.
I guess it takes a tragedy to really know who your friends are.
Sorry. Not excusing your old friend at all but sometimes it's easier to comfort someone who has had a loss if you aren't as close. Maybe she doesn't know what to say? When DH lost his dad it was so hard to know what to say to his sisters and mom. Hang in there. Unless there is other stuff going on with old friend don't give up on her just yet.
I felt the same when my dad passed last month. I made my self feel better by telling myself that some people have a hard time dealing with death in general which must be why they haven't reached out. Clearly I was making excuses for people, but at the time it made me feel better. I hate when certain circumstances help draw the line like that..
I'm having this experience. A couple that DH and I consider to be close friends have not reached out aside from an initial "I'm so sorry." Several of my other friends, who I do not consider as close, have sat with me while I cried, brought meals, texted and called me throughout the process and just been so kind and wonderful. I am trying to just figure these particular friends don't know what to say or perhaps have something going on in their own lives, but I can't help but feel a little hurt.
I know some people don't know what to say but it still hurts. The part that gets me is that her dad passed away like 10 years ago. One day she was feeling sad about it and I sat there and talked through it with her. It just sucks.
I'm sorry it sucks to see that side of your friends when you need them the most. I realized this when DS2 was in the Nicu for 4 months and all his follow up stuff.
I'm glad the new friend is reaching out and this may bring yall closer. HUGS!
I'm glad your new friend is reaching out. Some people just don't know how to approach others who had/are suffering with loss. I don't remember your OP since I'm a slacker around here, but I'm really sorry to hear it. I hope you're doing okay.