CP: How certain do you feel in your family plans?

[teatimefor2]

Somewhat certain. I think we are fine at two, but somedays I think we might be okay with three.

I love babies. I will always want another baby, but I just don't think I want another child by choice.

[spunkarella]

No kids yet, so I voted somewhat certain since reality can have a way of changing things.

We both want two kids. I would like to adopt #2 if and only if DH is on board when the time comes. He is not on board now.

[dcrunnergirl52]

Somewhat uncertain. It changes day to day, depending on how the challenging the other 3 kids are. We'll make a decision after our cruise in May. I'd say it's 70% that we'll TTC #4--whether it works or not is uncertain since we needed IF treatments for our first two.

[bookqueen15]

This is so uncertain for us...a month ago I was leaning more to have a second. But some health issues have come up with my daughter recently and now I am not sure at all now...my DH I know leans more toward being done with one. I just don't feel I can make that decision yet.

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Feb 4, 2015 18:41:54 GMT -5 zarapipe said:

Feb 4, 2015 18:32:21 GMT -5 mlt said:

I don't think I will ever feel "certain." Even if we had four or five. I will always want another baby. I absolutely love having a baby in the house and the idea that someday I won't have one and all my kids will be big makes me pretty emotional.

this. Leaving childbearing behind us very hard for me. If we had more money and time we would have a third

For me too. We are done, H had a vasectomy, and 3 is all we can handle in many respects, but I never expected my childbearing to,come to an end so quickly! Its still hard for me to accept some days.

[anna7602]

We've had the talk and we're done, so it's certain. But neither of us is inclined to get the big V or have tubes tied. Most likely, I'll get a dog when DS is 6 or 7, as long as I'm still working at home then.

[Deleted]

We definitely want more, we just aren't sure if we want 2, 3, or 4 total.
If we had twins the next go 'round, I think we'd settle on 4.

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Feb 4, 2015 19:24:59 GMT -5 wanderlustmom said:

Very certain our family is complete. I will never feel entirely emotionally done but that doesn't mean I want to raise another child. I am so complicated

This is exactly me! It is,complicated.

[megs193]

I answered somewhat certain. I am 99% certain that I am done. My husband does not feel like our family is complete. I picked somewhat because I know how convincing my husband can be. I have to try to stay strong!

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Feb 4, 2015 19:09:56 GMT -5 qcinoct said:

1000000% certain. Even if DH has to do a follow-up surgery (his first sample after his V was not empty)

My H had the same issue. If an anecdote is helpful, the urologist recommended a repeat V but we opted to wait. 6 weeks later his follow up was clean. Hope your H has the same experience!

[irishbride2]

H had a vasectomy while I was still pregnant with #2.

So very certain.

[whitepicketfence]

Somewhat certain - we're still on the fence about baby #4 but I have a feeling we'll go for it in another year. We both agree that if we do have a 4th, that will be it for us.

[estrellita]

This will be our first and we are 99% sure we will be wanting a second at some point. What we're unsure about is whether or not we want a third after that. We will have to see how things go at that point and decide.

[KKD]

Feb 4, 2015 18:32:21 GMT -5 mlt said:

I don't think I will ever feel "certain." Even if we had four or five. I will always want another baby. I absolutely love having a baby in the house and the idea that someday I won't have one and all my kids will be big makes me pretty emotional.

This is how I have always felt, too. Someone here once said that we all have to put the baby stage behind us at some point, but it's sad for me to think those days are behind me.

Still, I am fairly certain, leaning towards being done, or at least that's how I feel today. H says he is very certain that we are done, although even he wavers from time to time. I've told him I don't want to take any permanent measures until he's 40, which gives us five more years.

[countthestars]

I'm pretty sure we'll be done after this pregnancy if all goes well, but I can see us changing our minds so we won't make any permanent moves until we're sure.

[browneyedgirl9]

Very certain we want more

[incognitony]

Feb 4, 2015 18:20:51 GMT -5 @starry said:

I voted somewhat certain. I am 95% sure if this pregnancy is successful we will be done. If I develop pre-e again it will be 100% (my husband has agreed to a V during my maternity leave if that happens). If not we will wait for the V until child 2 is between 2-3 years old.

This pretty much. I'm 13 weeks now with my second and I'm leaning towards two and done!

[badtzmaru22]

Very certain, but reluctantly. I got an IUD instead of DH getting snipped. We will reevaluate in five years. I just wasn't ready to say we were done done. So basically we have five years to win the lottery to even have the choice of going for #3. Realistically though, who knows if I can even have another. We got lucky with #2 I feel as it is! Plus I'll be 37 when my iud expires, and I don't know if I'll feel up to it then. It was exhausting enough at 29 and 32!

[calico]

Uncertain. H is leaning OAD but I am leaning towards a second in a couple years even though we are older. We will discuss later this year or next whether to have another baby. Eta: 2 is my max.

[noodleskooze]

We are certain we want more, but very uncertain of timing and number.

[AmyRI]

Feb 4, 2015 18:49:20 GMT -5 @starry said:

Feb 4, 2015 18:47:15 GMT -5 Brie said:

Fairly uncertain. We haven't talked about 2 vs. 3 yet seriously but I have a feeling it will be a hard choice.

H has said both "when can I schedule my V" and made comments about having a third in the last month, so. Yeah.

I feel like you will have a third, lol

I JUST FEEL IT

Do you feel like I should have a third? lol. Then at least I can tell DH my internet friends decided for us.

We are obviously in the fairly uncertain category today. Tonight's conversation went better than the past few days, which is good. Hopefully better communication and some more time will help us sort it out.

[jenn248]

This kid will be the last. DH is getting snipped after this little guy/gal is born.

[SpartanGirl]

100% done. done. done.

[bbonanza]

99.999999999999999% certain we're three and done since DH had his V last March.

If for some reason that changes, I'll be seeing myself to a corner to rock and cry.

[matildasun]

We are done. I know it is for the best, and it is what I want, but I am still a little sad.

[Velar Fricative]

I am a million bazillion percent certain this baby will be our last.

ETA: I should have mentioned, so is H. Even if he wanted more, too bad so sad, parent who wants fewer wins. But thankfully the first question he asked the OB when we saw him a few days ago was if he knows a decent guy who can snip him (his words).

[timorousbeastie]

We are 100% OAD.

[meij]

I'm sure we are done and I'm AMA now so I don't have years to waffle back and forth.

I know it's the right choice to be done but having DS was kind of healing in a way and makes me a little sad I didn't have my kids close together so I'd have more time for a third.

[loskadoodle]

Fairly uncertain. I never wanted more than 2 until I had my second. We have also discussed fostering and/or adopting.

[water*drop]

Somewhere between very certain and somewhat certain that we'll be done after this pregnancy. We're very certain that unless we come into a VERY large sum of money, we are done. We're pretty certain that even if we come into a very large sum of money, we are done. We're not quite certain enough of that to schedule anything permanent just yet, though.