TR the entire fucking time. It went from him having a bad day and going aw man sorry, what's going on? To him going on about how hurt he is over the breakup. I don't think he's at a place where he wants to be with her, he just has such disbelief over how she treated him and hasn't accepted it all.
I feel like if we'd met a little later this could have been cool. But the fact is, 2/3 of the last guys I've dated, and 2/2 of the last guys I've really really liked, this has happened to. Make that 3/3. I end up being rebound dating for these men and it's really starting to sting.
I mean there's no way I could have known until last night, but it still makes me scratch my head at why I keep ending up with these men.
We had some good conversation about it all, and I feel like maybe if we put a pause on it and maybe when he gets back from tour in a month, touch base? But I don't know.
I wonder if it is because you have the qualities they think will help them get over their ex? Like, you are stable and independent and all that. You are the girl they know they should want and so they go for it thinking it will help the transition rather than transitioning first.
The guy I first dated after XHSBF was like that. He was so perfect, and I was so not over my ex. He was the type of guy I wanted to want, but just wasn't ready to want. The guy I dated after XFI was H. LOL. And I probably was not completely over everything XFI did. I had been in therapy for a year at that point, but, ya know. I tried to stay friends with that douche until H was all, "Why?" and I was all "...I have no idea." LOL.
Post by jojoandleo on Feb 17, 2015 11:30:24 GMT -5
I re-read that and it sounds bad. I mean-You are probably their ideal and they want to be ready for you, but they aren't. But they think if they are with you, maybe that will HELP make them ready. Does that make sense? Words are tough today.
Post by Wrath0fKuus on Feb 17, 2015 18:13:11 GMT -5
This really, possibly irrationally, annoys me. I mean, people can't help how they feel or whatever, but they can help the shit that spews out of their mouths. How do these men not know that it is in-a-fucking-propriate to blather at a date about your ex, regardless of what you're feeling? I mean, really, learn some gd socially appropriate behavior - don't talk about bodily fluids or exes in the best foot forward phase. How hard is it?!
This really, possibly irrationally, annoys me. I mean, people can't help how they feel or whatever, but they can help the shit that spews out of their mouths. How do these men not know that it is in-a-fucking-propriate to blather at a date about your ex, regardless of what you're feeling? I mean, really, learn some gd socially appropriate behavior - don't talk about bodily fluids or exes in the best foot forward phase. How hard is it?!
RIGHT?! I mean, sure I asked how your day was and why it sucked- but that doesn't mean you have to share EVERY.LAST.DETAIL about what your struggles relating to her are.
I'm so angry for you and disappointed!!! I'm so sorry.
This really, possibly irrationally, annoys me. I mean, people can't help how they feel or whatever, but they can help the shit that spews out of their mouths. How do these men not know that it is in-a-fucking-propriate to blather at a date about your ex, regardless of what you're feeling? I mean, really, learn some gd socially appropriate behavior - don't talk about bodily fluids or exes in the best foot forward phase. How hard is it?!
This is exactly what I was thinking as I read through the updates. What the motherfuck? I'm sorry mp, that these dudes are taking advantage of your kind and sympathetic nature. You should just start handing them a card for a therapist when they start unloading.
jenny1980 I'm totally the same way! Strangers never strike up conversation with me.
It's so funny! I have gone on a couple of trips with my aunt and perfect strangers are ALWAYS talking to her, asking for directions, etc. etc. Looking nice sounds like a burden, honestly lol.
Oh I totally agree. My mom is like this. Everyone wants to talk to her. And I also get super annoyed because we will be traveling or something and people will just start talking to her and I'm like STOP! I want to have a conversation with my mom, not my mom and some random stranger about the weather. However I'm totally not a people person so this is probably what also lends itself to my attitude.