OMG. How does she know??? UPDATED

[ECB]

So today my DH and a few neighborhood guys and 2 others are going to the beach for "the day" (meaning they'll be home tomorrow morning). So, I decided to invite the wives of these guys over for a "happy hour playdate" this afternoon. And I invited 2 other women. One's DH was invited to go but can't and the other, well, she's just a good friend who I wanted to include.

SO ANYHOW. I post this morning about DH going to the beach and what DS and I have done so far this morning, including building a fort.

There is a neighbor, Jane, who used to be our DC.  There is a lot of background here but I really used to consider her a friend but 2 summers ago, things got weird with her and while we're friendly with one another, I really don't consider her a friend.  SHe's someone who you want to try and stay on her good side, but at the same time, she's very emotional/reactive about stuff. 

She's also kind of loud and can be abrasive.  Oh- and when she drinks, she gets sloppy drunk.  I actually once posted about her - I don't know if it was on this board or another - but about how she crashed my DHs poker night and made an ASS of herself.  She's also thrown up at 2 other gatherings (one at my house, one at another neighbors). 

I don't know if that background really matters here or not.  Actually, what matters is that she's emotional/reactive and gets really pissy about stuff that really is "uh, o.k.".  I would almost say she wears her heart on her sleeve, but it's in a really, really negative way.  If that makes sense.  Oh - and she's SOOO very easily 'pot meet kettle' about a lot of stuff. 

ANYHOW.  SHe replied to my post to the effect of how I'm preparing for a snow day and "Does this include a happy hour for the neighbors?" with a smiley devil emoti-con. 

I really seriously am like "HOW DOES SHE KNOW??".  Now- this playdate was literally a "who is going on the trip?  I'll invite those wives" and then decided to add in the other 2.  That's it.  There was no thought process of "who do I NOT want to invite?".  It's not a neighborhood thing.  It's just a chance for those of us who are alone to get together and catch up. 

BUT if she does know....  when put to task on this, no, I actually do NOT want to invite her!  I just don't.  BUt if she does know and she isn't invited, I know I'll pay for it somehow. 

I've already decided I'm not inviting her.  And if it comes back on me, I'm just going to stand firm on "It wasn't a neighborhood GTG.  It was just a small thing for those of us who's DHs are gone".  But still.  THERE WILL BE RAMIFICATIONS FOR THIS!!!!!

Fuck me. 

*****

There is actually an update to this idiocy.  So, Beth and Karen come over.  They BOTH, unproked by me, say something about Jane's post.  They absolutely read it too that she knew I was having people over. 

O.k. fine.  Whatever.  

BUT I come to find out Jane is having a "Ladie's Game NIght" next Friday night.  And guess who wasn't invited?!  

OMG.....  The ONLY reason this pisses me off is that she's posting passive aggressive shit when SHE'S the one who is actually excluding ME from shit!   This kills me!!

[tiramisu]

I remember you talking about her. Eww for her trying to invite herself, although from what you've said about her I'm not that surprised.

[partiallysunny]

She's totally got a telescope pointed at your house.

[ECB]

Feb 21, 2015 12:45:00 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

She's totally got a telescope pointed at your house.

I did discover last summer that you can see into our backyard from her front porch. Hard to explain, but when I realized that, I did have a "oh crap" moment.

[tiramisu]

Feb 21, 2015 13:42:48 GMT -5 ECB said:

Feb 21, 2015 12:45:00 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

She's totally got a telescope pointed at your house.

I did discover last summer that you can see into our backyard from her front porch. Hard to explain, but when I realized that, I did have a "oh crap" moment.

You need a nice tall row of cypress trees planted. Or something like that.