H and I live in a home we own. We filed for divorce, I'm leaving, buying a new place. I don't want to move twice so I'm staying put until closing which is a little uncomfortable while we're both here. It's not terrible but I'll be glad to get out. We don't have kids so that's makes it a little smoother I suppose.
How does this work for the not-so-amicable situations? Who left? Where did you/he go?
We decided to separate in Jan, for various reasons he couldn't move out until March 10th. I slept on the couch and he stayed in the bedroom. We still talked in passing and would sometimes watch a tv show together, but that was about it. He moved into his own apartment as scheduled on March 10th.
We owned a home. I left and got an apartment and he stayed at the house until it sold. It was painful paying for half the mortgage and my rent, but it was so worth it.
I left and took an apartment that happened to be available when I left. I had a choice between a place that was cheap but not so nice, or a place that was really nice but at the top of my budget. I took the nice place. Now, a year later, I'm moving to a place I can afford better. I did have to move twice, but I'm happy with my decisions. I was super stressed in my marriage and was having insomnia and other physical symptoms. It was worth it to be able to sleep soundly and de-stress.
First off my stbxh cracked it and left, he stayed with his parents. I was really keen to buy a house somewhere to avoid moving DS twice but in the end a great rental came up and I figured that would give me more time to find something I really loved rather than being forced into something based in what was available at the time.
So we moved about 3 months into the separation and he moved back into the house we own. He will buy me out as part of our settlement.
I am glad we ended up in our rental because I love where we are but I do long to have my own space so I hope it's not too long before I can buy something or maybe start building somewhere. I would probably stay here long term if we could buy it In the meantime I have been thinking about alternative ways I could invest/use my house money which I hadn't considered before.
Post by WinterIsComing on Feb 25, 2015 18:34:27 GMT -5
If the situation isn't amicable, can either of you look at staying somewhere temporarily? Maybe both keep the majority of your stuff at the house but switch off days where you spend the night a friend or family's house?
We both pretty much stayed in the house together until it sold. He moved into his own place a week or two before closing. We had been separated about 5 to 6 weeks and still lived together. It was hard, but our separation was also amicable.
Post by Emerald1486 on Feb 25, 2015 20:47:54 GMT -5
I stayed and he moved out. I was able to afford the house on my own and he was not. For the month between DS was born and XH and I separated, he pretty much lived on the lower level while I lived on the upper level
Our situation is fine, amicable; just a little awkward. I close soon. It just got me thinking what in the hell would I have done if we weren't amicable?! We have no family here.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Feb 25, 2015 21:36:41 GMT -5
Dude, I saw the subject title and totally thought this was someone asking where posters from the board went. Oops!
Anyway.
I was the one who moved out. I wanted the divorce, XH wanted to try to work it out and I was just done. He kept our house, I signed it over, and I moved into an apartment that was closer to my work and our son's day care at the time. Two years after that I moved back up to Cincinnati, because my son has ASD and we needed to be near the children's hospital and I needed my parents' help.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I left. I wanted the divorce but I wanted to just be as far away as possible. I packed a bag, walked out of the house and stayed with a friend for about two weeks. Then I packed up all my shiz and moved back to Portland. It was a crazy quick process!
We continued to live together for 2 months. Then he became unreliable about showing up to take care of our daughter while I worked, so I moved in with my parents. The house was empty for awhile and then he moved back in. We sold it 5 months after I moved out.
My situation was amicable, but I left anyways to keep it that way. I moved to my parents for a few months, then an apartment, and I'm going back to my parents in a few months until a friend of mine can close on her townhouse and then I will rent a room from her. We are finally going to sit down with a mortgage guy in the next few weeks to see if H can buy me out of our house or if we have to sell.
He left (well, he was arrested) and I got a restraining order. I'm still in the house. After he got out of jail, he got all of his personal belongings from either his parents or my parents. He was on his own for finding a place to live.