So I like this boy

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Okay yes I realize it's been two dates, but I really this guy! He's nice, normal and funny. He takes time out of his day to remember me. He sends funny texts and makes it clear he thinks I'm pretty awesome.

This is...weird to me. It's seriously a little difficult to adjust to and believe that someone thinks I'm pretty cool. I don't have the highs with this one. Like when I get a text, I'm happy, but not like butterflies OMG OMG. And I think it's because I'm not sitting here wondering if he WILL text me you know? And then experiencing that excitement that he actually DID. 

It's difficult for me to recognize that this seems to be more like a normal way to go about things. I'm really happy to see and hear from him and I our date on Saturday is something I look forward to. I remember with past guys I'd get a text form them and would literally be dancing around my house. But...I also didn't ever trust that I would get a text for them. It's okay I'm not like dancing around my house and jumping up and down about hearing from this guy right?

[calle28]

Yayyy! What are you guys doing on Saturday?

And yes, it's okay you're not jumping up and down from excitement.

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Thanks all! We're going to like a local version of a Dave & Busters. It was my suggestion. I thought something interactive sounds fun and I love me some skee ball! Plus there is booze and food so you can't go wrong!

[cuddlyevil]

Yes it's okay to not be all bouncy "ZOMG HE TEXTED! " about him.

The calm, quiet kind of happy is a good place to be in.

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Feb 26, 2015 18:50:42 GMT -5 TR said:

Also, I've found that, at times, I think I miss the dizzying highs, but I do NOT miss the heart wrenching lows. At all.

This is where I am. I've never had the dizzying highs turn out well or be sustained. They ALWAYS were followed by low, lows.

[atlas]

Yay! Also, I love those restaurants/bars (if it's the ones I'm thinking of).

Revel in the normal level excitement!!

[1confused1]

Yay!!!

[bl]

Yay this is so exciting! It was totally okay to like him but not have it be an intense omg high everytime he texts.

[mcc]

I"m so happy for you! I agree that it's ok not for things to be "ZOMG jump on a couch". achase said it best when she described it as a slow burn. I've felt that way about the Dentist and its so much more sustainable and healthy.

D&B is fun too!

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Loving this!

[onedayatatime]

So happy for this update!

[starburst604]

So I like this post!

[Deleted]

Okay, Okay. I'm going to take it as it is. And agree this is normal and exciting!!!! For all of you who have been around you know this is kind of a big deal;)

[Deleted]

Sounds normal to me!

Glad that you're happy

[everyjuan]

This is great! He sounds really nice. I'm so glad that you like him and that you're enjoying yourself!

[abcdefu]

Yay!!!! I'm so happy for you, but I'm jealous that you're going to play skeeball! I heart skeeball!

[peppermint]

love this update. let yourself like him - he sounds great!

[seabitch]

Enjoy @pdx18!

[Emerald1486]

Yay!!

[WinterIsComing]

Sounds like it is off to a great start! Definitely agree that consistent happy is better than the extreme highs and lows.

Excited to hear your update after your date Saturday! D&B type places are fun for dates!

[bullygirl979]

I'm happy for you, @pdx18! And yes, it is totally normal not to have the extreme emotions. The fact that you are happy to be in contact with him says something!

[redredwine]

I LOVE this!!

you know, I think your dating hiatus and the focusing on @pdx18 only time really helped the most-you seem like you're in such a good place (even though things like your mom pop up now and then, but that's just life!)
I think this is the way dating SHOULD be-easy peasy, even keel, and just not having to overanalyze things. Sounds like it's all of those things-I love it!!

I can' wait to hear about date #3!

[Wanderista]

I think it sounds great. That's a lot like my relationship with BF. When I met him, I had similar disbelief because it felt different than what I'd experienced before. Calm, happy and enjoyable - kind of a relaxed type of chemistry rather than the Romeo & Juliet type.  I am a lot happier and it feels more sustainable than the types of relationships I got into previously.

So yeah, sounds awesome and healthy. Definitely have fun! 

[jojoandleo]

I am so happy for you. I have come to recognize the butterflies as a bit of ANXIETY. Yes, they are excited anxiety, but still anxiety. I think it is GOOD he doesn't make you feel anxious.

[wampuscat]

Awww, yay!!

[pinkdutchtulips]

this is how BT and I are .... I get a silly smile when I see a text from him, but it's no couch jumping excitement a la tom cruise lol

I chalk it up to the fact that for once I'm NOT preoccupied w/ where its going. the stress of marriage and kids is OFF the table here.

[achase123]

Feb 26, 2015 18:23:50 GMT -5 TR said:

We're singing the same song, sister. 2.5 months later and I still really dig this guy in a nice, calm, comforting way.

Raises hand. This is me 4 months in. Is a very good feeling but not the weird, uneasy feeling I felt with mg. It wasn't a sense of security; Id barely be able to breathe until I heard from him. Then Id see him, feel ok and start feeling anxious again as soon as he left. I could barely even function at work. No thanks!

Now I love how I feel. I feel excited to see J and I count down the days and hours before I see him. I never feel like I'm sick of him. But I also KNOW I'll hear from him and so there's no anxiety. It's a good thing I think!