Post by christidee on Feb 26, 2015 22:22:39 GMT -5
I've got a 'high needs baby.'
The cluster feedings haven't stopped. She nurses around the clock every 30 min - 2 hours.
99% of the time I am the only one who can hold her. If someone else is holding her, she will cry and scream until they give her to me. She will calm down the second I hold her.
She likes to be held 23 hours a day, which still includes sleeping on my chest.
Some days the only way I can shower, brush my teeth, or use the restroom is if she is screaming in her bouncer.
And I'm not taking care of myself. I don't want to leave the house. I don't even want to go outside. The thought of leaving the house terrifies me. I dread the nights
I know it will eventually get easier, but these first few weeks have been terrible. Poor J. I feel so guilty and so bad. The other day he told me that he misses me
I don't want to ask this because I'm assuming you have tried everything and it seems jerky to ask but ... Does she respond to anything - vibration, rocking, shushing, swaddling, swaying? A shirt you wore all day next to her for your smell? Womb sounds and creating a womb like environment ?
I don't want to ask this because I'm assuming you have tried everything and it seems jerky to ask but ... Does she respond to anything - vibration, rocking, shushing, swaddling, swaying? A short you wore all day next to her for your smell? Womb sounds and creating a womb like environment ?
You do not sound jerky at all. She responds well to being worn in her carrier. She hates swaddling, but tonight I am going to try to swaddle her with her arms up. She likes rocking and swaying if I am the one doing it. It's not like she cries all day, it's just that she is mainly only content when she is being 100 percent attended to.
(((Hugs))) I can't even comprehend when people say newborns are easy; those first few months were a walking sleepless nightmare for me. G got better as he got older, but it was so so hard. I hope this stage passes quickly for you.
Post by formerlyllizzyb on Feb 27, 2015 9:10:08 GMT -5
Honey, it is SO tough. So so hard. Please know there are women here who have been there and had probably every thought and frustration you've had. PM me any time. I'll give you my number if you want.
I know it sounds so far away, but it does get better. 6-8 weeks is the peak of fussiness. By 12 weeks you should definitely see her calm down some, and by 4 months she'll be a different baby.
G was and is still high need as an infant and toddler, but it's in totally different and manageable ways.
Oh honey, hugs. A was just like this. It gets better. I found with him everything had to be intense, I guess is the word? To meet his intensity lol. He did well swaddled if we kinda tucked his hands up under his chin so he had his hands if he needed them. Then fast rocking, loud shushing, loud white noise. It really does get better. i don't know if any of this well help with your pretty little lady but figured i would chime in.
Post by skiesthelimit on Feb 27, 2015 9:31:32 GMT -5
I'm sorry Both my kids were high needs. A worse than X. Once we got his reflux meds right he got better, but that was at 5.5 months. They still don't sleep but they've gotten much better. I'm here if you need to vent or talk. Hugs.
Honey, it is SO tough. So so hard. Please know there are women here who have been there and had probably every thought and frustration you've had. PM me any time. I'll give you my number if you want.
I know it sounds so far away, but it does get better. 6-8 weeks is the peak of fussiness. By 12 weeks you should definitely see her calm down some, and by 4 months she'll be a different baby.
G was and is still high need as an infant and toddler, but it's in totally different and manageable ways.
Yes all of this.
The one good thing that came out of a high needs baby is the fact that nothing compares to it once it's over. Seriously. But it's SO hard when you are going through it. Hang in there, there is light
I'm sorry, it's so so hard. I feel like I spent years bouncing on a yoga ball with insanely loud white noise blaring in a dark room. Do what you can to get through it, and every day remind yourself that you are one day closer to normality. Their brains mature and they DO grow out of these intense needs. It was the longest short stretch of time I've ever experienced. Also, moms with difficult babies are much more likely to get PPD, so keep an eye out for that. For me going on zoloft changed my life. I was on it 6 months and weaned with no problems.
Big hugs, C. PM me if you need to or let me know if you want to text.
Post by christidee on Feb 27, 2015 12:26:10 GMT -5
I think it's reflux, ladies. The more I read about it and watch her, it's got to be it. She has spit up several times already today, and it especially happens after she eats and/or after she lies on her back.
I think it's reflux, ladies. The more I read about it and watch her, it's got to be it. She has spit up several times already today, and it especially happens after she eats and/or after she lies on her back.
What did your pedi do for reflux?
Mine put him on a medicine. Zantac, I think. Then one night/morning he wouldn't stop screaming and started spitting up blood so she put him on Zantac and Prilosec. I didn't really like either but we rode through the storm. I noticed more of a difference once we started him on probiotics.
Hair related. I love J's color hair. I think Oliver's is similar. We don't know where he got it from! My H has jet black hair and mine is pretty dark too. Genetics are weird