S/O overconfident men AKA Enginerds are hard to live with

[Scout'sHonor]

How do you deal with guys who think they're the hottest shit around?  Like, can't even follow another conversation b/c they want to tell you how well they would do whatever you're talking about.  And are convinced they're a super star at work, even though they've only been there 1 month. 

This may or may not be H and I may or may not want to shank him.

[forreals]

Haha! This made me laugh!
It reminds me of a new coworker, but she is a female. At least I can go home at night though and not hear it! Haha!

[IIOY]

Feb 27, 2015 11:48:11 GMT -5 Scout'sHonor said:

How do you deal with guys who think they're the hottest shit around?  Like, can't even follow another conversation b/c they want to tell you how well they would do whatever you're talking about.  And are convinced they're a super star at work, even though they've only been there 1 month. 

This may or may not be H and I may or may not want to shank him.

eclaires origami LOLOLOL

Scout'sHonor, does your husband watch a single YouTube video about spackling and decide he could build an entire house by hand with no help?  Does he happen to think the rest of the world is populated by incompetent morons?  And the real question...By any chance is he an engineer?

[ringstrue]

Usually I make snide comments behind their backs?

DH doesn't do this but he does say other untrue/bad perception things. I try to ask him f/u questions about the nature of it to get him to look at it more objectively. But being self reflective is a skill and many people are very bad at listening to themselves.

[MrsAxilla]

I find that leaving DH alone with the kids for several hours knocks him down a peg or two.

[saz]

Feb 27, 2015 11:52:36 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Feb 27, 2015 11:48:11 GMT -5 Scout'sHonor said:

How do you deal with guys who think they're the hottest shit around?  Like, can't even follow another conversation b/c they want to tell you how well they would do whatever you're talking about.  And are convinced they're a super star at work, even though they've only been there 1 month. 

This may or may not be H and I may or may not want to shank him.

eclaires origami LOLOLOL

Scout'sHonor, does your husband watch a single YouTube video about spackling and decide he could build an entire house by hand with no help?  Does he happen to think the rest of the world is populated by incompetent morons?  And the real question...By any chance is he an engineer?

Oh my god, does my husband have other wives I don't know about?

[Scout'sHonor]

Feb 27, 2015 11:52:36 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Feb 27, 2015 11:48:11 GMT -5 Scout'sHonor said:

How do you deal with guys who think they're the hottest shit around?  Like, can't even follow another conversation b/c they want to tell you how well they would do whatever you're talking about.  And are convinced they're a super star at work, even though they've only been there 1 month. 

This may or may not be H and I may or may not want to shank him.

eclaires origami LOLOLOL

Scout'sHonor, does your husband watch a single YouTube video about spackling and decide he could build an entire house by hand with no help?  Does he happen to think the rest of the world is populated by incompetent morons?  And the real question...By any chance is he an engineer?

YES HE IS. HE IS THE BEST GODDAMN ENGINEER THAT INTEL HAS TO OFFER.  PEOPLE COME TOM HIM ALL THE TIME NEEDING HIS ASSISTANCE. 

And lol for days at the spackling, bc yes, he thinks up house projects. But the reality is that he's not as precise when it comes to cutting, gluing, etc, so I end up doing it for him and he's like "I'm so glad I thought of this!" 

[Scout'sHonor]

Feb 27, 2015 11:54:59 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

I find that leaving DH alone with the kids for several hours knocks him down a peg or two.

So having them would help with this?  Hmm, another check for me!

[IIOY]

Ladies, let's recap. The real lesson here is not to marry or be friends with or hang around or associate or even look at male engineers. Those of you fortunate enough not to find yourselves in this situation yet have been warned!

[saz]

Feb 27, 2015 12:04:55 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Ladies, let's recap. The real lesson here is not to marry or be friends with or hang around or associate or even look at male engineers. Those of you fortunate enough not to find yourselves in this situation yet have been warned!

lol. But there are perks, right? My engineer is a mechanical engineer and he does all of our car work. Like rebuild engines and replaced transmissions and stuff. It's amazing. 

Wait....has he brainwashed me?

[eclaires]

OMG MY PEOPLE.

I swear to god, sometimes I think my husband married me just because my brain doesn't work like his. And it's like this challenge to him to somehow optimize me/my life.

He is so unnaturally confident, it drives me up a goddamn wall. The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. So like I can taunt him for being like, "I could make that," but usually he CAN. wtf. It's like God hates me. Not only is he an enginerd, he's a mechanical enginerd (I'm convinced they are the worst), plus his dad is a mechanical enginerd who was raised on a farm. So he spent his whole youth doing everything you could think of around the house. Fixing cars, house maintenance... on the one hand it's great he can do all this shit, on the other, SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE IF HE FAILED.

[Scout'sHonor]

Feb 27, 2015 12:07:10 GMT -5 saz said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:04:55 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Ladies, let's recap. The real lesson here is not to marry or be friends with or hang around or associate or even look at male engineers. Those of you fortunate enough not to find yourselves in this situation yet have been warned!

lol. But there are perks, right? My engineer is a mechanical engineer and he does all of our car work. Like rebuild engines and replaced transmissions and stuff. It's amazing. 

Wait....has he brainwashed me?

That is true, H is electrical, so he's put all our ceiling fans in.  We have a few light switches with motion sensors, so I don't need a free hand when going into the laundry room or down to the basement.  And timers on our outside porch lights, so they're always lit during evening hours. 

[ttt]

This reminds me of how men are much more likely than women to say they're going to beat the market with their investments, yet they're much less likely than women to *actually* beat the market :
blog.sigfig.com/stock-market-trends/could-overconfidence-harm-your-investment-returns/

[Scout'sHonor]

Feb 27, 2015 12:09:31 GMT -5 eclaires said:

OMG MY PEOPLE.

I swear to god, sometimes I think my husband married me just because my brain doesn't work like his. And it's like this challenge to him to somehow optimize me/my life.

[2curlydogs]

I am laughing so hard at this thread. My computer enginerd husband is like this. I cannot count the number of times he's looked at something like an Adirondack chair and been like "I could totally make that."

[saz]

Feb 27, 2015 12:09:31 GMT -5 eclaires said:

OMG MY PEOPLE.

I swear to god, sometimes I think my husband married me just because my brain doesn't work like his. And it's like this challenge to him to somehow optimize me/my life.

He is so unnaturally confident, it drives me up a goddamn wall. The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. So like I can taunt him for being like, "I could make that," but usually he CAN. wtf. It's like God hates me. Not only is he an enginerd, he's a mechanical enginerd (I'm convinced they are the worst), plus his dad is a mechanical enginerd who was raised on a farm. So he spent his whole youth doing everything you could think of around the house. Fixing cars, house maintenance... on the one hand it's great he can do all this shit, on the other, SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE IF HE FAILED.

um.. I think we are married to the same person.

This thread is so nice BTW. We need to create a wives of engineers support group.

[IIOY]

Feb 27, 2015 12:09:31 GMT -5 eclaires said:

The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. 

This is the worst part.  I want to give him hell for being an egomaniac, but he can actually accomplish things so I have no argument.

He did do what I consider to be a sloppy job with about five inches of caulking behind the kitchen sink.  Does this count?

[eclaires]

Feb 27, 2015 12:12:00 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

I am laughing so hard at this thread. My computer enginerd husband is like this. I cannot count the number of times he's looked at something like an Adirondack chair and been like "I could totally make that."

This is seriously a long running joke in our house.   Anything I mention that I might buy or like, "I could make that" is the response from MH.  Or "I'll make you one."  Granted he did make me a beautiful table and some other things, but he says it about completely ridiculous things as well, lol.

The other thing he does that is incredibly annoying is tell me how crappy the kids toys are made.  I DON'T CARE.  They wanted that toy, it's specific to what they like...shut up.

[sugarglider]

Feb 27, 2015 12:04:55 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Ladies, let's recap. The real lesson here is not to marry or be friends with or hang around or associate or even look at male engineers. Those of you fortunate enough not to find yourselves in this situation yet have been warned!

Surgeons as well. ExH is a surgeon who went to an engineering UG. His fiancée is surely a much more patient woman than I.

[2curlydogs]

Feb 27, 2015 12:14:07 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:09:31 GMT -5 eclaires said:

The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. 

This is the worst part.  I want to give him hell for being an egomaniac, but he can actually accomplish things so I have no argument.

He did do what I consider to be a sloppy job with about five inches of caulking behind the kitchen sink.  Does this count?

What drives me insane is that he'll be like "Yeah, I could do that." and then NEVER ACTUALLY DO IT. At least with the woodworking items. I am still waiting for that Adirondack chair, 15 years later.

[orangeblossom]

Is this the thread where we complain about our engineer husbands? If so, I'm in.

I can relate to so much in here. DH is very handy, and can fix just about anything. The only problem with that, is that we frequently have different timelines, and on the rare occasions that he can't, he doesn't know when to quit and hire someone else.

[IIOY]

Feb 27, 2015 12:15:01 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:12:00 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

I am laughing so hard at this thread. My computer enginerd husband is like this. I cannot count the number of times he's looked at something like an Adirondack chair and been like "I could totally make that."

This is seriously a long running joke in our house.   Anything I mention that I might buy or like, "I could make that" is the response from MH.  Or "I'll make you one."  Granted he did make me a beautiful table and some other things, but he says it about completely ridiculous things as well, lol.

The other thing he does that is incredibly annoying is tell me how crappy the kids toys are made.  I DON'T CARE.  They wanted that toy, it's specific to what they like...shut up.

YESSSS the complaints about toys!

[eclaires]

So Scarlett had severe reflux when she was a baby. And we had to thicken her formula with this stuff that was basically goop. That's really the best way to describe it. Anyway, MH, dead serious, comes up to me when she is about 2-3m old and vomiting on me all fucking day every day, and feeding her is a nightmare (because we also had to medicate her but the medicine tastes like complete ass), and says, "Honey, I really think your formula preparation could be optimized. You're really not doing the absolute best job you can do, because I think we could be more efficient. Don't you want to make formula the best way possible?"

I almost killed him. And looking back, I'm not sure how I restrained myself. I probably just spewed f bombs in his face and maybe yelled, "FUCK OPTIMIZATION."

[2curlydogs]

Feb 27, 2015 12:15:01 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:12:00 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

I am laughing so hard at this thread. My computer enginerd husband is like this. I cannot count the number of times he's looked at something like an Adirondack chair and been like "I could totally make that."

This is seriously a long running joke in our house.   Anything I mention that I might buy or like, "I could make that" is the response from MH.  Or "I'll make you one."  Granted he did make me a beautiful table and some other things, but he says it about completely ridiculous things as well, lol.

The other thing he does that is incredibly annoying is tell me how crappy the kids toys are made.  I DON'T CARE.  They wanted that toy, it's specific to what they like...shut up.

We are clearly married to the same man. 

[meshaliuknits]

Feb 27, 2015 12:04:55 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Ladies, let's recap. The real lesson here is not to marry or be friends with or hang around or associate or even look at male engineers. Those of you fortunate enough not to find yourselves in this situation yet have been warned!

*makes mental note to discourage son from engineering*

[IIOY]

Feb 27, 2015 12:16:16 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:14:07 GMT -5 IIOY said:

This is the worst part.  I want to give him hell for being an egomaniac, but he can actually accomplish things so I have no argument.

He did do what I consider to be a sloppy job with about five inches of caulking behind the kitchen sink.  Does this count?

What drives me insane is that he'll be like "Yeah, I could do that." and then NEVER ACTUALLY DO IT. At least with the woodworking items. I am still waiting for that Adirondack chair, 15 years later.

My husband claims he could do it all if I would just let him buy a table saw.  ^o)

[cville]

My husband told me without hesitation that he was certain he was in the top 1% of people in the world in intelligence (it was relevant to the conversation). Then he went on to explain to me that that's not such a big deal because it's 70,000,000 people.


THEN HE EXPLAINED TO ME HOW HE MADE THAT CALCULATION.

Then I killed him.

[eclaires]

In their defense, I do tell my cousin (she's 23 and is working at a company that my husband used to work at - it's full of mechanical enginerds) that engineers make good husbands. Most I know are reliable, responsible and good to have around. They just drive you crazy in the process. I suppose I can accept that because he does all kinds of shit I have no idea how to do nor do I have any interest in. But I will still complain about his personality. lol.

[Scout'sHonor]

Feb 27, 2015 12:19:36 GMT -5 IIOY said:

Feb 27, 2015 12:16:16 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

What drives me insane is that he'll be like "Yeah, I could do that." and then NEVER ACTUALLY DO IT. At least with the woodworking items. I am still waiting for that Adirondack chair, 15 years later.

My husband claims he could do it all if I would just let him buy a table saw. 

*looks in mirror to see IIOY staring back*  the table saw conversation happens every few months around here.

[IIOY]