s/o names - if you are done having kids

[tuck]

Feb 27, 2015 21:36:10 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Feb 27, 2015 21:25:23 GMT -5 betsyray said:

lolaburns, I keep trying to tell myself I have time (which I do) but I worry I will regret losing the benefits of two close together in age. I could go back to work in a year or two unless I have another...but would I regret having one or just not having one? Ugh. It's so hard to know when you're done.

Yeah I don't really want to have a 5+-year spread between my oldest and youngest.

Plus I worry about E being a middle kid or one of them being left out.

Um... just so you know, my seven year old watched my six month old while I slept in today. That's probably flameful, but...

There are benefits to a big gap.

[nannerl]

I will be pushing any of my names on my future nieces, nephews, and grandchildren.

[skwcm80]

I don't have anymore names.

L's name is the perfect combination of honoring my heritage and having a nn that so she get made fun of like I was. We obviously could not come up a name that fit the same parameters for Alex.

[fryjack2]

I had spontaneous twin boys.

That was enough to scare me from even daydreaming about having a girl. I'm barely keeping it together these days and can't imagine throwing another kid into the mix.

Maybe one day I will get to use Kai (its my boy and girl name) on a mini pony.

[dojo]

I know my girl name because we would name her after my mom - Jacqueline - I just love that name. I can't imagine a third boy at this point!

[fryjack2]

I was thinking about how old I was when I had the boys (32) and how it made me a little sad.

I feel like I won't have a lot of time with my potential future grandchildren if the boys don't have kids until they are in their mid 30s (H was 36 when the boys were born) or I will be too old to be a fun Gma.

If they have a kid at 32, I'll be 74 when the kid is 10. 89 when they are 25. I may not even be alive for their wedding if they get married at 30

[rjamz]

If my next one is a boy I'll just keep going until Elizabeth Kate is born, dammit!

[lolaburns]

My mom's parents were older. I had tons of fun with them.

[lolaburns]

Feb 27, 2015 22:53:29 GMT -5 rjamz said:

If my next one is a boy I'll just keep going until Elizabeth Kate is born, dammit!

I fully support a huge bunch of Rjamz babies .

[rjamz]

Feb 27, 2015 22:55:12 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Feb 27, 2015 22:53:29 GMT -5 rjamz said:

If my next one is a boy I'll just keep going until Elizabeth Kate is born, dammit!

I fully support a huge bunch of Rjamz babies .

I grew up friends with a boy who was one of 6 boys. After 6 his mom gave up. He now has 2 little girls and they are the most doted upon little darlings.

This to say, I may stop before 6 boys.

My brother was also friends with one of them. He always came home with bruises and exhausted, lol

[fryjack2]

Feb 27, 2015 22:53:34 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

My mom's parents were older. I had tons of fun with them.

I think its not so much the fun part as much as the not getting to see them grow up and have families.  Like, I wonder if I will ever meet my great grandchildren.

My grandmother is 89 and still lives by herself.  Her oldest greats are 6.  Women on my moms side live into their late 90s.  So maybe I will too.

[fryjack2]

Feb 27, 2015 22:53:29 GMT -5 rjamz said:

If my next one is a boy I'll just keep going until Elizabeth Kate is born, dammit!

Did I miss something?

[rjamz]

Feb 27, 2015 22:57:49 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Feb 27, 2015 22:53:29 GMT -5 rjamz said:

If my next one is a boy I'll just keep going until Elizabeth Kate is born, dammit!

Did I miss something?

Nope just lots of hope and negative pee sticks.

[fryjack2]

rjamz. I'm sorry I hope it happens for you soon.

[rjamz]

Feb 27, 2015 23:01:41 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

rjamz. I'm sorry I hope it happens for you soon.

There's still some hope this cycle! I'm not totally sure when I ovulated so I may just be testing too early!

The worst part of not knowing is that H's schedule requests for next year were due last night and we didn't know when he needs to take vacation/electives. Hopefully he's not on some crazy rotation when I'm due!

[lolaburns]

I feel like being able to meet your great grandchildren is a very special and possibly rare gift. Only one of my grandparents got to meet my children. I only got to meet one of mine. My H didn't know any of his. I try not to think about it because that is truly soooo far away!

[carawestt]

Feb 27, 2015 22:06:08 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Feb 27, 2015 21:59:51 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Yes.

I also irrationally worry about H getting even less attention vs her requirements and spending her life on the pole. Well not really but some kind of severe acting out. I'm glad she gets the humbling experience of a sibling but I don't think she would have longed for a sibling had she never had one. Whereas, I think D is really suited to be a little sister and needs the companionship. But she also needs a lot of ME and she doesn't share me well. Ok, I'm verging on rambling.

I feel like this too. Like exactly, well minus Lincoln possibly being a stripper in the future . Lincoln isn't pushed to the back burner by any means but Calvin needs me more right now and is very clingy.

[fryjack2]

Feb 27, 2015 23:03:38 GMT -5 rjamz said:

Feb 27, 2015 23:01:41 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

rjamz. I'm sorry I hope it happens for you soon.

There's still some hope this cycle! I'm not totally sure when I ovulated so I may just be testing too early!

The worst part of not knowing is that H's schedule requests for next year were due last night and we didn't know when he needs to take vacation/electives. Hopefully he's not on some crazy rotation when I'm due!

How many people are in his program?  I bet someone will switch a week or a few days with him if need be!

[rjamz]

Feb 27, 2015 23:21:32 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Feb 27, 2015 23:03:38 GMT -5 rjamz said:

There's still some hope this cycle! I'm not totally sure when I ovulated so I may just be testing too early!

The worst part of not knowing is that H's schedule requests for next year were due last night and we didn't know when he needs to take vacation/electives. Hopefully he's not on some crazy rotation when I'm due!

How many people are in his program?  I bet someone will switch a week or a few days with him if need be!

50? More? You're probably right!

[carawestt]

Feb 27, 2015 23:12:44 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

I feel like being able to meet your great grandchildren is a very special and possibly rare gift. Only one of my grandparents got to meet my children. I only got to meet one of mine. My H didn't know any of his. I try not to think about it because that is truly soooo far away!

I met one of mine but I don't remember it, I was 1. My mom's parents are still alive (they're early-mid 80's) as well as my H's maternal grandmother (she is mid 80s). Lincoln has only met my grandparents 3x though, they have yet to meet Calvin but will next week.

[DesertMoon]

I'll never be happy without using my dream girl name, but I'm so effing good on having no more kids.

[fusion]

I'm good with not using Alice 7 days until H's vasectomy and I am AMPED!

[teamhayes]

Cry hourly for he loss of my baby girl names and mother daughter activity and dresses and curls and Mary janes and on ms in and on wahhhbhhhhhhhhhbbbbbbb the world is missing our bc I would be the best girl Mom evet

[melmon0417]

Well, A was the only girl name we ever had picked out. So, nothing to deal with there.

Maximus was our boy name. I love it so much, but I have come to peace with the fact that we will never use the name. It's okay. I can't see myself having a son now, anyway.

[jsillyfun]

I like the name William but it's what dh and I agreed on and not necessarily my favorite all time name. I would have been really sad not to get to use Clara though.