Post by pinkpeony6210 on Feb 28, 2015 7:18:35 GMT -5
I mentioned that DH and I were going to start TTC #3 in a randoms thread the other day, but after a long talk, we've put it on hold for another 2-3 years. I'd be 35 or 36, Kate would be entering kindergarten, and Ella would be in second grade, leaving quite the age gap in between the newbie and his/her sisters. I never thought I'd want to enter the newborn phase again when they're that old and independent, but I'm content with our decision. Plus, I'd be able to leave my job and stay home, so no daycare costs, and I'll be able to get the girls on and off the bus. I also never saw myself being 35 or 36 and having my last baby, but again, after talking, I'm completely okay with it. People are totally going to think we're crazy for waiting, but it also allows us to find a bigger home, and save for when I'm out of work.
So, getting back to the original question, what is your cut off age for having kids?
Most likely 38. Right now I'm one and done, but starting to come around to the possibility of another. My husband is ready whenever I am. I'm 36 so need to kind of be okay either way.
Probably between 40-42. I was 37 when G was born and frankly I can't handle that level of sleep deprivation again. Maybe if we had a better sleeper the first time I would feel differently. I do wish occasionally that G had a sibling, but mama's tired!
We are done, but if I were to put an age on it I suppose 40 ( I'm 37 now). I'm very glad I had my kids "later" and had lots of child free time and marriage to enjoy first, but man I'm tired now, lol.
I don't know. I turn 30 in a couple of weeks and I've been thinking about this stuff. Probably 35 because we started relatively young and I would like to have grown up no kid time by 55.
Post by livinreality on Feb 28, 2015 8:39:45 GMT -5
Tentatively 35, but that is the age my DH mentioned, but with difficulty TTC I wouldn't mind push it back but DH is 4 years older than me so he would probably say 40 for him.
I would really have loved kids closer in age but am determined that whatever gap we end up with will work for our family.
Post by ivegotthemunchkins on Feb 28, 2015 8:40:38 GMT -5
We will be TTC in the next couple of months. If all goes according to plan, I'll be 33 when #2 is born. So I'll say 33 is my max. We will be done after 2 kids.
I had Taj at 38 and we're done, but I don't have a cut-off. If I change my mind in a few years and I feel up to a newborn, we'll try again (lord help us). We have good neighborhood friends who are 45 and just had their second (4 year age gap) and they don't seem any more tired than we are. Which is to say, pretty damn tired.
30, I got married young and I don't want to have another so much later than my others, Julian would be 16 if I had one at 40...idk I'm just done, I don't want to change diapers after 30, I wanna wear clothes that fit and don't have spit up on them, and possibly have a career.
Post by Regina Philange on Feb 28, 2015 9:03:43 GMT -5
30. Only because we are done after this baby. I sometimes do imagine what a third would be like. Would it be a boy or a girl? What would their personality be like? But that's crazy, because I don't even know what this one will be like yet.
We're done now, but I think I would stop at 40 otherwise. I wouldn't want to make the decision try again when the chances of struggling with IF get so much higher.
Mine was 30. Lol. I wanted to be totally done beforebi even turned 30. Soooo yeah. Not going to happen considering I'm 30 now. I honestly don't have an age in mind anymore. I think a lot will depend on my fertility and how easily I can get pregnant next time. My OB said I should only have one more kid myself, but we are also open to adoption. I also don't have a set number of kids I'm committed to having. If we have 2 and I feel done, then I'm fine with that. If we have a third and still don't feel done at all and are financially able to, we want to adopt as well. Or if we can't get pregnant with a third also.
Post by thedahliharpa on Feb 28, 2015 9:32:17 GMT -5
DH is almost 41 and done. The thought of not being around for weddings and grand kids is a factor in his being done. I'm 35 but would consider it for a couple more years if he was younger.
Post by creamsiclechica on Feb 28, 2015 9:47:38 GMT -5
35 for me, I just turned 32. As of right now, we are done, but our decision is mostly based on instability of the Army and financial reasons. But, we may still adopt, and that would happen after we leave HI, which wouldn't be for another 3 years. That's not exactly starting over, but changes the dynamic some?