Post by blondemoment123 on Mar 1, 2015 10:53:24 GMT -5
It's raining again today and I wanted to go on a run with H since he's off. Instead I'm in bed with my kitties drinking coffee.
Oh, and we're looking at a new rental house. It's only $100 more a month and I love the layout. The only problem is that my CW'ers cousin is getting evicted from it so its a somewhat awkward situation.
Oddly enough i am pretty content. I am snuggling under a blanket on my couch with the kitties watching the bachelor drinking coffee during a snowstorm.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
My poor baby is puking every 30 minutes or so, and has been since 4 a.m. She's gone through every sleeper she owns. At least she'll take water, but I'm worried about her.
This is so mean, but I have to get it out: one of my sisters (I have 4; we are all crazy in our own way) just WILL NOT STOP TALKING.
I dread talking with her on the phone because she's one of those people who doesn't stop, doesn't pause, ignores repeated "well, I should get goings" to launch into yet another endless story. ..
And the thing is, she is the sweetest, most generous person, so I really want to want to talk with her. She has good stuff to say, and she's also kind of the information keeper for the family. So I like to check in with her periodically, but then it's at least an hour listening to a monologue.
This should probably be a confession, or a flameful.
This is so mean, but I have to get it out: one of my sisters (I have 4; we are all crazy in our own way) just WILL NOT STOP TALKING.
I dread talking with her on the phone because she's one of those people who doesn't stop, doesn't pause, ignores repeated "well, I should get goings" to launch into yet another endless story. ..
And the thing is, she is the sweetest, most generous person, so I really want to want to talk with her. She has good stuff to say, and she's also kind of the information keeper for the family. So I like to check in with her periodically, but then it's at least an hour listening to a monologue.
This should probably be a confession, or a flameful.
This is my MIL. My H ended up on the phone with her for 105 minutes last night listening to her house buying advice.
My father (S) died at the beginning of February. His body was discovered days after the massive heart attack. My sister and I will be traveling to Florida this coming weekend to try to find his Will and get things with the probate court started; I don't know how I feel about dealing with this stuff on his behalf. He left my family when I was 2 (sister was a year) and he never looked back.
I am not mourning his passing, the person, as I don't even know him, more the permanent break of a biological connection to a person responsible for me being alive. Mourning what might have or could have been, I have three pictures of us together. Three! My sister? She has zero. Zero photos of herself with our father. It's really fucking me up.
His second wife called me 2 weeks ago after trying for 2 weeks to find me; she and S had been divorced 20+ years but the neighbor (J) called her when his body was discovered. I am grateful for everything she's done to get in touch with us and she's paying for the cremation (she is the life insurance beneficiary), she didn't need to do that.
S has 1 living sister, and her 3 (adult) children. My aunt has asked if she can have the house (LOL for days, see also: no) and has a long list of things she wants from his belongings, things that may or may not have been their mother's and such. We cannot have full access to his home until probate is settled (as I understand it), so a detective will meet us at the house while we snoop through his things in search of the Will. The aunt, my mother, the ex-wife, they all want to come with my sister and me to the house. Hey, Rubberneckers you can't touch anything, you can't HAVE anything, wtf.
I just want to be left alone with my sister to get this part accomplished. I am anxious about being in his house, he's a virtual stranger to both of us (maybe that's a positive?) but also? He fucking died in there. And it's been almost a month that the house has been closed up and J says that in the last year, S had stopped taking care of himself, his home, his property, it's all gone to shit. So I'm an asshole because I am selfishly worrying about what we're in store for and not that this man who was once my father has died. The neighbor already said he'd meet us there with "masks and gloves" - eep. :/
this is long, sorry, I just need to dump it.
I don't want to do this, don't want to deal with it. I don't want the responsibility, and I don't want to feel sad about this stuff. Shitfuckdammitall.
@fflychaser I'm a little confused. Did you even have a relationship with this man? If not, why are you handing his estate? Why not let your aunt have the house and deal with everything else?
Post by prettyinpink on Mar 1, 2015 12:27:53 GMT -5
I'm pretty content today. Dh and I are in a much better place than a year and a half ago and we are both getting better about voicing our needs and concerns with each other.
My only whine is I have SO much to do for school. So so much and I don't want to do any of it.
@fflychaser I'm a little confused. Did you even have a relationship with this man? If not, why are you handing his estate? Why not let your aunt have the house and deal with everything else?
No, we didn't.
Florida law as we have been advised states if there is no Will, my sister and I, as his children, are the beneficiaries.
We were told by the police officer assigned to his case that she and I are the only ones who can be granted chaperoned access to his home right now, and only to search for the Will.
Oddly enough i am pretty content. I am snuggling under a blanket on my couch with the kitties watching the bachelor drinking coffee during a snowstorm.
Oddly, I feel the same today. Ethan threw up and we had to cut our weekend shirt. But we are almost home, I can get unpacked early and just chill.
DH has been OOT more than he's been home in the last two months. So much of it has been over weekends, and with snow days, the kids and I are just tired of each other's company. I just want one normal week where everyone goes to school/daycare/work regularly, and we can maybe leave the house on the weekend. Even better would be DH home for a decent amount of time to give me some room to freaking breathe.
Post by averyjessup on Mar 1, 2015 12:46:37 GMT -5
I moved into a new house on Wednesday and my sensitive to begin with dog is having horrible separation anxiety and has been crying when I leave. I went over to the neighbor and introduced myself and explained that it would take a little while for him to get used to the new house, but they are being such assholes about it. I know it's annoying but I'm trying to fix it. On top of that it's a teeeeny tiny house and a complete fixer upper so I'm in the middle of a disaster area and I'm so overwhelmed, I just want to curl up and cry.
Post by messykitchen on Mar 1, 2015 12:58:45 GMT -5
I am so sick. I have no idea why. I was fine at 5, and by 7 last night I was throwing up in a bucket while sitting on the toilet and it hasn't stopped. My stomach is so sore from all the puking, and I threw my back out. I am so miserable. I finally gave up and slept on the couch with a bucket next to me.
My kid is awesome. He keeps bringing me cold towels and emptying my bucket for me. I really lucked out with him. He turns 16 this month and this ALMOST makes me want to get him a car. Almost.
Post by whiskeyandwine on Mar 1, 2015 13:57:39 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Miso and FFlychaser.
My H is working too much these days. I am worried there won't be time to get everything done before the baby comes.
Also, he scheduled a work event for 4 days past the due date. You know, because the baby will be 4 days old by then so he and I will be fine for a few hours, right?
I'm sorry to hear that, Miso. I hope his doctors have a good and effective treatment plan in place for him.
Ffly, I hope you and your sister get through this on; I'm glad you have each other and can fend off the aunts. Can she have the house?! WTF is wrong with her?