I went to the grocery store on Friday and did a major shop. I had to go back TWICE yesterday because I was overcharged for things. The first, I got 2 New York Strips that were on sale. I realized he gave me the correct meat, but charged me for beef tenderloin. Um, no. LOL
THEN! I had bought a stuffed bell pepper for my H and when I pulled it out to cook, realized that the dude put the sticker for my chicken on the pepper package (he had also put the correct sticker on my actual chicken) so instead of $3.99 for the pepper, I was charged almost $18. Again, um, no.
I know it was an accident but I was seriously annoyed, especially since I had to bring the kids with me each time, and also learned that I have to check everything as soon as it's handed to me at the butcher!
@fflychaser I'm a little confused. Did you even have a relationship with this man? If not, why are you handing his estate? Why not let your aunt have the house and deal with everything else?
You have been /COMBATIVE lately, or maybe it's always.
@misoangry - I'm so sorry, do they have a plan yet?
@ffychaser - big hugs, how difficult.
This wasn't meant to be combative at all. If I was asked to handle the estate of someone I had no relationship with, and someone else (aunt) wanted to be involved, and it was causing me stress, I'd just let the aunt take the house and handle everything.
I'm so sorry, @misoangry. My dad was treated for a similar stage of prostate cancer 10 years ago and is doing great now. I'd be happy to talk to you about the process anytime if you want.
My whine is that I'm siiiiiick. H is OOT for work for the next two weeks, so I've been trying to solo parent, keep the house from turning into a disaster zone (in fear that our new cleaning lady will quit if the second time she visits it looks like a tornado hit), and rest all weekend. I'm doing great at the first two, not so much on the third. My kids are being real troopers, likely because I've been bribing them with movies and gummi bears, but I really just want to feel better like now.
H saw another ortho specialist on Friday and was told he has to slow down a bit with work, and that he likely only has 10-15 years left of being able to do physical labour type work. I'm glad someone finally gave him a time line, but fuck. This sucks. I wish there was something we could do that would make us both better.
rosiebear, right? I almost laughed but turned it into a cough so as not to seem rude when she said it.
@lorelaireadsagain I did read you as combative when I read your question, but I don't think you necessarily meant it the way it came across so I didn't lead with that. My aunt wants to be involved to the extent she could get her hands on whatever money he may have, whether it be through inheritance or actual cash/valuables around the house; she and my father had been estranged for many years, too.
It isn't as simple as the way I described things, but that is because the backstory is complex and would be a wall of text. I do see where you were coming from with the inquiry though. I'd maybe wonder the same if I wasn't myself in this situation.
I hope treatment goes well @misoangry. A few of the doctors I worked with often said prostate is often a cancer you die with, not from. I hope this is the case for him, and he has plenty of good years to come.
@lorelaireadsagain I did read you as combative when I read your question, but I don't think you necessarily meant it the way it came across so I didn't lead with that. My aunt wants to be involved to the extent she could get her hands on whatever money he may have, whether it be through inheritance or actual cash/valuables around the house; she and my father had been estranged for many years, too.
It isn't as simple as the way I described things, but that is because the backstory is complex and would be a wall of text. I do see where you were coming from with the inquiry though. I'd maybe wonder the same if I wasn't myself in this situation.
It absolutely wasn't meant as an attack on you. I have a parent I'm estranged from and when she dies, I will not be involved with her estate. It took me a while to come to that decision but for me, it was very freeing. I don't have to worry about the vultures picking at the remains of her life. I realize that's my decision and not right for everyone; but in the situation you described where it sounded like you had no good memories or anything of sentiment you wanted from this person, my first thought was to just let it all go. If I hurt your feelings I am sorry.
I will vent (again) that I am sick for the fucking second time this month. And I feel like this time was worst than last time. I had about a week of feeling good/back to normal, and then BOOM. Sore throat. And a few days later, full on cold/sinus infection.
I also am going to vent about the fucking weather. We got about 4 more inches of snow overnight. I had my heart set on spending my birthday hiking (3/22), but at this rate, I don't think we'll be rid of the snow and the trails will be too slick. I am disappointed
I think I'm getting (or already am) sick. I went in to work today and just couldn't. Then I gave up and came home and slept for 2.5 (not like me at all). Ugh. Still so tired.
We went to go see a house today that looked perfect on paper and in pictures. It's the same floor plan as what we have, but with a bigger kitchen and an extra garage stall (which is exactly what we're looking for). It was only 5 years old, but the house was basically trashed. The agent at the open house said, "oh! Don't mind the large stains on the carpet. It was just professionally cleaned and the stains must have been in the padding. They weren't there before the cleaning! Oops!" Umm...gross! This is why I care deeply if there has been a pet in the house before!
The house was only 5 years old. HOW do you destroy a house in 5 years???
Oh, and I got home, made up a budget & realized we can't afford a different house anyway.
It absolutely wasn't meant as an attack on you. I have a parent I'm estranged from and when she dies, I will not be involved with her estate. It took me a while to come to that decision but for me, it was very freeing. I don't have to worry about the vultures picking at the remains of her life. I realize that's my decision and not right for everyone; but in the situation you described where it sounded like you had no good memories or anything of sentiment you wanted from this person, my first thought was to just let it all go. If I hurt your feelings I am sorry.
Oh no, my feelings weren't hurt, I'm fine! I appreciate the follow-up and your perspective. It actually never occurred to me that I would be involved to any extent, like it just didn't register that someday this day would come. It was an unexpected phone call from his ex-wife, and I admit I never even considered that I didn't have to get involved, I've always kind of just done what's expected or asked of me.
I need to be more aware of that, and if it gets to be too much, I can walk away.
RoxMonster maybe you never really got done being sick, I'd probably see my doctor, just in case.
I did go to the doctor the last time I was sick. He said it was a virus and he couldn't do anything for me, but knowing that I often get sinus infections, he wrote me a script for medicine and told me I could take it if I felt it turning into one. I didn't because I started feeling better. I still have the meds and could take them if I feel like it's becoming an infection (for those who responded to my post last night--I never ended up taking them b/c I fell asleep!)
But I do agree that if I am still feeling poorly in a couple days, I will need to go back in. I just hate hate walk-in clinics after hours because of the long waits and I really can't stand to miss more work
I did go to the doctor the last time I was sick. He said it was a virus and he couldn't do anything for me, but knowing that I often get sinus infections, he wrote me a script for medicine and told me I could take it if I felt it turning into one. I didn't because I started feeling better. I still have the meds and could take them if I feel like it's becoming an infection (for those who responded to my post last night--I never ended up taking them b/c I fell asleep!)
But I do agree that if I am still feeling poorly in a couple days, I will need to go back in. I just hate hate walk-in clinics after hours because of the long waits and I really can't stand to miss more work
if you have the meds, maybe confirm with your doc tomorrow and take them, nip whatever may be brewing. I wouldn't want to go to a minute-clinic either, not with a history of chronic sinus infections. Hope you feel better
My h is having major surgery tomorrow (had his Colon out in December after severe pain for months, this surgery is to make a j-pouch with his intestine). Mil will be there which I get (he's her baby and she wants to be there), but now so are his grandparents and his dad will be there when he wakes up. He was in really rough shape after the last one (like I only stayed 2 minutes-just to see him) and I don't want him to be overwhelmed. I know they care but I just want it to be me and I'm getting overwhelmed at the thought of having to deal with them for ten hours.
My h is having major surgery tomorrow (had his Colon out in December after severe pain for months, this surgery is to make a j-pouch with his intestine). Mil will be there which I get (he's her baby and she wants to be there), but now so are his grandparents and his dad will be there when he wakes up. He was in really rough shape after the last one (like I only stayed 2 minutes-just to see him) and I don't want him to be overwhelmed. I know they care but I just want it to be me and I'm getting overwhelmed at the thought of having to deal with them for ten hours.
All the best wishes for a successful procedure! Can you enlist the help of his nursing staff to limit one person (you) in for at least the first several hours (if not at least the first day)? Maybe his mom or dad can come in when you need to take a break.
You could have something like a noravirus. I had this last April, and was fine just like you and then BAM 2 hours later was a miserable train wreck.
I hope your feel better soon.
My H thinks we (and 7 of our good friends) got that/the stomach flu at what is being called the infamous Super Bowl party of 2015. Ugh, it was horrible. Within 48 hours of the party all nine of us were so sick.
Feel better soon messykitchen. Also, you have an awesome son. :Y:
Alex - What're your plans for the end of March? DH has been working mandatory overtime 7 days/week lately and was telling me yesterday you can just see how physically (and mentally) drained everyone is.
Sleep. I plan to sleep for as many hours as I can. And probably spend a lot of OT money on fun things. Last year we blew it all on a huge shopping trip down to the US. This year I'm not so sure.